Among the many individuals who battle severe asthma, Black women face a unique set of challenges. It's not uncommon for us to go years without a proper diagnosis, and finding the right treatment often requires some trial and error. Thankfully, all hope is not lost for those who may be fighting to get their severe asthma under control. We spoke with Juanita Brown Ingram, Esq. and Jania Watson, two inspiring Black women who have been living with severe asthma and have found strength, resilience, and a sense of purpose in their journeys.
Juanita Brown Ingram, Esq.
Juanita Ingram has a resume that would make anyone’s jaw drop. On top of being recently crowned Mrs. Universe, she’s also an accomplished attorney, filmmaker, and philanthropist. From the outside, it seems there’s nothing this talented woman won’t try, and likely succeed at. In her everyday life, however, Juanita exercises a lot more caution. From a young age, Juanita has struggled with severe asthma. Her symptoms were always exacerbated by common illnesses like a cold or flu. “I've heard these stories of my breathing struggles, but I remember distinctly when I was younger not being able to breathe every time I got a virus,” says Ingram. “I remember missing a lot of school and crying a lot because asthma is painful. I [was taken] to see my doctor often if I got sick with anything so I was hypervigilant as a child, and I still am.”
Today, Juanita says her symptoms are best managed when she’s working closely with her care team, avoiding getting sick and staying ahead of any symptoms. Ingram said she’s been blessed with skilled doctors who are just as vigilant of her symptoms as she is. While competing in the Mrs. Universe competition, Juanita took extra care to stay clear of other competitors to ensure she didn’t catch a cold or virus that would trigger her severe asthma. “I would stand off to the side and sometimes that could be taken as ‘oh, she thinks she's better than everybody else.’ But if I get sick during a pageant, I'm done. I had to compete with that in mind because my sickness doesn't look like everybody else's sickness.”
Even when her symptoms are under control, living with severe asthma still presents challenges. Juanita relies on her strong support system to overcome the hurdles caused by a lack of understanding from the public, “I think that there's a lot of lack of awareness about how serious severe asthma is. I would [also] tell women to advocate and to trust their intuition and not to allow someone to dismiss what you're experiencing.”
Jania Watson
Jania, a content creator from Atlanta, Georgia, has been living with severe asthma for many years. Thanks to early testing by asthma specialists, Jania was diagnosed with severe asthma as a child after experiencing frequent flare-ups and challenges in her day-to-day life. “I specifically remember, I was starting school, and we were moving into a new house. One of the triggers for me and my younger sister at the time were certain types of carpets. We had just moved into this new house and within weeks of us being there, my parents literally had to pay for all new carpet in the house.”
As Jania grew older, she was suffering from fewer flare-ups and thought her asthma was well under control. However, a trip back to her doctor during high school revealed that her severe asthma was affecting her more than she realized. “That was the first time in a long time I had to do a breathing test,” she describes. “The doctor had me take a deep breath in and blow into a machine to test my breathing. They told me to blow as hard as I could. And I was doing it. I was giving everything I got. [My dad and the doctor] were looking at me like ‘girl, stop playing.’ And at that point [it confirmed] I still have severe asthma because I've given it all I got. It doesn't really go away, but I just learned how to help manage it better.”
Jania recognizes that people who aren’t living with asthma, may not understand the disease and mistake it for something less serious. Or there could be others who think their symptoms are minor, and not worth bringing up. So, for Jania, communicating with others about her diagnosis is key. “Having severe asthma [flare-ups] in some cases looks very similar to being out of shape,” she said. “But this is a chronic illness that I was born with. This is just something that I live with that I've been dealing with. And I think it's important for people to know because that determines the next steps. [They might ask] ‘Do you need a bottle of water, or do you need an inhaler? Do you need to take a break, or do we need to take you to the hospital?’ So, I think letting the people around you know what's going on, just in case anything were to happen plays a lot into it as well.”
Like Juanita, Jania’s journey has been marked by ups and downs, but she remains an unwavering advocate for asthma awareness and support within the Black community. She hopes that her story can be an inspiration to other women with asthma who may not yet have their symptoms under control. “There's still life to be lived outside of having severe asthma. It is always going to be there, but it's not meant to stop you from living your life. That’s why learning how to manage it and also having that support system around you, is so important.”
By sharing their journeys, Juanita and Jania hope to encourage others to embrace their conditions, obtain a proper management plan from a doctor or asthma specialist like a pulmonologist or allergist, and contribute to the improvement of asthma awareness and support, not only within the Black community, but for all individuals living with severe asthma.
Read more stories from others like Juanita and Jania on Amgen.com, or visit Uncontrolled Asthma In Black Women | BREAK THE CYCLE to find support and resources.
Bumble released their annual predictions for what dating will look like in 2024, and based on extensive research of roughly 26,000 survey takers, get ready! Amid the dating trends, the upcoming year will have you unabashedly prioritizing yourself. Coined the “year of self,” singles are expected to date someone who aligns with their core values–emotional, social, political, and more–while rejecting societal norms such as old-school dating timelines.
As you prepare your heart’s desire for love, update your empowering morning affirmations, set clear intentions, and assemble the crafts and magazine cutouts for your vision board, here are the dating trends you can anticipate for 2024.
8 2024 Dating Trends, According to Bumble
As you prepare for the new year, here are the dating trends you can anticipate in love in 2024.
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Traditional Dating Timelines and Expectations are Withering
The front of your fridge is likely plastered in save-the-dates for a slew of weddings, and thus, it might seem as though everyone and their momma is getting married. But women are increasingly eschewing the tradition of marriage while still longing for commitment. Only 23 percent of women are seeking marriage, however, and eye-opening, 72 percent of women are seeking a long-term relationship, according to Bumble.
And many women are shaking up tradition when it comes to jumping the broom instead of according to the timeline of societal expectations. Only 31 percent of women are no longer focused on complying with these relationship milestones, and nearly half (16 percent) are willing to avoid friends and family who apply pressure on women to achieve these milestones. Because…healthy boundaries.
Widening the Age Gap
The 90s changed the cultural zeitgeist and shaped what a flourishing love without limits could look like with the awe-inspiring debut of How Stella Got Her Groove Back. And the freedom of choosing whom to date without the strains of ageism, is expected to deepen through 2024 as daters are broadening their age range desires. Women happen to be at the heart of the change.
Bumble says, a whopping 63 percent of women believe age isn’t a defining factor when dating, while 59 percent of women have expanded their horizons, saying they’re open to dating someone younger. And 35 percent of women are admitting to becoming less judgmental towards age-gap relationships over the last year. As Aaliyah melodiously imprinted us with her hit song, “Age Ain’t Nothing but a Number.” And that could surely be the anthem for 2024.
Quality Trumps Quantity
From social media to scores of dating apps, technology has provided singles with an array of options, but quality is the key ingredient for the secret recipe of building and sustaining long-lasting relationships. Dating apps are often touted as a “numbers game,” however, in an effort to find both a quality partner and to better protect their mental health, 31 percent of daters are engaging in “slow dating” and being considerate of how often they’re going on dates, as told by Bumble.
Slow dating is people taking the time to get to know each other and build a connection before deciding if they want to pursue the relationship or meet in person.
In fact, 58 percent of singles are more open about their mental health with friends, family, and partners. As for the caliber of attributes singles are searching for, 36 percent of women are seeking people who practice and value self-care. While it may often feel like it truly is a numbers game in these elusive dating streets, rest assured that seeking a high-quality partner is on the rise for 2024.
Slow dating is people taking the time to get to know each other and build a connection before taking the next step.
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Emotional Intimacy is Just as Important as Sexual Intimacy
What’s equally as gratifying as sexual intimacy, if not more? Emotional intimacy. Proving that substance is still valued when it comes to dating, Bumble says that 78 percent of women believe that their partner having an understanding of both emotional and physical intimacy is paramount. Relishing in safety, security, and mutual understanding is critical for singles seeking romantic connection.
Over a third of singles believe that emotional intimacy is now more important and attractive than sex. If you’re craving more depth in your future partner, 2024 is the year to fulfill both your emotional and sexual intimacy needs/wants.
Social and Political Causes are Non-Negotiable
Perhaps it was our beloved former President, Barack Obama, and former First Lady, Michelle Obama, that altered what a relationship or marriage could be like when two share similar values surrounding social and political causes we deeply care about. Or maybe it’s the blatant and ongoing civil unrest in the U.S. that permeates Black and Brown communities, shaking up social media and the world at large that has completely transformed dating, spotlighting if singles truly are compatible.
2024 is all about alignment when it comes to key social and political issues, particularly relating to women, and Bumble’s research backs this up: 33 percent of women find it a major turn-off if someone they’re dating isn’t keen on current social issues. Meanwhile, a quarter of singles believe a partner is more attractive when they are actively involved with social and political causes. Because while the term may have been negatively hijacked, there’s nothing more alluring than a woke partner who’s equally invested in essential issues that affect multi-generations and marginalized communities worldwide.
Sports are a Shared Love Language
The 2024 Super Bowl in Las Vegas and the Summer Olympics in Paris aren’t the only main sports events that are poised to rally one another together. A mutual love for sports has become a requirement for daters, with 31 percent of singles believing a shared love of sports is non-negotiable, according to Bumble. And this resonates heavily with Gen-Z and Millennials who account for 24 percent who say that attending a game together is important.
But if you’re not a part of the majority who live to throw on their favorite team jersey and attend the latest game or fixate your attention at a sports bar while grubbing down a bucket of hot wings, do not worry! Hardcore sports fans looking to find their match are also open to dating if you’re a sports player who prefers to get out the house and get active.
Rejecting Unworthiness
The desire to be seen, heard, loved, appreciated, and wanting to feel like the best version of yourself is human nature. Bumble notes that “self-optimization,” or striving to become the perfect version of yourself, has been trending. Self-optimization is greatly punctuated by a bombardment of the latest beauty, fitness, and wellness hacks, plus conflicting dating, and self-help advice on social media. It’s no wonder that over half (55 percent) of singles feel pressured to seek personal improvement, leaving 24 percent feeling unworthy of a partner. (Personal betterment is always noble but not at the expense of feeling undeserving on behalf of other’s wishes.)
Fortunately, the vapid feeling of “not enough” is getting dragged to the wayside. Because dating in 2024 is about accepting and loving yourself for who you are and finding a partner on the same wavelength. And this is especially true for the 40 percent of women who say they will only date people who won’t change them. Independent of a partner, 68 percent of women are taking charge to ensure happiness, now.
May you feel empowered to cultivate unbridled happiness, now, and all throughout the new year.
Dating in 2024 is about accepting and loving yourself for who you are and finding a partner on the same wavelength
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Vulnerability in Masculinity
If you’ve ever dated a male partner and felt as though he could improve upon expressing his true emotions, feelings, and desires–or you’re hoping that in 2024, you will connect with a lover who is vulnerable–then good news: men are becoming more open and vulnerable in their romantic relationships. Perhaps the increasing willingness of men to attend therapy in the last decade has shifted their attitudes.
Bumble proclaims, now more than ever, 25 percent of men say they’ve changed their behavior in dating and relationships and are more vulnerable. And 32 percent of men believe being open and vulnerable is the most important aspect of a relationship.
This new mindset has one in four men saying that the new-found openness has had a positive impact on their mental health. The new year is looking like healthy, open-hearted romantic connections abound.
Whether you plan on swiping right or meeting your new beau the old-fashioned way IRL, hopefully, these Bumble dating trends for 2024 help prepare you for a fortuitous dating journey in the new year. And while neither data nor a shiny crystal ball can predict what's in store for your romantic relationships, may all your good intentions and efforts manifest in your favor.
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