Sigh. So you're on day 182 of the quarantine and you decide to get on Bumble, Hinge or whatever dating app that allows you to chat without commitment and swipe all your heart desires. You exchange numbers with a guy or two, the first couple of phone conversations go amazingly, and eventually they ask the dreaded question: When can we FaceTime? It's only dreaded a la self-quarantine and most of us walk around looking like zombies on our worst day and blah on our best.
If that sounds familiar, here's how to go from "Eh I'm not sure (let me see how long it will take me to do my hair)" to "Sure, of course I'd love to tonight at 7" for your first virtual date night!
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First, get your essentials together, also known as, a cute dress or top and some simple jewelry. The key is to shoot for cute but simple because, ahem, we are going to our laptops or phones to chat, not Ruth Chris. Get a simple dress that shows off your décolleté and fits you just right but is also comfortable to lounge in your ergonomic chair in. Then, pair it with a pair of gold hoops (because they make any outfit go drab to fab in .5 seconds) and a simple bangle: I chose my Alex & Ani phases of the moon bracelet since it represents femininity.
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Next, is makeup. After not wearing any for umpteen days, my skin is popping so I like to keep it simple because ladies, we all know any makeup looks BOMB if your skin is acting right. Want to beat your face? Go for it! But as for me and my house, if my makeup doesn't come off easily (especially after not wearing any for so long), I will definitely be annoyed so less is more. So I do a simple, "no makeup, makeup" look with dewy skin, a little color on my cheeks, some mascara to make my eyes pop and a nude but supple lip. Easy, peasy.
From (L to R) Glossier Cloud Paint Seamless Cheek Color in Dusk, Glossier Perfecting Skin Tint, Glossier Lash Slick Mascara, Fenty Beauty, Glossier Stretch Concealer
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Lastly, but most importantly (to me), is hair. Since I've been keeping my hair in twists after two weeks, I'm ready to take them out and wear my hair big and curly if I know there's a chance I might be on FaceTime more often than not. For a virtual date, I like to wear a cute updo so I put my hair up in a puff, fluff it out and go. Curls poppin', skin glowing and keeping it sexy yet classy.
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No frills. Just keep it simple and to the point. We have no idea what will become of this pandemic so keeping your look light will help keep the conversation light...hopefully. Trust me. Your skin (AND TIME if the date is a bust) will thank you later. Happy [virtual] dating, ya'll!
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Among the many individuals who battle severe asthma, Black women face a unique set of challenges. It's not uncommon for us to go years without a proper diagnosis, and finding the right treatment often requires some trial and error. Thankfully, all hope is not lost for those who may be fighting to get their severe asthma under control. We spoke with Juanita Brown Ingram, Esq. and Jania Watson, two inspiring Black women who have been living with severe asthma and have found strength, resilience, and a sense of purpose in their journeys.
Juanita Brown Ingram, Esq.
Juanita Ingram has a resume that would make anyone’s jaw drop. On top of being recently crowned Mrs. Universe, she’s also an accomplished attorney, filmmaker, and philanthropist. From the outside, it seems there’s nothing this talented woman won’t try, and likely succeed at. In her everyday life, however, Juanita exercises a lot more caution. From a young age, Juanita has struggled with severe asthma. Her symptoms were always exacerbated by common illnesses like a cold or flu. “I've heard these stories of my breathing struggles, but I remember distinctly when I was younger not being able to breathe every time I got a virus,” says Ingram. “I remember missing a lot of school and crying a lot because asthma is painful. I [was taken] to see my doctor often if I got sick with anything so I was hypervigilant as a child, and I still am.”
Today, Juanita says her symptoms are best managed when she’s working closely with her care team, avoiding getting sick and staying ahead of any symptoms. Ingram said she’s been blessed with skilled doctors who are just as vigilant of her symptoms as she is. While competing in the Mrs. Universe competition, Juanita took extra care to stay clear of other competitors to ensure she didn’t catch a cold or virus that would trigger her severe asthma. “I would stand off to the side and sometimes that could be taken as ‘oh, she thinks she's better than everybody else.’ But if I get sick during a pageant, I'm done. I had to compete with that in mind because my sickness doesn't look like everybody else's sickness.”
Even when her symptoms are under control, living with severe asthma still presents challenges. Juanita relies on her strong support system to overcome the hurdles caused by a lack of understanding from the public, “I think that there's a lot of lack of awareness about how serious severe asthma is. I would [also] tell women to advocate and to trust their intuition and not to allow someone to dismiss what you're experiencing.”
Jania Watson
Jania, a content creator from Atlanta, Georgia, has been living with severe asthma for many years. Thanks to early testing by asthma specialists, Jania was diagnosed with severe asthma as a child after experiencing frequent flare-ups and challenges in her day-to-day life. “I specifically remember, I was starting school, and we were moving into a new house. One of the triggers for me and my younger sister at the time were certain types of carpets. We had just moved into this new house and within weeks of us being there, my parents literally had to pay for all new carpet in the house.”
As Jania grew older, she was suffering from fewer flare-ups and thought her asthma was well under control. However, a trip back to her doctor during high school revealed that her severe asthma was affecting her more than she realized. “That was the first time in a long time I had to do a breathing test,” she describes. “The doctor had me take a deep breath in and blow into a machine to test my breathing. They told me to blow as hard as I could. And I was doing it. I was giving everything I got. [My dad and the doctor] were looking at me like ‘girl, stop playing.’ And at that point [it confirmed] I still have severe asthma because I've given it all I got. It doesn't really go away, but I just learned how to help manage it better.”
Jania recognizes that people who aren’t living with asthma, may not understand the disease and mistake it for something less serious. Or there could be others who think their symptoms are minor, and not worth bringing up. So, for Jania, communicating with others about her diagnosis is key. “Having severe asthma [flare-ups] in some cases looks very similar to being out of shape,” she said. “But this is a chronic illness that I was born with. This is just something that I live with that I've been dealing with. And I think it's important for people to know because that determines the next steps. [They might ask] ‘Do you need a bottle of water, or do you need an inhaler? Do you need to take a break, or do we need to take you to the hospital?’ So, I think letting the people around you know what's going on, just in case anything were to happen plays a lot into it as well.”
Like Juanita, Jania’s journey has been marked by ups and downs, but she remains an unwavering advocate for asthma awareness and support within the Black community. She hopes that her story can be an inspiration to other women with asthma who may not yet have their symptoms under control. “There's still life to be lived outside of having severe asthma. It is always going to be there, but it's not meant to stop you from living your life. That’s why learning how to manage it and also having that support system around you, is so important.”
By sharing their journeys, Juanita and Jania hope to encourage others to embrace their conditions, obtain a proper management plan from a doctor or asthma specialist like a pulmonologist or allergist, and contribute to the improvement of asthma awareness and support, not only within the Black community, but for all individuals living with severe asthma.
Read more stories from others like Juanita and Jania on Amgen.com, or visit Uncontrolled Asthma In Black Women | BREAK THE CYCLE to find support and resources.
But that wasn't the only ceremony that took place over the weekend. The Creative Arts Emmys also held its ceremonies on Saturday and Sunday, and it included some of our faves taking home the beloved trophy. Check out the winners from both the Golden Globes and Creative Arts Emmys:
Ayo Edebiri
Ayo Edebiri won her first Golden Globe for her role in The Bear in the Best Performance by an Actress in a Television Series--Musical or Comedy category. The actress was visibly nervous as she gave her acceptance speech and thanked everyone from her The Bear family, her real family, and even "manager assistants." "The people who answer my emails, y'all are real ones," she said.
Keke Palmer
Keke Palmer
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Keke Palmer was all smiles after winning an Emmy for Outstanding Host for a Game Show for NBC’s Password. She took to Instagram to share the exciting news. "Couldn’t do it without you @jimmyfallon! I’m so grateful for the opportunity to be apart of such a classic game show such as Password. It’s a true honor, I won! I’m excited, BOOTS! Thank you to the @televisionacad ✨ ," she wrote. The mom of one is the first woman in 15 years to win that category.
Storm Reid
Storm Reid
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Storm Reid took home an Emmy for Outstanding Guest Actress In a Drama Series for The Last of Us. The actress expressed how grateful she was in an Instagram post. "i’m still at a loss for words and utterly astounded. thank y’all for the love. thank you to everyone who has been part of my journey and poured into me. thank you for allowing me to be y’all’s Riley. I’m forever indebted and honored. i love you, mommy! Matthew 17:20," she wrote.
Jasmine Guy
Jasmine Guy
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Legendary actress Jasmine Guy won her first Emmy after being nominated for the first time. The A Different Worldalum took home the Emmy for Outstanding Actress in a Short-form Comedy or Drama Series for Chronicles Of Jessica Wu. “I appreciate that my creative community has kept me in their loving arms,” she said via Variety.
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