

10 Travel Destinations You Can't Miss Visiting This Year
It's that time of year again! And if you didn't get a chance to check off all of the travel destinations on this year's wish list, it's about to get even longer. Airbnb just released their top 20 travel spots, and the list has something for both international and domestic travelers alike.
So, whether you want to experience Victorian-era architecture on another continent or enjoy some of the most beautiful beach-fronts the U.S. has to offer, we've got you covered.
1.Bilbao, Spain
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Located in the north, this city began to draw significant tourist attention after the opening of its Guggenheim Museum in 1997. Since then, there has been a burst of creatively designed museums, hotels, and restaurants that reflect its cosmopolitan vibe. If the architecture isn't enough to pique your interest, Bilbao boasts over 40 Michelin-starred restaurants, rolling green hills with beautiful scenery and in 2020 it'll be a host city of one of Europe's most popular soccer competitions.
2.Vanuatu
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A perfect destination for people who love to go off the beaten path, Vanuatu is just a few hours from Australia's eastern capitals and is made up of about 80 islands in the South Pacific Ocean. The island nation features unique natural experiences like hidden sea caves, volcanoes and some of the most beautiful marine life you've ever seen. The local cuisine uses a mix of fresh fruit, vegetables and fish to create signature dishes.
3.Ubatuba, Brazil
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Did somebody say beach? This city located on Sao Paulo's North Shore is the epitome of paradise. With over 100 beaches to choose from, gorgeous trees and lush waterfalls, this is certainly a getaway to remember. Other activities for those who love the outdoors include bird watching, surfing and hiking. You can also find some delicious seafood dishes by the waterfront.
4.Malindi, Kenya
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You could spend your entire life attempting to discover the beauty of Africa and you'd still need more time. But this bustling beach town should definitely be at the top of your list. From its historic ruins dating back to the 13th century, to its Swahili culture and natural wonders, Malindi is both stunning and special. The port town is a melting pot with beautiful beaches and a plethora of unique marine life.
5.Eugene, OR
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Just two hours south of Portland, this Pacific Northwest city is a hip spot with a potpourri of activities for people who love food and fun. It's affectionately called "Tracktown USA" because it has historically been home to one of the most famous track and field destinations in the world. Visitors can enjoy canoeing or hiking along the river, take a stroll in the Owen Rose Garden, or partake in the hometown craft beers paired with one of their farm-to-table dishes.
6.Cape Canaveral, FL
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Home to the Kennedy Space Center and Airforce and Missile Museum, this popular cruise ship port is a great destination for families. Enjoy a variety of activities from surfing and fishing to local brewery tours. If you're looking to relax, there is 72 miles of beachfront land that is perfect for tanning. Next summer, Cape Canaveral will be the site of NASA's Mars 2020 Exploration Program.
7.Cali, Colombia
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Medellin and Cartagena are great cities with a lot of flair, but if you're looking for a Colombian experience that stands out from the rest, Cali is it. This city is not only the "salsa dancing capital" but it has rich Afro-Colombian history and caleno culture. A must-see landmark is the Cristo Rey statue of Jesus Christ that resembles the one in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil.
8.Les Contamines-Montjoie, France
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In southeast France, there is a charming French village perfect for a winter ski getaway with that special someone. Lovers of the outdoors who want to skip the usual ski resort destinations will find this place a romantic and cozy getaway. The quaint wooden chalets and beautiful natural scenery are truly breathtaking.
9.Tokyo, Japan
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This July and August, some of the world's best athletes will take part in the Summer Olympics in Tokyo, making it a worthy destination on this trending list. The largest metropolitan area in the world is making sure that the summer games are energy efficient and that large crowds are as manageable as possible, so needless to say the Olympic Games will be a huge event. This popular city is known for its great food, unique transportation system, religious temples and tech culture.
10. Milwaukee, WI
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Located on the shores of Lake Michigan, this Midwestern city is many times overlooked because of its proximity to Chicago, but it actually is a gem in its own right with an influx of great breweries, restaurants and entertainment. Sites like Pabst Mansion and Villas Louis are some of the many interesting stops that give you a peek into the city's history. In the summer of 2020, Milwaukee will be home to the Democratic National Convention.
For the full list of Airbnb's 20 destinations to visit in 2020, click here.
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Tiffany D. Smith is a TV journalist by day and food and travel influencer by night from Chicago, IL. Since being bitten by the travel bug a few years ago, she uses her blog TheLoveofFoodandTravel.com to encourage people to release their fears, step out of their comfort zones, and explore new places and great food. When Tiffany isn't working in live TV or blogging, she enjoys kickboxing, watching 70's shows, and spending time with friends and family. Keep up with her @loveoffoodandtravel on IG.
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TW: some depictions of intrusive thoughts may be disturbing for readers.
Have you ever caught your mind drifting off to entertain the most disturbing scenarios imaginable? Maybe you can’t stop thinking of all the ways a loved one could pass away or worrying that you left every candle lit in your apartment to which you’d return to a home in ruins. If distressing ruminations like these have crossed your mind, you may be experiencing an intrusive thought.
What Are Intrusive Thoughts?
Intrusive thoughts are unwanted or distressing thoughts, images, or impulses that pop into your mind without your control or consent. These thoughts can be repetitive, unsettling, or even violent in nature, and can cause anxiety and frustration for those who experience them.
“Generally they're unwanted thoughts that come up in our head that interrupt what we're doing or thinking, and can feel very foreign,” says Adia Gooden, PhD, licensed clinical psychologist and host of the Unconditionally Worthy podcast. “It’s any thought that intrudes or interrupts what you are doing. They can be distressing and upsetting for us because it feels like we are not in control of them, and they're coming up out of nowhere and aren’t in line with how you normally think.”
What Causes Intrusive Thoughts?
Certain trauma or stress can contribute to the development of intrusive thoughts, so having a challenging experience from the past or current life situations may trigger them to form. “An intrusive thought could come in the form of a flashback, image, or a thought about something that's happened to you,” Dr. Gooden tells xoNecole. “When it gets to the point where you feel like you can't function or make clear decisions, that's when intrusive thoughts become really challenging.”
While some of the 1 billion videos found under the #intrusivethoughts hashtag on TikTok would lead you to believe that these thoughts are nothing more than casual displays of our imagination going untamed. Intrusive thoughts are more than sticking your hand in a soap dispenser, wanting to cut all your hair off at 3 a.m., or having a random impulse to eat fake bread in public.
The Anxiety & Depression Association of America reports that approximately six million individuals, equating to roughly two percent of the American population, encounter intrusive thoughts. Intrusive thoughts are often linked with obsessive-compulsive disorders, but they can also manifest in individuals with post-traumatic stress disorder, depression, or anxiety.
Examples of Common Intrusive Thoughts
Because of the explicit nature of intrusive thoughts, they tend to cause shame and internal conflict in those who experience them. Although these thoughts can differ from person to person, these ideation can consist of:
- Violent or aggressive thoughts towards oneself or others, such as harming or killing someone;
- Sexual thoughts that are unwanted or inappropriate;
- Repetitive thoughts, such as a song or a phrase that keeps repeating in your mind;
- Contamination or germ-related thoughts or the fear of contamination and getting sick;
- Religious or blasphemous thoughts, such as questioning one's faith or having thoughts that go against religious beliefs;
- Doubts or uncertainty about one's own actions or decisions, such as fear of making a mistake or fear of not doing something right.
Intrusive Thoughts and OCD
That’s why Dr. Gooden encourages everyone to understand the difference between our fleeting thoughts and impulses and true, intrusive thoughts. “What level of distress does it cause and is it something you would never consider,” she says. “If you're finding that these thoughts are getting in the way of you living your life and that you're controlled by the thoughts, those are some signs that it would be good to get some support in navigating it.”
She also emphasizes the importance of understanding that while we may not always have control over our thoughts, we can control our behavior. “On TikTok, people are sort of blaming intrusive thoughts on their behavior, and our behavior is always a choice,” she says. “If we are in our right mind and we're not having a psychotic episode, our behavior is our choice — we are not obligated to follow any given thought that we have.”
Are Intrusive Thoughts Normal?
With intrusive thoughts, it’s natural to question whether these thoughts are “normal” to have. However, these thoughts are not meant to define who you are as a person but simply indicate that you have a functioning human mind with automated thoughts that you, or any of us, can’t control. These thoughts may come, but they don’t have to be acted upon, nor do they define who you are.
“I've worked with clients in the past who say, ‘Why am I thinking these things? What's wrong with me?’ But if you're not acting on the thought, then it's probably not a huge issue,” Dr. Gooden says. “If you are thinking a harmful thought towards yourself or someone else and you are making plans to act on that thought, then yes, we need to do something about it.”
How To Manage Intrusive Thoughts
If you are struggling with managing unwanted thoughts, Dr. Aida suggests taking these tips to help manage your mindset when they occur:
- "Recognize that it's a thought and thoughts are just thoughts. We often put a little bit too much weight on our thoughts, and that can create a lot of distress. But remember that thoughts are not facts."
- "Having a thought that's disturbing or upsetting doesn't make you a bad person, and it doesn't mean that you are suffering from a mental illness."
- "Sometimes the best thing you can do is say, 'Huh, that was an interesting thought. I'm going to let that go. That thought is not helpful for me right now."
- "Ask yourself: is this helpful? Is it helpful for me to buy into this thought and believe this thought? Asking that question can be really helpful because we are not at the mercy of our thoughts. If it's not helpful, you can let it go."
Intrusive thoughts can feel bizarre and foreign when they come up, but they aren't inherently "bad." Our minds can sometimes be filled with random and inappropriate thoughts, but that's what our stream of consciousness does: it thinks. Fortunately, we can release those thoughts at any moment; you don't have to follow through with them.
And ultimately, not every TikTok diagnosis is one that we should label ourselves with.
"It's important for people to acknowledge what they're experiencing but not run too quickly to diagnose themselves with some mental illness or disorder," Dr. Gooden advises. "It ends with confusion, and we miss the opportunity to understand the people who really do have that mental health challenge."
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