Even though I can never hide when I'm upset from my husband, I used to hate talking about it, especially if it was because something he said or did. I just couldn't do the whole confrontational thing... and still can't fully.
I literally told him I don't like talking about certain things because, "It just doesn't go over well."
But considering we promised to the rest of our lives, I had to get over this fear of confrontation and talking things out, even when it doesn't go the way I hope. And if you have those fears like me, it is important to remember, at the end of the day, you and your partner will always end up on the same page. To overcome your fear of having hard conversations with your partner, check out my tips for better communication below.
Why Is It So Difficult?
Isn't it crazy how we can trust our boyfriend, husband, friends, etc. with everything else but our feelings? Like, our true feelings? The ones that we try to hold in to come across as more understanding and admirable. That is super tough. It's this level of vulnerability that we've held tight for most or all of our lives and don't want to give it to anyone, even the ones we're perfectly fine with spending the rest of our lives (sleeping) with. One of the things that bothered my husband the most about me holding things in, was that it would make me feel like I had to tackle situations by myself.
And even though I convinced myself that I was on this island because "I can handle it," that wasn't true. I thought I could fix things myself and eventually get over it without any confrontation. Also not true. Listen, if there's anyone you should be able to trust with your concerns, it should be your husband; especially if you have an issue with something he said or did.
No, you don't have to lean on him for every little thing, but if you see him as your best friend, forever, and all that jazz, you can overcome your fear of talking to him about anything.
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