Even though I can never hide when I'm upset from my husband, I used to hate talking about it, especially if it was because something he said or did. I just couldn't do the whole confrontational thing... and still can't fully.
I literally told him I don't like talking about certain things because, "It just doesn't go over well."
But considering we promised to the rest of our lives, I had to get over this fear of confrontation and talking things out, even when it doesn't go the way I hope. And if you have those fears like me, it is important to remember, at the end of the day, you and your partner will always end up on the same page. To overcome your fear of having hard conversations with your partner, check out my tips for better communication below.
Patience Isn’t Fun, But It’s Necessary
It's one thing to get over the fear of having the conversation, but having to keep having it is like, "Seriously?" There were so many times when I had to exhale a sigh of relief because I finally brought up something that was irritating me, only for it to happen again shortly after. Like dude, we literally just had this conversation. But looking at it from his perspective, he can't flip the switch on the way he's wired overnight. I'll be real, sometimes his lack of changing on my timeframe would discourage me from saying something at all.
Why keep bringing it up if it's going to keep happening? Instead of coming down on him and rudely reminding him of the multiple times we've discussed it, I found that it was better for me to tell him in the moment that this was an example of what he did that bothered me. Sometimes guys take longer to actually get stuff. Bless their hearts. It takes time, and not just a conversation.