Recently, a guy told me that he wasn't into dating because he felt that it came with too much pressure. To him, when it came to getting to know a woman a little better, he preferred to go to her house (or have her come to his) and watch a movie or something.
Geez. If you could only see my face right now. Before "Netflix and Chill" was a phrase on a graphic T-shirt, I never thought "dating at home" was a good idea. What I mean by that is the first five dates or so, that needs to be about two people not only getting to know one another but showing the effort that they are willing to invest in doing so. When all a guy does is come over, eat up your food and use up your electricity while watching something on your television…not only does that come off as rather lazy on his part, on your end, it also doesn't really convey what your expectations are—when it comes to exploring the possibility of a relationship.
So yeah, if there is a mutual attraction between you and someone new, please require that you both go outside of one another's residences for the first few dates. And then also, in the effort to set a few more standards, make sure that open communication is a top priority. Oh, and if you happen to hear the following things come out of your date's mouth, I strongly suggest that you reconsider going on another outing with him and that you definitely don't give him the honor of dinner and a movie at your crib any time soon.
“I like the kind of women who reach for the check.”
Yeah, I bet. Who doesn't like it when someone is paying for their meal? For the record, I'm not the girl who thinks that a man should always pick up the check on a date. Once some sort of relationship (and mutual understanding) has been established, some give and take is perfectly fine.
But on the first date? A first date that you asked me on? Any guy who rolls up on me like that, it gives me the impression that he's just as, if not more, interested in going out for free as spending time with me. And if he's someone who is waiting for me to get the check because it's some sort of cryptic test? The first, second and third date are way too early for him to be "testing" anything about me. Get to know me first. Act like you appreciated the honor by not waiting for my hand to move over towards the tab too.
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