Recently, a guy told me that he wasn't into dating because he felt that it came with too much pressure. To him, when it came to getting to know a woman a little better, he preferred to go to her house (or have her come to his) and watch a movie or something.
Geez. If you could only see my face right now. Before "Netflix and Chill" was a phrase on a graphic T-shirt, I never thought "dating at home" was a good idea. What I mean by that is the first five dates or so, that needs to be about two people not only getting to know one another but showing the effort that they are willing to invest in doing so. When all a guy does is come over, eat up your food and use up your electricity while watching something on your television…not only does that come off as rather lazy on his part, on your end, it also doesn't really convey what your expectations are—when it comes to exploring the possibility of a relationship.
So yeah, if there is a mutual attraction between you and someone new, please require that you both go outside of one another's residences for the first few dates. And then also, in the effort to set a few more standards, make sure that open communication is a top priority. Oh, and if you happen to hear the following things come out of your date's mouth, I strongly suggest that you reconsider going on another outing with him and that you definitely don't give him the honor of dinner and a movie at your crib any time soon.
“So, I checked out your social media accounts. Who is so-and-so? What did you mean by such-and-such?”
Speaking of being online, since almost three billion people have active social media accounts, it's getting harder and harder to not find out info on someone, even if you're preparing to go on a blind date. So yeah, just like there's a huge possibility that you may check ole' boy's IG before meeting up, there's a big chance he will do the same.
That's fine but perk your ears up for what he may mention as a result of his perusing. If he's insistent on knowing about all of the men on your page or he's critiquing your own comments and interactions, this usually means that he's being more than merely conversational or inquisitive. He could be revealing the beginning traits of being a pushy and controlling type of person.
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