Pets are so cute, cuddly, fun, and a handful at times as most owners can sternly repeat, "Come here! What's that in your mouth? Get off of that! Not again," in their sleep.
Clinically, pets are proven to alleviate anxiety, stress, and depression in people. In my experience, my cat added an unexplainable value and sense of companionship into my life when I decided to venture off into my own living space alone. The love and affection that you receive is unconditional, nonstop, and even attempts to follow you into the bathroom.
Though life gets hard at times, pets make it figuratively and literally nearly impossible to feel alone and not to laugh. For people who are going through a tough time mentally, pets can help keep you on track in the following ways:
- They Keep You On A Regular Schedule: Knowing that you are depended on to feed, walk, or tend to your animals fills you with a sense of purpose and holds you accountable for taking care of a life outside of yours.
- They Keep You Physically Active: If you are a dog owner, you get to have a walking buddy each day and if you own a cat, you get to be creative with the games you can play indoors. And you can even ease your cat outside for walks while they are younger.
- They Keep You Social Even When You Want To Isolate: With an adorable furry companion by your side, it won't be too hard to spark up a conversation about your pet while outdoors, or even in their absence. Also for those days that you don't feel like being around other people, you can be comforted by somebody way cuter and more fun to cuddle with.
If you're not convinced yet, hear from these ladies who gushed to xoNecole about their experiences and love for their furry companions:
Reaundra Roach
Pet owner to dog for over a year:
"Having Nori has taught me that I'm capable of nurturing and caring for something/someone other than myself, being that I'm not a mother. I went through a rough time in my life and having her made all the difference. When I had no motivation to get out of my bed because I was sad, taking Nori for walks and playing with her helped me to be selfless and push through depression."
Talasi Haynes
Pet owner of two cats and a dog for well over 10 years:
"My life changed after adopting the cats because even though my friends and even family came and left throughout my life, I'd always have my little family at home. It's nice to have that constant company and they help so much with my anxiety. Then having Bilbo being outdoorsy, I have a companion to explore new places with. Animals bring a new perspective to life for me, I feel more at peace when they're around. I just love all animals."
Kandice Guice
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Pet owner of dog for over 10 years:
"Foxx is family. He's been there through breakups, finals, numerous relocations, and even seeing me get married. His charming personality has made an impact on the lives of so many people. Years later, friends and family check in to see how he's doing and to laugh about funny memories they've shared with him. His unconditional love is the perfect greeting after a long stressful day or a frustrating moment. No matter what, his eyes scream that I'm his favorite person. Foxx is a little glimpse of how God meant for us to be loved - without fail, without motive, without change."
Taylor Honore
Pet owner of dog for 12 years:
"My dog is my child (laughs). I've had her since I was 13, and she's helped me get through a lot of tough times. She's been my emotional support for than a decade and even though she's mean as a snake, I wouldn't trade her for anything in the world. She recently had surgery and I thought I was going to lose her... It was an emotional rollercoaster to say the least. It really put into perspective how much she means to me. She's so much more than a pet to me. She's been my (grumpy) best friend."
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In a xoNecoleexclusive, the iconic actress opens up about embracing this season of her life, new projects, and overall being a “bad motherfucker.” Gabrielle reveals that she was 37 years old when she was diagnosed with perimenopause and is still going through it at 51 years old. Mayo Clinic says perimenopause “refers to the time during which your body makes the natural transition to menopause, marking the end of the reproductive years.”
“I haven't crossed over the next phase just yet, but I think part of it is when you hear any form of menopause, you automatically think of your mother or grandmother. It feels like an old-person thing, but for me, I was 37 and like not understanding what that really meant for me. And I don't think we focus so much on the word menopause without understanding that perimenopause is just the time before menopause,” she tells us.
Gabrielle Union
Photo by Brian Thomas
"But you can experience a lot of the same things during that period that people talk about, that they experienced during menopause. So you could get a hot flash, you could get the weight gain, the hair loss, depression, anxiety, like all of it, mental health challenges, all of that can come, you know, at any stage of the menopausal journey and like for me, I've been in perimenopause like 13, 14 years. When you know, most doctors are like, ‘Oh, but it's usually about ten years, and I'm like, ‘Uhh, I’m still going (laughs).’”
Conversations about perimenopause, fibroids, and all the things that are associated with women’s bodies have often been considered taboo and thus not discussed publicly. However, times are changing, and thanks to the Gabrielle’s and the Tia Mowry’s, more women are having an authentic discourse about women’s health. These open discussions lead to the creation of more safe spaces and support for one another.
“I want to be in community with folks. I don't ever want to feel like I'm on an island about anything. So, if I can help create community where we are lacking, I want to be a part of that,” she says. “So, it's like there's no harm in talking about it. You know what I mean? Like, I was a bad motherfucker before perimenopause. I’m a bad motherfucker now, and I'll be a bad motherfucker after menopause. Know what I’m saying? None of that has to change. How I’m a bad motherfucker, I welcome that part of the change. I'm just getting better and stronger and more intelligent, more wise, more patient, more compassionate, more empathetic. All of that is very, very welcomed, and none of it should be scary.”
The Being Mary Jane star hasn’t been shy about her stance on therapy. If you don’t know, here’s a hint: she’s all for it, and she encourages others to try it as well. She likens therapy to dating by suggesting that you keep looking for the right therapist to match your needs. Two other essential keys to her growth are radical transparency and radical acceptance (though she admits she is still working on the latter).
"I was a bad motherfucker before perimenopause. I’m a bad motherfucker now, and I'll be a bad motherfucker after menopause. Know what I’m saying? None of that has to change. How I’m a bad motherfucker, I welcome that part of the change."
Gabrielle Union and Kaavia Union-Wade
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“I hope that a.) you recognize that you're not alone. Seek out help and know that it's okay to be honest about what the hell is happening in your life. That's the only way that you know you can get help, and that's also the only other way that people know that you are in need if there's something going on,” she says, “because we have all these big, very wild, high expectations of people, but if they don't know what they're actually dealing with, they're always going to be failing, and you will always be disappointed. So how about just tell the truth, be transparent, and let people know where you are. So they can be of service, they can be compassionate.”
Gabrielle’s transparency is what makes her so relatable, and has so many people root for her. Whether through her TV and film projects, her memoirs, or her social media, the actress has a knack for making you feel like she’s your homegirl. Scrolling through her Instagram, you see the special moments with her family, exciting new business ventures, and jaw-dropping fashion moments. Throughout her life and career, we’ve seen her evolve in a multitude of ways. From producing films to starting a haircare line to marriage and motherhood, her journey is a story of courage and triumph. And right now, in this season, she’s asking, “What’s next?”
“This is a season of discovery and change. In a billion ways,” says the NAACP Image Award winner. “The notion of like, ‘Oh, so and so changed. They got brand new.’ I want you to be brand new. I want me to be brand new. I want us to be always constantly growing, evolving. Having more clarity, moving with different purpose, like, and all of that is for me very, very welcomed."
"I want you to be brand new. I want me to be brand new. I want us to be always constantly growing, evolving. Having more clarity, moving with different purpose, like, and all of that is for me very, very welcomed."
She continues, “So I'm just trying to figure out what's next. You know what I mean? I'm jumping into what's next. I'm excited going into what's next and new. I'm just sort of embracing all of what life has to offer.”
Look out for Gabrielle in the upcoming indie film Riff Raff, which is a crime comedy starring her and Jennifer Coolidge, and she will also produce The Idea of You, which stars Anne Hathaway.
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