Big, beautiful women were dominating the sex game long before Drake showed love when he rapped, "I like my women BBW." I'm on the curvier side and my husband can't get enough of squeezing, grabbing, and caressing my curves and edges. It's just something extra special when there's more to hold on to while he (literally) sits back and enjoys the ride. My sex drive has been through the roof lately, and there are only so many ways we can missionary and doggy style, no matter how much flesh and skin is at the party. But... all sex positions are not created equal.
The Best BBW Sex Positions
This isn't to shame any size - petite, curvy, or anything in between - but the reality is, what's orgasmic for a BBW might not hit the spot like it does for a size 2. And even beyond that, every woman is different anyway - no matter her size. It's all about the positions that make you feel confident, sexy, empowered, desired, and in control (and of course, sometimes being the "submissive" one).
These positions have proven to help the BBW reach her climax every time - from the inside out.
1.Randy Rider
This is my jam (*Lauren London in ATL voice*). For this position, your guy sits back against a couch, headboard, or comfortable armchair. Wherever you set the scene, make sure you have plenty of room because it can get crazy. Once you're settled, have him wrap his arms around your waist and move you up and down. Flaunt what you're working with and move your hips and waist in subtle movements to get maximum stimulation.
2.Cook It Up
What's better than sex in the kitchen? It might be a cliche but that's because it works so well. Does it ever miss? Hardly. For this position, all you have to do is sit on the kitchen counter and let your man enter while you both get all passionate and whatnot.
3.The Ohm
This is a solid switch-up when you want to try something new (even in the moment!). Here's how it goes: You lay on your back and lift your legs at a 90-degree angle. Your partner kneels with his legs near your chest. His pelvis should align with your vulva when he makes his way in. To make things more interesting he can move your legs to the same side. His torso stays upward and you should also squeeze your vagina (hope you've been practicing your Kegels!) to make sure he stays inside.
4.Cowgirl Remix
If you like being in control, this is for you. Just like when you're doing the cowgirl, kneel on top of your partner and lean on his chest to help your thighs go to work. But this time, let your partner grab onto your hips as they thrust themselves up to meet you. This makes orgasms easier for both of you.
5.The Z
Now, this is an adventure. But *sigh* it feels oh so good. With your partner kneeling on the bed, you lay in front of him (on your back) with each foot on his shoulders. This is actually a very intimate position because it encourages eye contact and gives him a full view of your body and all that it has to offer.
6.Missionary 2.0
Having sex without the missionary position is a hard habit to break. But no one said you had to give it up altogether. The fact that it's so basic only means there are ways to mix things up. While he's inside, you can play with his balls, put one leg up and one leg down, and slow it down to enjoy every moment. You can also lift your pelvis, add more lubricant, and even put a pillow underneath you to get a new angle.
7.Magic Mountain
This one might be easy, but don't underestimate its power. You and your partner both sit with your legs bent, leaning back on your forearms while facing each other. Slowly get closer to one another and rub your clitoris on his pelvis. To make things even sexier, put ice cubes on his chest so the water drips to his pelvis.
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'Sistas' Star Skyh Black On The Power Of Hypnotherapy & Emotional Vulnerability For Men
In this insightful episode of the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker talked with Sistas star Skyh Black, as he opened up about his journey of emotional growth, resilience, and self-discovery. The episode touches on emotional availability, self-worth, masculinity, and the importance of therapy in overcoming personal struggles.
Skyh Black on Emotional Availability & Love
On Emotional Availability & Vulnerability
“My wife and I wouldn't be where we are today if both of us weren't emotionally available,” he shared about his wife and Sistas co-star KJ Smith, highlighting the value of vulnerability and emotional openness in a relationship. His approach to masculinity stands in contrast to the traditional, stoic ideals. Skyh is not afraid to embrace softness as part of his emotional expression.
On Overcoming Self-Doubt & Worthiness Issues
Skyh reflected on the self-doubt and worthiness issues that he struggled with, especially early in his career. He opens up about his time in Los Angeles, living what he calls the “LA struggle story”—in a one-bedroom with three roommates—and being homeless three times over the span of 16 years. “I always had this self-sabotaging thought process,” Skyh said. “For me, I feel therapy is essential, period. I have a regular therapist and I go to a hypnotherapist.”
How Therapy Helped Him Heal From Self-Doubt
On Hypnotherapy & Empowering Self-Acceptance
Skyh’s journey is a testament to the power of tapping into self-development despite life’s struggles and being open to growth. “I had to submit to the fact that God was doing good in my life, and that I'm worthy of it. I had a worthiness issue and I did not realize that. So, that’s what the hypnotherapy did. It brought me back to the core. What is wrong so that I can fix it?”
Watch the full podcast episode below:
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Quinta Brunson Gets Real About Divorce, Boundaries & Becoming
Quinta Brunson is the woman who chooses herself, even when the world is watching. And in her June 30 cover story for Bustle, she gives us a rare glimpse into the soft, centered place she's navigating her life from now. From leading one of television's most beloved series in the last decade to quietly moving through life shifts, the creator of Abbott Elementary is walking through a personal evolution and doing so with intention, grace, and a firm grip on her boundaries.
Back in March, the 35-year-old filed for divorce from Kevin Jay Anik after nearly three years of marriage, citing "irreconcilable differences." The news hit the headlines of news outlets fast, but Quinta hadn't planned to announce their dissolution to the public so quickly.
Quinta Brunson On Divorce, Public Scrutiny & Sacred Boundaries
"I remember seeing people be like, ‘She announced her divorce,’" she told Bustle. “I didn’t announce anything. I think people have this idea that people in the public eye want the public to know their every move. None of us do. I promise you. No one wants [everyone] to know when you buy a house, when you move, when a major change happens in your personal life. It’s just that that’s public record information."
In regards to her private moves becoming tabloid fodder, Quinta continued, "I hated that. I hate all of it."
"I Am An Artist First": Quinta On Cutting Her Hair & Reclaiming Herself
Still, the diminutive phenom holds her crown high in the face of change and is returning to the essence of who she is, especially as an artist. "Cutting my hair reminded me that I am an artist first. I want to feel things. I want to make choices. I want to be a person, and not just stuck in having to be a certain way for business." It's giving sacred rebirth. It's giving self-liberation. It's especially giving main character energy.
And while the headlines keep spinning their narratives, the one that Quinta is focused on is her own. For her, slowing down and nourishing herself in ways that feed her is what matters. "It’s a transitional time. I think it’s true for me and my personal life, and it’s how I feel about myself, my career, and the world," Quinta shared with Bustle. “I feel very serious about focusing on watering my own gardens, taking care of myself and the people around me who I actually interact with day-to-day."
That includes indulging in simple rituals that ground her like "making myself a meal" which has become "really, really important to me."
That spirit of agency doesn't stop at the personal. In her professional world, as the creator, executive producer, and lead actress of the critically-acclaimed Abbott Elementary, Quinta understands the weight her choices carry, both on- and off-screen. She revealed to Bustle, "People used to tell me at the beginning of this that the No. 1 on the call sheet sets the tone, and the producer sets the tone — and I’m both of those roles."
She continued, "I understand now, after doing this for four years, how important it was that I set the tone that I did when we first started."
Quinta doesn't just lead, she understands the importance of curating the energy of any space she enters. Even amid a season of shifts and shedding, her power speaks loudly. Sometimes that power looks like quiet resistance. Sometimes that power is soft leadership.
And sometimes that power looks like cutting your hair and taking back your name in rooms that have forgotten you were an artist long before you were a brand.
Read Quinta's cover story on Bustle here to witness the fullness of Quinta's becoming.
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