The past year and a half has taught us that life is not fair and that many individuals have experienced deep hurt, anxiety, depression and more. The unfortunate part about life circumstances is that we do not have control over them. However, we can control how we respond to things. Positive coping mechanisms are meant to build one's resilience and redirect one's stress level. When dealing with a stressful situation, it is essential to evaluate and determine if you need to change your situation or discover a way to cope with the matter.
Various studies have spoken about two types of coping: problem-focused coping and emotion-focused coping. Problem-focused coping is when you need to change your situation such as getting rid of the cause of stress. Emotion-focused coping is when you focus on your emotions since you cannot or do not want to change the situation that is causing you stress.
After you have determined the approach in which you are going to take, the implementation of how you choose to cope begins. It is essential that you create a plan of how you decide to deal with stressful moments because it is quite easy to adopt unhealthy methods that can have a negative effect. For example, an individual may decide to binge on junk food as a way of dealing with a hard day of work or finish a bottle of wine or two as a form of dealing with rejection. Both options may seem harmless at first until one's health is in jeopardy.
As you can see, a healthy approach to coping is for your own benefit. So when and if you are experiencing stress or dealing with a difficult time, the following coping mechanisms can be effective.
- Working out releases endorphins that are "feel-good" chemicals that drastically brightens up one's mood. Working out gives you an opportunity to redirect and exhaust your stress and frustrations.
- There is something soothing about taking all of the thoughts in your head and writing them on a piece of paper. Keeping things in is not healthy. Therefore, I encourage you to write your feelings out.
Ask for help (problem-focused):
- Asking for help is never easy to do but it may need to be the very first thing for you to do if the very thing that is causing you stress can be rectified once help arrives.
Implementing a positive coping mechanism into your routine takes time and it is an individualized approach. Meaning, what may work for one person may or may not work for you. Having an open mind allows you to try new coping techniques. You will be very surprised that the technique that you least thought to be helpful may be the most relieving approach.
If you are finding positive coping mechanisms ineffective, I strongly suggest that you speak with a licensed mental health professional who can be of assistance.
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If there’s one thing Chlöe is going to do is serve a vocal performance that elevates anything she delivers on a track. The soulful vocalist did that and then some with jazz-influenced renditions of her most popular tracks for a recently dropped NPR Tiny Desk performance.
As she expertly dives from falsetto head voice to deeply felt guttural low tones, Chlöe proves once again that she is a master of her most versatile instrument, her voice. Starting with the songs “Surprise” and “Body Do,” Chlöe took us through a medley of songs from her debut album In Piecesthat seamlessly blended into each other while also pausing to provide brief anecdotes in between songs that pointed to her vulnerability and transparency.
The transition into the track “Worried” felt like a pointed message to naysayers (read: haters) and those who claim to not see her for who she is as an artist and creative. At the end of the day, she is not going to “worry” about things outside of her control. She then segued into her album’s moving title track, “In Pieces,” but before she began, she revealed to the audience a poignant truth about vulnerability.
“I feel like it’s important to be honest and transparent about our vulnerabilities and what we’re going through. And, a lot of times I've been broken down and the cracks will be left, but that doesn't make me imperfect. That doesn't take away any beauty I have deep inside.”
Chlöe continued, “It’s important to surround ourselves with the ones who will appreciate us in all of that glory.”
The 25-year-old artist ended her performance with her 2022 single “Cheatback” which she admitted she wrote because a “nigga was playing games.” We live for the transparency!
To check out the performance in full, watch the video below.
Chlöe: Tiny Desk Concert
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