The Personality & Love Compatibility Of A Pisces, Explained.
Born between February 19th and March 20th, this mutable Water sign embodies a free-flowing nature that is typically easy to get along with. Their heightened levels of sensitivity equip them to read the room. Sometimes this works to their advantage while, at other times, their ability to feel into the unseen can be extremely taxing. As one of the most empathic zodiac signs, Pisces has a tendency to absorb the emotions of others. If they're not clear in their own boundaries, they can quickly find themselves lost in the distress of other people.
Ruled by Neptune, there's no coincidence that these dreamy lovers often blur the lines between reality and fantasy. Given their idealistic approach to life they always see the best in others (even when those same people know they ain't sh*t). It is a Pisces' ministry to provide unconditional love and support—even for people undeserving of their devotion.
As the last sign of the zodiac, Pisces essentially embodies the essence of all of its predecessors. Often considered a Water sign, in some ideologies they're actually associated with Ether—that being the air beyond the clouds. While its sister sign Cancer rules the ocean and Scorpio governs fixed bodies of water, Pisces is the source that permeates all space much like our idea of God.
This is one of the reasons many Pisceans find themselves naturally drawn to spirituality. Given their malleable nature, they're likely to explore various spiritual paths throughout their lives. They're capable of connecting the dots between things that seem completely different. At the end of the day, Pisces' only concern is getting to the heart of the matter. Not one to get caught up in the details like their opposite sign Virgo, these intuitive individuals prefer to feel their way through life.
The Pisces Zodiac Sign: An Overview
Physiologically, Pisces governs the feet, toes, and lymphatic system. Given their emotionally-absorbent nature, it's important to not allow emotions to become stagnant which can sometimes result in illness. As an appreciator of nature's beauty, taking a relaxing stroll can be just what they need to keep their energy flowing and to keep them grounded in reality. They are notorious for having a vivid imagination and it's not uncommon for you to catch them glancing off into space with that dewey look in their eyes. Even though they are a spiritual being, they still have a physical body that needs to be treated like the temple that it is. Pisces can be extremely sensitive to certain foods which is why it's common for many of them to develop food allergies over time.
The Earthly realm can get pretty boring for Pisces which can push them to explore various forms of escapismwhether that be through music, books, and is severe cases—drugs. This indulgent zodiac sign, whose ancient ruler is Jupiter, can fall into patterns of addiction more easily than others. Their Neptunian influence lures them into a dreamworld in which everything is alright when in reality their lives may be total chaos. As innocent as they appear, Pisces does have a dark side to them.
There's a reason that their symbol is two fish (and not one). Although they can be some of the kindest people they can also hit below the belt with their self-righteousness. Known to play the victim, they have to be brutally honest with themselves (and grounded enough within reality) to recognize how they, too, play a role in the drama. Associated with the subconscious, they can fall into projecting their unhealed emotional wounds onto others. Shadow work is key for this dualistic sign to remain balanced.
Pisces Personality Traits
Best Pisces Traits:
- Sensitive
- Visionary
- Empathic
- Instinctive
- Artistic
Worst Pisces Traits:
- Elusive
- Addictive
- Paranoid
Pisces in Career
Dreamy Pisceans often have a difficulties adjusting to the norm of a 9-5. Due to their imaginative nature, they'll usually find more fulfillment in paving a path of their own that allows them to indulge their need for creative expression. With financial security not being a top priority for this free-spirited sign, it's common they bounce around from one place to the next in pursuit of an environment that can support their endeavors.
Many of them will go through a "starving artist" phase at some point before they recognize that their need for security is just as important as living out their purpose. Often born with an innate gift that cannot be taught, they just need to learn to leverage what they're naturally good at. A career in the healing and spiritual arts as well as music, acting, and writing are all paths that support what Pisces is best at. Given their compassionate nature, charity work is also suitable for them. For those that are a little more on the "secular" side of things, opening up a bar or getting into the liquor trade could be surprisingly lucrative.
Pisces in Love
As a mutable Water sign, Pisces can be a little difficult to figure out but that's also the allure about them. On one hand, they can be sympathetic and compassionate, while on the other hand they can be distrustful and wounded. Not one to dive in head first, they prefer to test the waters before taking the plunge. In the beginning, Pisces will only reveal but so much as they do possess a mystique about them.
Once you've passed the test, they'll happily reveal their innermost self to you. Given their power of subtle influence, they have the ability to get their needs met—usually without even being direct. This is a result of their mastered manipulative streak which can sabotage the growth of the authentic relationships they deeply crave. Their sacrificial nature and giant hearts make them a sucker for people who are suffering. They are weak to a good sob story and love to be the one to pick up the pieces.
It's very common for Pisceans to wind up in codependent relationships that ultimately aren't serving either party involved. Once they stop trying to save other people and save themselves, they can connect with a partner that is truly their equal. Generally, other Water signs (Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces) and Taurus and Capricorn are good matches for this passionate free-spirit.
Famous Pisces Celebs
- Jhene Aiko
- Rihanna
- Erykah Badu
- Common
- Daniel Kaluuya
- Lupita Nyong'o
- Steph Curry
- Spike Lee
- Trevor Noah
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Meet The Designer Behind This Megan Thee Stallion "Hiss" Video Look
When Megan Thee Stallion dropped “Hiss,” a shift happened. From the audacious lyrics to the striking visuals, there was no doubt that the song and video would go viral. The opening of the video shows the H-town hottie rocking a barely there Shibari red dress, showing off her voluptuous frame. It was a sexy moment created by Timeekah Murphy of Alani Taylor. The designer exclusively tells us how the opportunity came about and what it was like seeing her design on Megan for the first time.
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xoNecole: How did the opportunity to create such an iconic look for Megan Thee Stallion's "Hiss" video come about?
Timeekah Murphy: The opportunity came from a DM from celebrity stylist Zerina Akers. She asked for a unique Shibari piece for Megan, and I needed to get it done in two days. So, of course, I did everything in my power to make it happen. I've always wanted to design for Megan, so this was an awesome opportunity for me.
xoN: What was that initial feeling of seeing the dress on her for the first time?
TM: I was shocked because, at first, I thought it hadn't been used. I saw Megan's last video and thought, damn, maybe it didn't fit. So, to see it on such an amazing video was breathtaking. I was beyond excited to finally say I designed for her.
xoN: Did you meet her? If so, how was that moment?
TM: I didn't meet Megan during the shoot, but during my time in LA, I got the opportunity to meet her at LA Pride with Tiffany Haddish, Common, and EJ King (stylist). Megan is such an amazing person, so it made it even better to know that my designs were going to be worn by her. I was shocked because, at first, I thought it hadn't been used. I saw Megan's last video and thought, damn, maybe it didn't fit. So, to see it on such an amazing video was breathtaking. I was beyond excited to finally say I designed for her.
"I was shocked because, at first, I thought it hadn't been used. I saw Megan's last video and thought, damn, maybe it didn't fit. So, to see it on such an amazing video was breathtaking. I was beyond excited to finally say I designed for her."
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xoN: Walk us through the creation of the dress. How did you come up with the look, and how long did it take to make it?
TM: I was the co-designer for a brand called Deviant in 2018-2020, and we used to make custom Shibari pieces. That's how Zerina knew me. So I'm very familiar with making these types of pieces. We made plenty for Beyoncé, Cardi B, Tiffany Haddish, Tyra Banks, and so many others. So Zerina knew exactly what she wanted.
To get it done, it took me a day and a half. It's very intricate and time-consuming, so I spent about six hours making it then I sent an image of it to Zerina, and she didn't approve the first one, so I had to start from scratch again after getting my guidance and understanding of what was needed. The next day, I went to The Lab and created another version, and she approved it. I had to get it shipped overnight so that she would get it in time and fast forward to seeing it on the big screen.
xoN: What's next for you?
TM: Everything. The sky is not my limit, so the Alani Taylor brand is expanding into so many different avenues. We are getting involved in the community more, offering sewing classes to the youth. I've opened up a store for my brand in Atlanta and now preparing for fall/winter Fashion Week.
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Dating Apps Are Out, Meeting People IRL Is In — And Here’s How To Do It.
Whoever coined the phrase, “If it isn’t broke, don’t fix it,” certainly was not referring to the state of our dating scene. Whether online or in real life, you don't have to go far to hear the grievances of singles calling for the immediate repair of all leaks, cracks, and fractures in the dating pool.
No matter the state you live in, your age, how much you earn for a living, or if you’re a chronic app dater, there’s a general consensus that something (anything) must be done to restore the hope of singles looking for long-term, fulfilling relationships. And as many of us hold on to the hope for an unexpected cross-encounter with our next love story, others are leaning on the side of giving up completely. But before throwing in the towel, it might be time to make a few adjustments.
Dating Apps Are In Their Flop Era, Making Connections IRL Is Where It's At
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Many singles agree that spending their leisure time swiping through dating apps is out. What’s in is stepping out of one's comfort zone to make connections in the real world. Scary. We know. But unless you were one of the lucky few to find love on dating apps before its flop era or made a love connection from home during the pandemic, going about your dating life the same way is bound to render the same results: being single with a headache. And we want better for you.
It’s safe to say that constantly meeting strangers off the internet for a chance to find love has lost its charm, leaving singles open to the train, farmer’s market, the gym, or a friend’s house party to be prime real estate for matching up with potential partners.
This shift, as Marissa Nelson, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and BLK’s Relationship and Intimacy Expert tells xoNecole, is due in part to a growing concern about the authenticity of online profiles — in other words: is what you’re seeing, in fact, what you’re getting? “From their profile picture, what they say they do, the height they say they are; it’s this fear of, ‘Am I really talking to who I think I'm speaking to?'” she explains.
On our journey to finding “the one” out in the real world, a common question is, “Where do you find the available singles?” The short answer is, everywhere. The long answer is at the grocery store, on a plane, during happy hours, at work, at a conference, on a solo vacation, or, as Nelson puts it, anywhere you are showing up as your most open and vulnerable self.
“You never know where the connection is going to come from, which is why it's even more important to be receptive, to stay open, be curious, and lean into your vulnerability,” she says. In fact, Nelson encourages singles to release themselves of the rigidity around finding the perfect person at the “perfect” place, because, in essence, there isn’t one. “We have to let go of the constraints that we can only go to singles events to meet people,” she says. “We have to be open to however love shows up.”
"We have to let go of the constraints that we can only go to singles events to meet people. We have to be open to however love shows up."
We all can relate to the fact that the idea of shooting our shot in real life is a lot more exciting than the actual act. The relationship expert explains that one of the greatest hesitations to us putting ourselves out there and taking a chance on love is rooted in the fear of rejection. However, it’s important to keep in mind that “we’ve all been hurt” and most importantly, “we’re all afraid of rejection.”
That’s why Nelson suggests the following strategies to make the first move and find love in your everyday life.
1. Don't close yourself off.
“When you relax your expectations, you start to meet really cool people. Some of those cool people became friends and that makes your life richer because now, you have new friends and great people to hang out with. Even if it wasn't a love match, it can become a significant or meaningful friendship.”
2. Don't let your "type" hold you back.
“We all have a type. And a lot of women will say, ‘I like them tall. I like them like this or that.’ When we’re rigid about who we believe we ought to be with versus being open to people who might be more aligned with our values, we close ourselves off. Sure, you're not going to date somebody that you are absolutely not attracted to. But people have a lot of unwritten rules around who they will allow themselves to get to know, and I challenge people to challenge their rules because that can hold you back from expansive experiences.”
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3. Make the first move.
“I think that if we can be bold, be brave, and if there's somebody that's good-looking, catches your eye, or just seems like they have a good vibe, we can approach them with curiosity. Ask them how they're doing. Introduce yourself. It doesn't have to lead to all these things; you can just have chemistry and flow from there.”
4. Ask better questions.
“When you meet someone for the first time, asking them ‘What do you do?’ is not the best first question because that only tells you what they do for money, not necessarily what they're passionate about. To get insight into who that person truly is, ask: What are you passionate about in your life right now? What lights you up? What excites you? What are you working towards?”
5. Shift your mindset.
“We've all been hurt. And we can be guarded because we don't want to get hurt again. The brain is a very complex and brilliant system designed to keep us safe, and emotional survival is a real thing. We become super protective, and in that, we come up with a lot of different rules, paradigms, [and] belief systems. The biggest mindset shift is: how can we do our own work to know and believe that we are worthy and deserving of love.”
Whether you’re on a dating app or roaming your local Trader Joe’s, love is everywhere — and the abundance of love is available to us once we remove limiting beliefs that make it feel scarce and out of reach. Vulnerability, shedding our walls, and openness just might be the tweaks we need to snitch up the dating streets and watch it heal for the better.
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