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Meagan Good Gets Real About Freezing Her Eggs While Deciding If She Wants Kids

“I was never that girl who said, 'I can't wait to get married,' 'I can't wait to be a mother.'"

Meagan Good

Egg freezing, also known as mature oocyte cryopreservation, is a method used to save women's ability to get pregnant in the future. Eggs harvested from your ovaries are frozen unfertilized and stored for later use. A frozen egg can be thawed, combined with sperm in a lab and implanted in your uterus via IVF, or in vitro fertilization.

Think of it as an insurance policy that's there to catch you in the event that when life calms down, you decide to move forward with having a family. Freezing eggs has become more and more popular over the years, as science has normalized the process thus making it less taboo.

Meagan Good was in her late 30's when she decided to take the plunge and freeze her eggs.

And now, with turning 40 years old this year, she is taking the time to determine if kids are in her immediate future. She tells Romper:

"When you say you're not sure you want to be a mom, people look at you like you're a bad person. As if something's wrong with you. But I was never really that girl who said, 'I can't wait to get married,' 'I can't wait to be a mother.' I was very much a tomboy, and I started my career so young that I'd always been very business-oriented."

In fact, Good says, it wasn't until she got married to husband DeVon Franklin, who she wed in 2012, that Meagan even gave having children a second thought.

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"It wasn't until I got married that I even considered having a family. My husband and I talked in the beginning, like, 'Do you want kids down the road?' And I said, 'I think I do.' But it was never 'right now' or 'soon.' I think we both knew that we wanted to wait a few years and really grow as a couple first, solidify the marriage. He started getting the itch way before me, definitely, but it was a very open conversation, which I loved and appreciated. Even though he was ready, he didn't pressure me or make me feel bad because I wasn't there yet."

And with the times and expectations of women in motherhood evolving, data shows that Good isn't the only one who has moved forward with the process. In fact, more women have frozen their eggs during the pandemic than have ever in the past, a number expected to grow 25 percent annually for the next few years.

As far as how the process was for her, Good says, "it wasn't a nightmare at all."

"I froze my eggs three years ago. I think everyone's different, but for me, it wasn't a nightmare at all. The process gave me peace of mind, 100%. I have my faith, and freezing my eggs, to be proactive instead of reactive, is me putting in work with my faith. You'll never regret doing it, but you might really regret not doing it."

Ultimately, our girl is on track to becoming a mommy.

"I want to be a mom and I want a family and I'm just now to a place where I think it's about that time. We were looking to start this year, but then the pandemic happened. But I'm excited! Because I can't wait to get to it now. That's a very new thing for me. It's a really cool feeling."

We're sending all the love as you embark on your journey to motherhood, Meagan!

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Before she was Amira Unplugged, rapper, singer, and a Becoming a Popstar contestant on MTV, she was Amira Daughtery, a twenty-five year-old Georgian, with aspirations of becoming a lawyer. “I thought my career path was going to lead me to law because that’s the way I thought I would help people,” Amira tells xoNecole. “[But] I always came back to music.”

A music lover since childhood, Amira grew up in an artistic household where passion for music was emphasized. “My dad has always been my huge inspiration for music because he’s a musician himself and is so passionate about the history of music.” Amira’s also dealt with deafness in one ear since she was a toddler, a condition which she says only makes her more “intentional” about the music she makes, to ensure that what she hears inside her head can translate the way she wants it to for audiences.

“The loss of hearing means a person can’t experience music in the conventional way,” she says. “I’ve always responded to bigger, bolder anthemic songs because I can feel them [the vibrations] in my body, and I want to be sure my music does this for deaf/HOH people and everyone.”

A Black woman wearing a black hijab and black and gold dress stands in between two men who are both wearing black pants and colorful jackets and necklaces

Amira Unplugged and other contestants on Becoming a Popstar

Amira Unplugged / MTV

In order to lift people’s spirits at the beginning of the pandemic, Amira began posting videos on TikTok of herself singing and using sign language so her music could reach her deaf fans as well. She was surprised by how quickly she was able to amass a large audience. It was through her videos that she caught the attention of a talent scout for MTV’s new music competition show for rising TikTok singers, Becoming a Popstar. After a three-month process, Amira was one of those picked to be a contestant on the show.

Becoming a Popstar, as Amira describes, is different from other music competition shows we’ve all come to know over the years. “Well, first of all, it’s all original music. There’s not a single cover,” she says. “We have to write these songs in like a day or two and then meet with our producers, meet with our directors. Every week, we are producing a full project for people to vote on and decide if they’d listen to it on the radio.”

To make sure her deaf/HOH audiences can feel her songs, she makes sure to “add more bass, guitar, and violin in unique patterns.” She also incorporates “higher pitch sounds with like chimes, bells, and piccolo,” because, she says, they’re easier to feel. “But it’s less about the kind of instrument and more about how I arrange the pattern of the song. Everything I do is to create an atmosphere, a sensation, to make my music a multi-sensory experience.”

She says that working alongside the judges–pop stars Joe Jonas and Becky G, and choreographer Sean Bankhead – has helped expand her artistry. “Joe was really more about the vocal quality and the timber and Becky was really about the passion of [the song] and being convinced this was something you believed in,” she says. “And what was really great about [our choreographer] Sean is that obviously he’s a choreographer to the stars – Lil Nas X, Normani – but he didn’t only focus on choreo, he focused on stage presence, he focused on the overall message of the song. And I think all those critiques week to week helped us hone in on what we wanted to be saying with our next song.”

As her star rises, it’s been both her Muslim faith and her friends, whom she calls “The Glasses Gang” (“because none of us can see!”), that continue to ground her. “The Muslim and the Muslima community have really gone hard [supporting me] and all these people have come together and I truly appreciate them,” Amira says. “I have just been flooded with DMs and emails and texts from [young muslim kids] people who have just been so inspired,” she says. “People who have said they have never seen anything like this, that I embody a lot of the style that they wanted to see and that the message hit them, which is really the most important thing to me.”

A Black woman wears a long, salmon pink hijab, black outfit and pink boots, smiling down at the camera with her arm outstretched to it.

Amira Unplugged

Amira Unplugged / MTV

Throughout the show’s production, she was able to continue to uphold her faith practices with the help of the crew, such as making sure her food was halal, having time to pray, dressing modestly, and working with female choreographers. “If people can accept this, can learn, and can grow, and bring more people into the fold of this industry, then I’m making a real difference,” she says.

Though she didn’t win the competition, this is only the beginning for Amira. Whether it’s on Becoming a Popstar or her videos online, Amira has made it clear she has no plans on going anywhere but up. “I’m so excited that I’ve gotten this opportunity because this is really, truly what I think I’m meant to do.”

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