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LeToya Luckett Says Co-Parenting Shouldn't Be About Fixing The Past With Your Ex

"Get a therapist and don't try to fix what went wrong in the marriage, in the co-parenting space."

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LeToya Luckett's last two years has been much of that of a roller coaster. She went from publicly being in marital and wedded bliss, to an unapologetic and necessary divorce, all while raising two children in the process. Somehow, she has managed to do all of the above with grace, a quality she has worn well throughout her marriage woes.


Her IG is now filled with girls' trips, coordinated 'fits, self-care shots, and sis switched up the 'do, which got us out here hollering 'new hair, who dis?!'

Well, now our girl LeToya is ready to open up, as she took to her Instagram to confirm her divorce and offer up the biggest lessons she's learned in the process.

While on vacation in Cabo, the "Torn" singer took a moment to address and clear up what's been going on in her life. She went on IG Live, and opened up about it all.

"You know, I think that as long as people keep the kids first, and what's in the best interest of the children, that's what's most important. When you consider them first. Sometimes--most of the times--it's not about us. It's not about the parents, [or] things that went wrong."

She continued as she dropped a few gems, all while reiterating there's no chance in a reconciliation.

"My therapist told me, what's important when you're in the co-parenting space is to try not to fix what went wrong in the marriage in the co-parenting space. Don't try and fix your problems from the past in your new chapter. Don't bring it with you although, the same people are gonna be there and you guys are in a new relationship, if you will."

LeToya and ex-husband Tommicus, are coming off of a trip, where they took all of their children, including Tommicus' daughter Madison, to Disneyland. The trip was steeped in co-parenting goals as they walked the park and enjoyed their kids in videos posted to their social media accounts.

"If you're in the co-parenting space, focus on co-parenting, focus on what's best for the kids, not trying to fix or save--but if you want to save or reconcile, baby hey, have at it, I'm all here for the love! Yes, I am. But, if that's not your focus and those aren't your intentions, then yes, I would definitely suggest not trying to fix what happened in the past, in your co-parenting space. It's not gone help. It's gone cause problems."

And according to the newly single mom, the only way to make sure lines aren't blurred, is to set crystal-clear boundaries.

Back in March, Tommicus very publicly went on a campaign to get his wife to come home by writing on social media, "I need my wife back," to which LeToya seemingly responded with a meme'd statement of her own shortly after: "Make room for the right people to enter your life by clearing out those who don't belong. Be firm about what you deserve."

Since, she has moved on, secretly divorced, figured out a new normal in this very relationship, and chose herself. A reconciliation may not be in the cards for the two, and that's a boundary that LeToya has always made known. Cheers to the maturity and the work put in by both, to ensure the kids are priority above all.

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