Social Media Can Make Or Break Your Relationships, Ask Jhene & Big Sean
This week, rumors surfaced that rapper Big Sean got cozy with former Pussycat Doll Nicole Scherzinger and his girl, songstress Jhene Aiko is not with the drama. She took to Twitter to denounce the rumors and affirm that everything is good in the hood with her and her boo. Big Sean validated that their home was un-wrecked and still happy in a comment under one of his Instagram posts:
"It's not true at all. Y'all wasted no time though telling me how much I ain't s–t tho with no doubt in your mind…cause the internet said so? Thanks for the support."
Aiko and the rapper first announced their relationship after she ended her marriage with producer Dot da Genius in 2016. Since the beginning, the relationship between them has been extremely public. The pair have a group together (TWENTY88) and are often seen and photographed together, sometimes even color-coordinated, thanks in part to their shared stylist Ade Samuel.
Aiko is candid about her thirst for her man, sometimes even leaving freaky messages in his comment section. In 2017, the singer even got Big Sean's face tatted on her to commemorate her divorce being finalized, so he knows it's real.
We live in the age of reality TV, where the public is able to speculate and voice their opinions about relationships based only on what they know from social media; in Aiko's case, social media claims to know a lot. Tabloids have gone as far as to involve Big Seans ex, Ariana Grande, and spout conjectures about a potential break-up.
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Though none of this information has been confirmed, it has to be hard on the couple to maintain a relationship with everyone in their business.
We all know the story: boy meets girl, they fall in love and post it all over the 'gram. Social media has become a huge part of our lives and our experiences in relationships. The easy access of information that Twitter, SnapChat, and Twitter provide fertile ground for misinformation.
There is a notable difference between couples who choose to keep what's personal, private and couples who put their relationship on display to the world via social media. Remember that quality time is much more important that the quantity of times you appear on your man's Instagram.
Here are three rules to live by when it comes to your boo and social media:
Keep your arguments private.
In a relationship, you have disagreements and words get thrown around that you don't mean. You may forget and forgive your boo for reckless posting, but the internet wont. I was always told to keep arguments private because your family and friends will hold a grudge long after you let it go.
Understand the difference between sacred and secret.
When we feel that a relationship is growing or thriving, it's almost instinctual to show ownership on social media by changing your relationship status or posting a pic. Our social media-centric generation has created a culture that says that if your partner is not publicly claiming you on social media that your relationship is not really valid, they must be hiding something or hiding you from someone. On the other hand, how can you keep a relationship between two people truly sacred if the rest of the world is involved in your codevelopment? The key is to find balance. Showing off your love on social media can be a sign of affection as long as you keep what's personal, private.
#Relationshipgoals aren't reality.
So often, we forget that what happens on social media does not equate to reality. Just because someone posts a lot of pictures online doesn't mean they're happy in real life. What many of us often forget about a picture is that it can be painted to look pretty and it often isn't reflective of the whole story. Keep in mind that the grass is always greener on the other side, and try not to compare your relationship to the ones you see on social media.
Everything that glitters ain't gold baby.
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Taylor "Pretty" Honore is a spiritually centered and equally provocative rapper from Baton Rouge, Louisiana with a love for people and storytelling. You can probably find me planting herbs in your local community garden, blasting "Back That Thang Up" from my mini speaker. Let's get to know each other: @prettyhonore.
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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It’s spring, and it’s time to blossom into our favorite pastel nail colors. We can finally part ways with dark, neutral tones, looking forward to colors that make us feel lighter in spirit. Spring is a time to lighten the mood with floral designs and other aesthetics. Soon, our social media feeds will be filled with tons of nail inspiration, giving us many options. However, we can also understand how time-consuming it can be to find the perfect nail design.
We’ve collected 10 of the trendiest nails for every aesthetic. Warning: choosing one of these designs may cause every girl to ask you where you got your nails inspo from. In those moments, it’s advised to remember us. You’ve been warned.
Subtle Pastel Girlie
So, if you want to ease into your pastel colors, we get it. This nail art is perfect for getting into the nail season without fully committing. We love the subtle flower design with nude undertones. This color palette is ideal for anyone looking to keep their “clean girl aesthetic” without being too dull. If the solid pink color is still too much for your liking, try opting for nude on all the nails and allowing the two floral design to have their moment. There are many ways to get into the season without stepping outside our comfort zone.
Chrome Flower Girl
This nail design is an absolute show-stopper! Make everyone blind every time you wave hello with this incredible chrome art. This design is unique because of the gorgeous mix of purples, pinks, and yellows. This design is for the girl ready to move on from winter and enter her “spring girl era.” As if the colors alone weren’t enough, the two floral designs are the icing on this already captivating work of art. Live spring out loud with this masterpiece!
Yellow Mellow
Yellow is a signature spring color. This design honors the season with various yellows, making it stand out. Each pigment adds contrast to the design. This color scheme makes us want to break up with the typical nude aesthetic that has been around for way too long. Move forward and be the spotlight with the incredible yellow design.
Short But Mighty
Calling all of my short-nail girls! Yes, the rumors are true - we can have fun too. Short nails get a bad rap for not being as flashy as long nails. This design put those rumors to rest with its adorable pastel nail aesthetic. We love the hint of green complimented with pink floral nail art. This design is fun, classic, and refreshing for the upcoming season. Must have short nails for your job? No problem! Don’t lose out on feeling like that girl with this not-so-subtle nail art.
Pastel Anyone?
Gorgeous, gorgeous girls wear pastels! Can’t pick one pastel color for your next nail appointment? No worries! The beauty of nail art is that there are no rules. You can wear each pastel color on your fingertips with no regrets. This nail design proves just that with its impeccable color scheme matched with chrome to make things more interesting. Don’t stress yourself trying to find a design or pick a color. Do it all! You only live once, after all.
French Tip With A Twist
We love a classic white French tip as much as the next person, but in 2024, we are stepping it up! This pastel French tip will have all the girls screaming. Become mesmerized by the swirls of pinks, blues, and yellows across your tips. With this nail design, you’ll have anyone under your spell.
Easter Treat
Easter isn’t over until we say it’s over! This adorable Easter-inspired design will have you leaping into spring. Just look at those cute bunnies complimented with Easter eggs! The colors, design, and festive aesthetic have us jumping for joy. This design also has a nice balance of nudes, which can be great for anyone who wants to have fun with their nails and stay committed to neutral tones. This design has something everyone can appreciate, from the nail art girlie to the neutral girlie.
Simple Spring Chic
We have the perfect nail inspiration for you if you want to keep things clean and classic. This simple nail color eases into the season while still maintaining a classic touch. Let your jewelry be the glam when rocking this clean nail color.
Flower Girl
This design truly captures spring without words. From the colors to the flowers, there isn’t a part of this design that isn’t refreshing. The hues of pink alone give us soft girl Barbie vibes. Let your hands do all the talking with this perfect nail art.
Seeing Things Clearly
Finally, winter is behind us, and the spring sun allows us to see things clearly - just like this nail design! Clear nails have not gotten enough respect until now. These gel x clear spring nails are all you need to set the tone for the season. Colorful flowers are the main vocal point of the design while remaining simple. This design is a breath of fresh air we’ve all been waiting for. Welcome to spring!
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