

The Ultimate Guide To Maximizing Your Time & Minimizing Burnout
After a 72-hour migraine, I found myself in an emergency room with debilitating pain. The doctor found nothing wrong and my vitals were all clear. Yet, the headaches persisted, and I knew this was something deeper. For months, my energy had been decreasing and the easiest tasks had to be broken up into parts. I was exhausted. Not your average get a good night's rest and wake up refreshed, but the kind of exhaustion that tires out every fiber in your body, forcing you to have several seats without consent. I was experiencing burnout.
The stress of trying to be the magical black girl, doing all things for all people, all while keeping up my social calendar after losing my job and trying not to lose my cool. My body was taxed and the stress manifested in form of migraines, stomach pain, and fatigue. Burnout is a state of emotional, physical, and mental exhaustion caused by excessive and prolonged stress. It occurs when you feel overwhelmed, emotionally drained, and unable to meet constant demands.
This wasn't the first time I've experienced this. In undergrad, after returning from a semester abroad, I received the news that two of my classes wouldn't be accepted. This forced me into overdrive since my ego wouldn't allow me not to graduate on time. I took 18 credits in the fall, 3 credits during the winter session, 22 credits in the spring, which required approval from the dean, and 6 credits in the summer. I did all this while commuting and working part-time.
You may say I have a penchant for working in high-stress situations; I would say I didn't know how to function otherwise.
Many of us don't know when we're dealing with burnout or chronic burnout. Common symptoms of burnout include:
- Development of an escapist mentality
- Feeling empty inside
- Obsession over problems at work or in life
- Pessimistic outlook on work and life
- Physical symptoms intensify and/or increase
- Self-doubt
- Social isolation
- Behavioral changes
- Chronic headaches
- Chronic stomach or bowel problems
- Complete neglect of personal needs
- Continuation or increase in escapist activities
- Desire to "drop out" of society
- Desire to move away from work or friends/family
According to Fast Company:
"Millennials are called the burnout generation. High-achieving perfectionists–especially self-critical ones–work hard to avoid failure and put themselves at higher risk of burnout. We graduated college with the pressure to be 'successful,' and we've been told that means aiming (and climbing) for the top of the pyramid."
I've had many peaks and valleys in my life and throughout my career and each came with its own set of lessons. Now I know the only way for me to get out of this rut was to tell the truth, first to myself, and then to others. As painful as it is, introspection is a necessary first step in your healing journey. Think about your personal life. Do you have social support, and work-life balance? What about your job? Do you feel in control of your career, have clear job expectations, and feel like the work is a "fit" for your skills, or interests? If you answer "no" to these, you may be honing in on the areas of your life that could be setting you up for burnout.
If you're experiencing burnout, here's how to get through it:
1. Make Gratitude Your Constant Companion
Gratitude is the ultimate sign of being thankful. Honoring the journey allows you to stay current and connected to the issues at hand.
2. Schedule Content In Advance
Batching goes a long way for your blog, social media, or podcast. The same goes for email. If you respond to an email on a Sunday, use an app like Boomerang to schedule it to send at 9 a.m. on Monday. And if you're a fan of Gmail, you can also now schedule your emails to send through your desktop version of the platform.
3. Manage Expectations And Delegate
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Outsource work and build a supportive network of people you can rely on when you need help.
4. Create And Stick To Your Boundaries
Most of us don't realize that "no" is a complete sentence. It's time to put your big girl panties on and let them know they cannot and will not take advantage of you.
5. Make Space For Joy
Put on your favorite music, drop it low, and pick it back up. This could also include meditation, reading, or enjoying your favorite TV show.
6. Take A Nature Break
The sun naturally energizes you. Take your lunch break and go for a walk, you deserve it.
7. Above All Things, Get Your Rest
You must prioritize your sleep when recovering from burnout. Prepare for sleep 2-3 hours before bed by setting a nighttime routine, this could include defining your working hours, meal-prepping in advance, and whatever you find necessary.
I want you to know that burnout shouldn't be praised as a marker of hard work or success, but an indicator that self-care is needed. Take the break, sis.
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Ayana Iman is a certified life coach, professional speaker, and mama of one based in New Jersey. She's also known for her love of big hair, travel, and cooking. Find her across social @AyanaIman.
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Broccoli City Festival '23: An Elevating Urban Oasis Melding Music, Sustainability, And Empowerment
Broccoli City Festival happens every year in Washington, D.C., and this year we had the pleasure of attending! Before arriving, we were equipped with showtimes, lineups, site maps, and offers of free massages (for a select few festival goers). The sun was at its hottest, and so were the performances! The festival had two stages: Broccoli Stage, hosted by Mouse Jones, Bacon Bear, and City Stage, with Talk Tequila as their MC. Music was provided by DJ Flow, Jae Murphy, K Meta, and Bo.
The smell of food and the sound of fans screaming for their favorite artists is what festivals are known for. This particular lineup included GloRilla, Ice Spice, Kodak Black, Coco Jones, Finese2Tymes, Mariah The Scientist, Dess Dior, Lola Brooke, City Girls, as well as Brent Faiyaz, and that was just what the summer needed!
GloRilla
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Broccoli City Festival, founded in the mecca of Chocolate City, is black-owned and operated. The #BCFest, an annual event that celebrates the rich tapestry of cultural diversity and music, is much more than what meets the eye. While many are drawn to the festival for its captivating performances and vibrant atmosphere, it is important to recognize its profound emphasis on environmental awareness. Since its inception in 2013, the festival has maintained a steadfast mission of promoting social consciousness and fostering a deep sense of environmental responsibility.
With over 30 dynamic live performances across two stages, the Broccoli City Festival was an electrifying experience for attendees. Beyond the music, the festival offers an array of interactive art, games, activities, and sponsor activations, allowing individuals to fully immerse themselves in a captivating world of creativity. Moreover, a diverse culinary landscape awaited festival-goers, featuring an extensive selection of food and drink options, including delectable vegan and vegetarian choices. Notably, the festival generously provides FREE hydration stations, ensuring attendees can stay refreshed and hydrated throughout the event. For those of legal drinking age, cash bars adorned with an array of cocktails, beer, and wine offer a sophisticated and enjoyable experience.
Coco Jones
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At its core, Broccoli City is more than just a festival. It is a remarkable Black-owned social enterprise deeply committed to the progress and well-being of individuals. By curating innovative experiences that blend technology, music, art, and social impact, Broccoli City fosters a sense of community growth and propels creative expression to new heights.
Over the past decade, the impact of Broccoli City has been truly awe-inspiring. This remarkable enterprise has successfully mobilized over 20 million young people, both through its iconic festival events and its engaging online platforms. Through its unwavering dedication to social impact and its ability to inspire individuals to be agents of change, Broccoli City continues to be a driving force in shaping a brighter and more inclusive future.
Chloe Bailey
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The artists were on their A-game! Saucy Santana brought the bounce, the bops, and the booty to the stage, performing his hits "Walk Em Like A Dog," "Booty," and "Bop Bop Bop.” Chloe Bailey commanded the stage with her bubbly and fierce energy. This young star also continuously paused her set to check on her fans, who were trying to enjoy her in the scorching 93-degree weather, showing genuine care for her audience. Another fan favorite, Kodak Black, has a relationship with his fans that is to be admired. He has an incredible stage presence and a hype man for a DJ, but before, during, and after the show, he made sure to take selfies with his supporters. After his set, he walked through the festival grounds just to be closer to his fans and gave them yet another opportunity to take pictures.
Keke Palmer's performance at Broccoli City Festival was nothing short of awe-inspiring. Calling herself "The Boss," she effortlessly proved why she holds this title throughout her memorable career. From becoming the youngest Black female talk show host to gracing the legendary Met Gala red carpet and starring in culturally impactful masterpieces like Akeelah and The Bee and CrazySexyCool: The TLC Story, Palmer has consistently showcased her immense talent. Despite recent personal challenges, Palmer demonstrated her resilience and determination by delivering an unforgettable performance at Broccoli City Festival. In an astonishing display of generosity, she made it rain on the stage, showering a preselected group of fans with a staggering $10,000 in 50s and 20s. This act of kindness exemplified Palmer's genuine love and appreciation for her fans.
Keke Palmer
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Keke remains unstoppable, conquering any scandal or controversy that comes her way. Her performance was a testament to her unwavering commitment to her craft and her ability to rise above any adversity.
Ice Spice took the stage, captivating crowds and igniting an unforgettable experience. With a remarkable display of talent, this rising star left no stone unturned, leaving the audience on their feet and craving for more. In a mesmerizing blend of music and style, Ice Spice effortlessly harnessed the power of her artistry, unleashing an energy that reverberated through the entire festival grounds. As the beats dropped and the atmosphere reached its peak, time seemed to stand still, a testament to the sheer magnetism of this extraordinary performer.
Ice Spice
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Enthralled by the incredible vibes radiating from the stage, every spectator became a part of the resounding chorus of accolades and admiration. From passionate fans to curious onlookers, Ice Spice's spellbinding performance left no one unaffected. This is an artist who is firmly cementing her place among the greats, capturing hearts and captivating minds with her undeniable talent and magnetic stage presence. Don't miss a beat from this rising star – tap into the extraordinary vibes, bask in the effervescent energy, and witness the unstoppable rise of Ice Spice.
Unfortunately, Lil Uzi Vert and Jazmine Sullivan were not able to perform on the first day due to severe weather concerns. Lightning beamed through the skies, piercing the darkness and warning the crowd to retreat. The festival staff ensured that everyone was accounted for from start to finish. Security is almost always hit or miss at large events, and some media were not able to capture key moments due to a series of interruptions, but it all worked out in the end.
Safety was the main concern for BCFest! From the first day to the second, the routes to the stage were updated, and protocols were increased. Dehydration took over many fans, but with the artists stopping their sets to allow them to be escorted to safety, security passing out water, and medics readily available, the festival-goers were in good hands.
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