The moment I stepped into my 30s, my entire sense of self changed. It could be a placebo effect since women are often told, in many subtle and unsubtle ways, how life ends at 29. And if you're a single woman engrained in southern culture, you might be saturated with questions of children or marriage before you even hit 3-0. While it can be scary to transition from the wild days of your 20s to a seemingly quieter life in your 30s, we're slowly seeing that stereotype being shattered. We are surrounded by female icons and celebrities who refuse to adhere to the ageism experienced in almost every professional industry. And that confidence translates to your personal style.
More so than before, it's about the silhouette and investing in clothing that makes you feel comfortable and confident. In this stage, we're happily trading night outs for early morning boardroom meetings, and weekend ragers for staycations in the mountains with your intimate tribe.
Even if the mainstream trends are set by younger generations without a full paycheck or corporate jobs, there are plenty of trend-worthy pieces that will stand the test of time and work perfectly for the hustling lifestyle.
I'll be honest: I never understood the need for a perfect pair of suit pants until I got into my very late 20s. For many years, denim was my go-to gal so much so that I never bothered to date other types of trousers. But once you find your first pair of excellent suit pants, akin to finding a gifted nail technician, you never look back. And as elevated suiting resurges from its 90s grave, investing in suit pants that flatter is paramount.
Where to Shop: Re Ona, Hanifa
When you reach a certain level of confidence within your personal style, typically towards your late 20s and early 30s, it's no longer only about showing skin. Sex appeal is defined differently and your wardrobe needs to reflect that. For a first date night, a girls' night out, or an über-sexy moment; a satin dress will keep right - morning, noon, or night. You go with an ultra-mini hemline to show off those gorgeous legs or opt for an ankle-sweeping flare that flatters and elongates the legs. Either way, a satin dress is perfect for adding a significant amount of sex appeal to your style without sacrificing comfort.
Where to Shop: Kai Collective
Not only are the 90s strappy heels making a comeback, but they are also perfect to pair with almost anything found in a working woman's wardrobe. One of the key elements to nailing style in your 30's is utility. With the strappy heel, you can effortlessly dress them up or down - with a cozy pair of denim, under a perfect pair of trousers, or with your favorite midi dress. The longevity of this trend is one of the most enticing things about it; if you invest and take care of your items, you can carry this trend for decades.
Where to Shop: Tom Bianco; Lilly's Kloset
It's time to put your super skinny jeans on hold and invest in a new trend. As of late, and especially in the wake of a whole year of WFH, a perfect pair of loose-fit denim remains my best friend. Cropped or baggy; high rise or low rise; there are many options for the perfect loose-fit denim. As with many trends in this article, you can easily dress up your denim with a shorter blazer or strappy heels; you can also dress down by adding your favorite flats and crisp white shirt. After all, the name of the game is sustainability.
Where to Shop: Madewell, American Eagle, Good American
Whether you live in a cold climate is irrelevant; everyone needs a long-lined trench in their wardrobe. It's the one stellar go-to coat that you can style with elevated basics or your favorite corporate suit. Trench coats are available in a plethora of silhouettes, fabrics, and across a variety of price points - making them customizable to your personal style.
Where to Shop: Burberry, ASOS
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