7 Proven Ways Weed Makes Sex So Much Better
I've had weed in my lifetime. Smoked it. Tried a couple of edibles. One time, I underestimated the power of medicinal weed and lawd—that is another article for another day! But I'm not even close to what quite a few folks in my world are. I mean, I've got some real, top-notch, bona fide weed connoisseur in my space. And if there's one thing that they all unanimously agree on, it's the fact that if you want to take your sexual experience to another level, adding a little Mary Jane, brown sugar, cannabis into your life will definitely help you to do it.
If you're someone who is skeptical about that, I totally wrote this with you in mind. Not so much as a "commercial" for you to try cannabis yourself (to each their own, chile), but so you will consider having a more open mind about weed, in general and those who do enjoy it—whether they do so in the bedroom, out of it or both. By the way, I also wrote it for the weed-curious who are wondering if they really should believe the hype. So, are you ready to learn some of the sexual benefits that can directly come from a puff-puff-pass?
1. Weed Reduces Anxiety
If you're someone who struggles with feelings of anxiety, weed is something that could very well help you out. I once read a study that stated, out of the 9,000 people surveyed, half of them said that weed helped them to cope with anxiety, stress and depression-related symptoms more. That's because weed is capable of bringing calm and even improving one's quality of rest; especially if you're someone who is particularly sensitive to phobias, social anxiety, PTSD or sleep disorders.
How this ties into sex is, pretty much any reputable physician or sex therapist will vouch for the fact that, the reason why a lot of women struggle with climaxing is because they are overly anxious. If weed is brought into the mix, it can move your stress and tension out of the way, making it easier for you to orgasm. Sounds good to me.
2. Weed Can Give You an Energy Boost
If you're someone who is the living and breathing definition of the mind wanting to do what the body just can't seem to muster up, this is one more reason to give weed a try. There are certain strains that can legitimately give you quite the energy charge, so that you can have sex—or have it longer—than you usually do. A real popular weed pick-me-up strain is sativa. That's because it has a high THC (the compound in cannabis that gives you the "high feeling" effect) count (it sits somewhere around 22 percent). You can read more about this particular kind of strain here.
3. Weed Relieves Physical Discomfort
If you don't enjoy sex as much as you'd like to and it's strictly because you're in some type of physical pain or discomfort, weed can help here too. Not only is it able to help to modulate pain and elevate your serotonin (the natural chemical that calms your nerves and makes you feel happier) receptors but, the reality is, when you're feeling good, you tend to focus on pain less. Just one more reason to give weed a try, huh?
4. Weed Relaxes You
I'm thinking that it's a given that sex is always better when you're in a chilled out and relaxed kind of headspace. Well, something else that weed is really great at doing is taking some of the edge off, so that you are able to feel more peaceful. When it comes to this particular perk, the key is to take the "less is more approach" because, too much of a good thing, can actually trigger hyperactivity in some individuals. It's also a good idea to opt for a strain that is either indica-dominant or sativa-dominant; both of those have been proven to give the best woo-sah results.
5. Weed Can Make You Hornier
When it comes to what causes a low libido in women, the reasons run the gamut—hormonal imbalances; medical issues like diabetes, high blood pressure and arthritis; drinking too much alcohol; sleep deprivation; pain during sex and straight-up fatigue. For the record, if you're someone who normally has a fairly high drive and just recently, it has tanked, it's always a good idea to make an appointment with your doctor to see if there are any underlying health issues going on. If there's not, weed is something that can crank up your sex drive too. A strain known as limonene is one that comes with citrus scent varieties and can produce a strong euphoric feeling that can totally put you in the mood for coitus.
6. Weed Intensifies Orgasms
Can sex be good without an orgasm? Yep. Is sex a billion times more rewarding when you're able to have one? Also, yes. And guess what? There are many studies out here to support that another benefit that comes from incorporating weed into your sex life is it's able to intensify orgasms; especially our orgasms. I actually recently read an article that cited a study at Stanford Medical Heart's urology division. It said that, because weed definitely makes us less anxious and more relaxed, we don't overthink and less overthinking leads to 1) more orgasms and 2) better ones.
7. CBD Lube Is the Ultimate Weed Complement
This platform is such a fan of CBD lube that we actually did an article on it. Please make sure to read "Why Cannabis Lube Is The Best Thing To Get Yourself For V-Day" when you get a chance. In the meantime, if you want the Reader's Digest version of why you should, at the very least, add some of this kind of lubricant into your sex collection, I'll share a couple of solid reasons.
For one thing, lubricant always makes sex better, especially for us, because the wetter we are, the more pleasurable sex can be. As far as CBD specifically, it is the non-psychoactive compound in weed that comes with many medicinal benefits. Sexually, it's great because it's able to heighten sensitivity in your genital region and also help to decrease any discomfort if you happen to have a partner who is "blessed" in the packing department (if you know what I mean).
BONUS: Make Sure to Consider the Strain
Something that you might've noticed is, when it came to a few of these points, I also made sure to mention a particular kind of strain of cannabis as well. The reality is, not all weed is created equal; different kinds come with a different backstory and set of benefits. So, if there's a specific type of "effect" that you're looking for, it's a good idea to do some research on the strains that exist out in these streets. A site that can help you out is Leafly and an article that can help you out on the site is "The best strains of all time: 100 popular cannabis strains to try before you die". As far as where to cop various strains, this link here will help you to know if your state has legalized medicinal and/or recreational weed and this link here is just one place where you can order from dispensaries online.
Oh, and if you decide to go the edible route, just keep in mind that it can be hard to know how much weed—and therefore, how much THC—is in a brownie or cookie. If there's too much, you can easily go from swinging off of chandeliers to literally climbing the walls. So, on that tip, proceed with caution.
Welp. There you have it. Seven solid reasons why sex and weed do mix. In a really big, hot, erotic and euphoric kind of way. Wheeeeew.
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
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Damson Idris Says Being Raised By His Mom Influenced His Love For Black Women
It's raining men, hallelujah. Lucky for us, ESSENCE just rolled out their May/June issue, otherwise known as "The Men's Issue" with four new covers and their inaugural "Sexiest Men of the Moment" list featuring 18 Black men across various industries. Leading the pack and adorning the mag's coveted issue on different covers embodying different definitions of "sexy" are British actor Damson Idris, pro-athlete Russell Wilson, and the Usher Raymond.
The older you get, the more it's understood that sexiness isn't about appearance as much as it is an energy you embody. Sexy is as sexy does. It's something that recent NAACP Image Award winner Damson Idris understands to a T. "I think if you care about what you do, that’s sexy—and that’s inspiring," the 32-year-old actor reveals to ESSENCE in his cover story.
Here's what else the "man of mystery" shared with the publication:
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Damson on his love for Black women:
Damson was raised by his mother, Silifat "Philippa" Abike Idris, whom he affectionately called "my hero, my best friend, my guru" to the mag. He went on to detail to ESSENCE how being raised by a single mom informed his love for Black women:
"I just have a love for women. My mother is a Black woman, and that love stays with me. I feel protected by Black women. I feel loved by Black women. I feel at home."
Damson on keeping some things about his life private:
As the Snowfall actor's stock has steadily risen, so has his desire for privacy.
"I think privacy is key. I’ll speak to my industry, just as an actor and an artist. Someone once said, 'If they pay to see you for free during the week, they won’t pay to see you on the weekend.' So I stick to that philosophy—keep some of that mystique."
(L-R) Damson Idris and his mother Philippa Idris at the 55th NAACP Image Awards
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Damson on the importance of staying humble:
Damson shared with the mag that the most important life lesson he has learned in the industry is "to remain humble," something he also said was instilled in him from his mother.
"I love the saying, 'The giant looks in the mirror and sees nothing.' Humility is such an important thing that can take humans far."
Read the full cover story here. ESSENCE's May/June issue is available on newsstands April 23.
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