7 Proven Ways Weed Makes Sex So Much Better
I've had weed in my lifetime. Smoked it. Tried a couple of edibles. One time, I underestimated the power of medicinal weed and lawd—that is another article for another day! But I'm not even close to what quite a few folks in my world are. I mean, I've got some real, top-notch, bona fide weed connoisseur in my space. And if there's one thing that they all unanimously agree on, it's the fact that if you want to take your sexual experience to another level, adding a little Mary Jane, brown sugar, cannabis into your life will definitely help you to do it.
If you're someone who is skeptical about that, I totally wrote this with you in mind. Not so much as a "commercial" for you to try cannabis yourself (to each their own, chile), but so you will consider having a more open mind about weed, in general and those who do enjoy it—whether they do so in the bedroom, out of it or both. By the way, I also wrote it for the weed-curious who are wondering if they really should believe the hype. So, are you ready to learn some of the sexual benefits that can directly come from a puff-puff-pass?
1. Weed Reduces Anxiety
If you're someone who struggles with feelings of anxiety, weed is something that could very well help you out. I once read a study that stated, out of the 9,000 people surveyed, half of them said that weed helped them to cope with anxiety, stress and depression-related symptoms more. That's because weed is capable of bringing calm and even improving one's quality of rest; especially if you're someone who is particularly sensitive to phobias, social anxiety, PTSD or sleep disorders.
How this ties into sex is, pretty much any reputable physician or sex therapist will vouch for the fact that, the reason why a lot of women struggle with climaxing is because they are overly anxious. If weed is brought into the mix, it can move your stress and tension out of the way, making it easier for you to orgasm. Sounds good to me.
2. Weed Can Give You an Energy Boost
If you're someone who is the living and breathing definition of the mind wanting to do what the body just can't seem to muster up, this is one more reason to give weed a try. There are certain strains that can legitimately give you quite the energy charge, so that you can have sex—or have it longer—than you usually do. A real popular weed pick-me-up strain is sativa. That's because it has a high THC (the compound in cannabis that gives you the "high feeling" effect) count (it sits somewhere around 22 percent). You can read more about this particular kind of strain here.
3. Weed Relieves Physical Discomfort
If you don't enjoy sex as much as you'd like to and it's strictly because you're in some type of physical pain or discomfort, weed can help here too. Not only is it able to help to modulate pain and elevate your serotonin (the natural chemical that calms your nerves and makes you feel happier) receptors but, the reality is, when you're feeling good, you tend to focus on pain less. Just one more reason to give weed a try, huh?
4. Weed Relaxes You
I'm thinking that it's a given that sex is always better when you're in a chilled out and relaxed kind of headspace. Well, something else that weed is really great at doing is taking some of the edge off, so that you are able to feel more peaceful. When it comes to this particular perk, the key is to take the "less is more approach" because, too much of a good thing, can actually trigger hyperactivity in some individuals. It's also a good idea to opt for a strain that is either indica-dominant or sativa-dominant; both of those have been proven to give the best woo-sah results.
5. Weed Can Make You Hornier
When it comes to what causes a low libido in women, the reasons run the gamut—hormonal imbalances; medical issues like diabetes, high blood pressure and arthritis; drinking too much alcohol; sleep deprivation; pain during sex and straight-up fatigue. For the record, if you're someone who normally has a fairly high drive and just recently, it has tanked, it's always a good idea to make an appointment with your doctor to see if there are any underlying health issues going on. If there's not, weed is something that can crank up your sex drive too. A strain known as limonene is one that comes with citrus scent varieties and can produce a strong euphoric feeling that can totally put you in the mood for coitus.
6. Weed Intensifies Orgasms
Can sex be good without an orgasm? Yep. Is sex a billion times more rewarding when you're able to have one? Also, yes. And guess what? There are many studies out here to support that another benefit that comes from incorporating weed into your sex life is it's able to intensify orgasms; especially our orgasms. I actually recently read an article that cited a study at Stanford Medical Heart's urology division. It said that, because weed definitely makes us less anxious and more relaxed, we don't overthink and less overthinking leads to 1) more orgasms and 2) better ones.
7. CBD Lube Is the Ultimate Weed Complement
This platform is such a fan of CBD lube that we actually did an article on it. Please make sure to read "Why Cannabis Lube Is The Best Thing To Get Yourself For V-Day" when you get a chance. In the meantime, if you want the Reader's Digest version of why you should, at the very least, add some of this kind of lubricant into your sex collection, I'll share a couple of solid reasons.
For one thing, lubricant always makes sex better, especially for us, because the wetter we are, the more pleasurable sex can be. As far as CBD specifically, it is the non-psychoactive compound in weed that comes with many medicinal benefits. Sexually, it's great because it's able to heighten sensitivity in your genital region and also help to decrease any discomfort if you happen to have a partner who is "blessed" in the packing department (if you know what I mean).
BONUS: Make Sure to Consider the Strain
Something that you might've noticed is, when it came to a few of these points, I also made sure to mention a particular kind of strain of cannabis as well. The reality is, not all weed is created equal; different kinds come with a different backstory and set of benefits. So, if there's a specific type of "effect" that you're looking for, it's a good idea to do some research on the strains that exist out in these streets. A site that can help you out is Leafly and an article that can help you out on the site is "The best strains of all time: 100 popular cannabis strains to try before you die". As far as where to cop various strains, this link here will help you to know if your state has legalized medicinal and/or recreational weed and this link here is just one place where you can order from dispensaries online.
Oh, and if you decide to go the edible route, just keep in mind that it can be hard to know how much weed—and therefore, how much THC—is in a brownie or cookie. If there's too much, you can easily go from swinging off of chandeliers to literally climbing the walls. So, on that tip, proceed with caution.
Welp. There you have it. Seven solid reasons why sex and weed do mix. In a really big, hot, erotic and euphoric kind of way. Wheeeeew.
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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ItGirl 100: Get To Know Some Of The Most Inspiring And Empowering Women On Our List
The ItGirl 100 List, in partnership with Hyundai, is a celebration of 100 Black women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table.
We often see lists featuring amazing women who are seasoned in this thing called life, and our ItGirl 100 List gives flowers to the people they’ve passed the torch to: young millennial and Gen Z women who are innovating and disrupting in today’s world of advancement.
xoNecole has partnered with Hyundai for its inaugural ItGirl 100 List to give these women their flowers today. It’s a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who have built their own tables, launched new businesses, and redefined what it truly means to be blessed, booked, and busy.
Here’s a snapshot of fun facts from a few of the women listed on the ItGirl 100, representing the East, West, Midwest, and South:
EAST
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DJ 9AM: DJ & Curator
Representing: Brooklyn
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "On My Mama" by Victoria Monét
Favorite OG It Girl: Nia Long
Zodiac Big Three: Cancer Sun, Taurus Moon, Pisces Rising
Favoring open-format, multi-genre mixes, this DJ has created a winning reputation for rocking a crowd with seamless transitions and selections, always representing Southwest musical and cultural influences.
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Tiffany James, Founder, Modern BLK Girl
Representing:Brooklyn
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "Lucky Girl" by Carlina
Favorite OG It Girl:Naomi Campbell
Zodiac Big Three: Sagittarius Sun, Leo Moon, Virgo Rising
Modern BLK Girl is one of the leading investment groups among women of color, and the founder serves as an avid investor, community builder, and advocate. Tiffany James is also a mentor, utilizing her unique combination of financial and fashion expertise.
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Kat Mateo, Casting Director
Representing: New Jersey
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "Princess Going Digital" by Amaarae
Favorite OG It Girl: Kelis, Eve, Lil Kim
Zodiac Big Three: Aries Sun, Cancer Moon, Cancer Rising
Thriving as a casting director and stylist, Kat Mateo offers a unique point of view that has shaped New York Fashion Week shows, ad campaigns, and editorials. She has also been a major contributor to cultural conversations related to fashion and inclusivity.
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Denise Stephanie Hewitt, Photographer
Representing: Brooklyn
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "Experience" by Victoria Monét
Favorite OG It Girl: Hannah Montana
Zodiac Big Three: Taurus Sun, Aquarius Moon, Aquarius Rising
This Gordon Parks Foundation scholar is a full-time student who has been working to expand her freelance career in photography. Denise is also been featured among Essence'sinaugural list of "Top 10 Creators Under 30," for her unique aesthetics and perceptions through her art.
WEST
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Nayamka Roberts-Smith, Aesthetician
Representing: Los Angeles
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "Tomorrow 2" by GloRilla & Cardi B
Favorite OG It Girl: Meagan Good
Zodiac Big Three: Sagittarius Sun, Leo Moon, Capricorn Rising
Nayamka Roberts-Smith is an award-winning professional in the skincare industry and serves as an educator, offering knowledge on beauty culture. She also is a well-sought-after speaker on beauty and women’s issues, with a following of more than 1 million on social.
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Desiree L. Talley, Esq., Vice President, Legal & Business Affairs, Revolt TV
Representing: Los Angeles
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "Nice" by The Carters
Favorite OG It Girl: Issa Rae
Zodiac Big Three: Cancer Sun, Scorpio Moon, Cancer Rising
An attorney and storyteller, Desiree L. Talley meshes relatability with her legal smarts for the culture. She advocates for cultural advancement and societal change through her POPLAW Podcast while balancing her executive duties at Revolt TV.
Marley Rae
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Marley Rae, Organizer, WalkGood
Representing: Los Angeles
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "Nice For What" by Drake
Favorite OG It Girl: Mariah Carey
Zodiac Big Three: Capricorn Sun, Taurus Moon, Leo Rising
Marley Rae is a Nike Athlete, certified yoga instructor, COO, and Director of Health and Wellness for WalkGood LA, a family-founded non-profit organization. She is dedicated to fostering understanding and care in local and global communities.
MIDWEST
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Shawnee Dez
Representing: Chicago
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "FreeBody Freestyle" by Shawnee Dez
Favorite OG It Girl: Toni Morrison
Zodiac Big Three: Cancer Sun, Aquarius Moon, Cancer Rising
Shawnee Dez is an artist who's all about captivating her audience through encouragement and empowerment. Her music features fluid harmonic layering, live instrumentation fused with digital production, and her unique multi-talented voice in an alto melodic tone.
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Bianca Pastel, Visual Artist
Representing: Chicago
Ultimate ItGirl Song: Anything by Whitney Houston
Favorite OG It Girl: Grace Jones
Zodiac Big Three: Taurus Sun, Leo Moon, Sagittarius Rising
Bianca Pastel's artistic portfolio includes fine art, illustrations, and animation, and she's worked with clients including Disney Pixar, and the NFL, to name a few. Her focus is "empowering the experience of being a Black child and dealing with mental health issues."
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Donyale Walton, Founder, Hoop Mobb
Representing: Detroit
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "Yeah I Said It" by Rihanna
Favorite OG It Girl: Aaliyah
Zodiac Big Three: Virgo Sun, Libra Moon, Capricorn Rising
Donyale Walton's brand Hoop Mobb, celebrates the Black and Brown fashion and cultural impact and presence of hoop earrings. It's grown to earn more than seven figures in annual revenue and a nationwide community of loyal consumers.
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Ticara Devone, Content Creator
Representing: Chicago
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "She's a Bitch" by Missy Elliott
Favorite OG It Girl: Ananda Lewis
The Zodiac Big Three: Libra Sun, Taurus Moon, Virgo Rising
A trusted sneaker enthusiast and content creator, Ticara Devone uses dynamic storytelling to hold space for others with a passion for sneakers. A published writer, she’s worked with brands including Nike and Footlocker and inspires us all by ensuring women are vocal and seen in the multi-billion dollar shoe space.
SOUTH
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AllyiahsFace, Content Creator
Representing: Atlanta
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "Go Off" Doja Cat
Favorite OG It Girl: Gabrielle Union and Halle Berry
Zodiac Big Three: Gemini Sun, Leo Moon, Scorpio Rising
AllyiahsFace's YouTube channel has more than 830,000 subscribers, and she's been hitting the ground running since 2015. Her content creation, which centers on beauty, fashion, and lifestyle, has led to a lucrative career and drawn a close-knit social and real-life community to view and be inspired.
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Jaycina, Executive Director, Tender
Representing: Atlanta
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "All I Got" by Amel Larrieux
Favorite OG It Girl:Tracee Ellis Ross
Zodiac Big Three: Leo Sun, Sagittarius Moon, Sagittarius Rising
Jaycina is a signed model with a nonprofit that works to provide support and community for single mothers in Atlanta. She's also appeared in campaigns for brands including Fenty and GAP as well as features in all your favorite magazines and on billboards across the country.
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Asha Christian, Founder, Coily App
Representing: Atlanta
Ultimate ItGirl Song: "It's My Life" by Mariah Carey
Favorite OG It Girl: Toni Childs (Girlfriends)
Zodiac Big Three: Sagittarius Sun, Leo Moon, Leo Rising
Asha Christian created Coily to provide beauty recommendations utilizing social data. It offers a more personalized, AI-driven experience for users and part of her mission is to provide solutions related to diversity and put the focus back on the consumer. Meshing tech and culture, Christian is innovating with options that exemplify the Black girl magic needed in tech.
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