I’ll Be Living In These Sets All Season - You Should, Too
I have never been more grateful for a coordinate set than as of late. My two favorite things about this style: ease and versatility. The fact that you can reside in a matching getup for both a date and a Zoom meeting is a gift from the style gods. In addition, the set can be styled separately with everything from flare jeans to a graphic tee. We are sure loungewear has taken over your social media feeds so we decided to show you how we are rocking our favorite sets whether you're out and about or inside chilling. Ahead, find the definition of luxe lounging with a curated list of some of the best loungewear sets to rock this season.
Black on Black Loungewear Set
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For the protest or the Target run that can't wait, slip into a black on black set with a powerful message. As for me and my house, my message is Protect All Black Girls. The moment I saw this crewneck from Legendary Rootz, I knew I had to create a DIY set. I already had a pair of comfy joggers from H&M so just like that I had a set that will undoubtedly make Trump supporters cry.
Pop of Color Loungewear Set
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Even though the season has changed, just know that the tie-dye trend ain't going anywhere. From Rihanna to Quavo, even celebrities love a good luminous moment. This mix and match Missguided set features two different tie-dye patterns but it still pairs like a cotton candy dream. I can't get enough of the oversized joggers because they are giving 90s while the crop of the top is giving 80s.
Knitted Up Loungewear Set
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If cozy and chic were a set, it would be this knitted sweater and jogger set from Boohoo. Loungewear has been the MVP since the beginning of quarantine and it's not letting up especially with the drop in temperatures and increase in COVID cases. If I am going to be in the house, I minus whale be cute! If you want to really serve it up for your living room, find a pair of cute matching socks to create a monochromatic lewk.
Tie-Dye Luxury Loungewear Set
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Black girls and luxury should be synonymous. That's the new movement. That's why I'm living in this designer TOMBOI set designed by CR LEE, because I deserve. Of all the sets, I felt most inclined to elevate this top and bottom by coupling it with strappy sandals and a vintage trench coat. The Telfar micro bag, aka the Brooklyn Birkin, deserved to be a part of this Black designer getup; it brought out the contrast in the TOMBOI embroidery. I high-key want to wear this number to every single socially-distanced function.
Velour Dream Loungewear Set
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Velour is the word. Style is the game. I went the extra mile and added a velvet headband to really get my point across. The Baby Phat nostalgia is real every time I rock this set because it takes me back to a much simpler time where my Razr phone was my life and being in My Top 8 on MySpace was an honor. Channel that innocent energy while enjoying a new book in your favorite spot on the couch.
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Beyond Burnout: Nicole Walters' Blueprint For Achieving Career Success On Your Own Terms
Nicole Walters has always been known for two things: her ambition and her ability to recognize when life’s challenges can also double as an inspiring, lucrative brand.
This was first evident more than a decade ago when she quit her job as the corporate executive of a Fortune 500 company during a Periscope livestream. “I’m not sure if there’s an alignment of [our] future trajectory. I’m going to work for myself. I'm promoting myself to work for myself,” she said at the time before flashing a smile at the viewing audience. As she resigned on camera, a constant stream of encouraging messages floated upwards on the screen.
By 2021, she’d fashioned her work as a corporate consultant and her personal life with her husband and three adopted daughters into a reality show, She’s The Boss, for USA Network. This year, she released the New York Times bestselling memoir Nothing Is Missing, written as she was in the process of getting a divorce and dealing with her eldest daughter’s struggles with substance use.
Convinced that there’s no way the 39-year-old has achieved all of this without intentional strategic planning, I asked her about it when we spoke less than a week before Christmas. I’d seen videos on social media of her working on 2024 planning for other brands, and I wanted to know what that looked like following her own year of success.
She listed a number of goals, including ensuring that the projects she takes on in the new year align with her identity “as a Black woman, as an African woman, as a mother, as someone who has lived a [rebuilding] season and is now trying to live boldly and entirely as themselves.” But, I was shocked by how much of her business planning also prioritized rest.
Despite the bestselling book, a self-titled podcast, and working with numerous corporations, Walters said she’s been taking Fridays off. This year, she doesn’t want to work on Mondays, either.
“A lot of us think we work hard until retirement hits. I want to progress towards retirement,” she said, noting that she’ll check in with herself around March to see how successful this plan has been. The goal, Walters said, is to only be working on Tuesdays and Thursdays by sometime in 2025. “It is intentionally building out what I know I would like to have happen and not waiting for exhaustion to be the trigger of change.”
"A lot of us think we work hard until retirement hits. I want to progress towards retirement... It is intentionally building out what I know I would like to happen and not waiting for exhaustion to be the trigger of change."
Walters said the decision to progressively work less was partially in response to her previously held notions about her career, especially as an entrepreneur. “When I first started, I thought burnout was a part of it,” she said. “What I didn’t realize is that even if you’re able to bounce out of burnout or get back to it, there’s a cumulative impact on your body. If you think of your body as a tree and every time you go through burnout, you are taking a hack out of your trunk, yes, that trunk will heal over, and the tree will continue to grow, but it doesn't mean that you don’t have a weakened stem.”
But, the desire for increased rest was also in response to the major shifts that occurred three years ago when she was experiencing major changes in her family and realized her metaphorical tree was “bending all the way over.”
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“One of the things we have to recognize, especially as Black women, is that there is this engrained, societal, systemic notion that our worth is built around our productivity,” she added. “That is some language that I think is just now starting to really get unpacked.” In recent years, there’s been an increased awareness of achieving balance in life, with Tricia Hersey’s “The Nap Ministry” gaining attention based on the idea that rest, especially for Black women, is a form of resistance. Even online phrases such as “soft life” and “quiet quitting” have hinted at a cultural shift in prioritizing leisure over professional ambition.
"One of the things we have to recognize, especially as Black women, is that there is this engrained, societal, systemic notion that our worth is built around our productivity."
If companies are lining up to consult with Walters about their brands and products, then women have been looking to her for guidance on starting over since she invited them to livestream her resignation 12 years ago. As viewers continue to demand more from content creators in the form of intimate, personal details, Walters has navigated her personal brand with a sense of transparency without oversharing the vulnerable details about her life, especially when it comes to her family.
The entrepreneur said she’d been approached to write a book for several years and was initially convinced she was finally ready to write one about business. “I started to do that, and then I went through my divorce. When that happened, I said, why would I write a book telling people to get the life that I have when I’m not sure about the life that I have,” she said.
Instead, she decided to write Nothing Is Missing and provide a closer look at her life, starting with being born to immigrant Ghanaian parents (“You need to know my childhood to know why I’m passionate about entrepreneurship.”) through the adoption of her three daughters and eventual divorce. Despite her desire to share, however, she said she felt protective of the privacy of her family, including her ex-husband.
When discussing this with me, Walters said she was reminded of a lesson she learned from actress Kerry Washington, who released her own memoir, Thicker Than Water, just a week before Walters’ book release. Washington’s memoir grapples with family secrets, too, specifically the fact that she was conceived using a sperm donor and didn’t learn about it until she was already a successful TV star. While Washington reflects on how the decision and subsequent deception impacted her, she’s also careful to hold space for her parents’ experiences, too. “A lot of things she said was that she had to recognize where she was the supporting character and where she was the main character,” Walter said.
This is something Walter worked to do in Nothing Is Missing when discussing her daughter’s struggles with addiction. “I was very intentional about making sure that I did not reveal more than what was required,” she said. “If I say something about someone’s addiction, I don’t need to go into the list of the substances they used, how they used them, what I found. [I don’t need to] walk into a room and paint a picture of what it looked like for people to understand.”
Walters said some of the most vulnerable moments in the book barely made a ripple once it was released. She was extremely nervous to write about getting an abortion, she said. But no one has asked her about this in the months since the book was released. Instead, people have been more interested in quirkier revelations, such as the fact that she once appeared on Wheel of Fortune.
“I have bared my soul about this thing I went through in my youth that has changed me for people, and people are like, ‘So how heavy was the wheel when you spun it?’” she said, chuckling. “It just goes to show that people never worry about the thing that you worry about.”
With the success of Nothing Is Missing, Walters said she still isn’t planning to release a business book at the moment. But, as she navigates parenting a teenager and two adult children while also navigating a relationship with her new fiancé, Walters said she believes she has at least one or two more books to write about her personal journey. “There is sort of an arc of where my life has gone that I know I’ve got something more to say about this that I think is important, relevant and necessary,” she said.
In just three years, Walters’ life has undergone a major transformation. There’s no telling what the next three years will have in store for her, but it seems likely she’ll retain an inspired audience wherever life takes her.
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Ari Lennox Recounts Her Traumatic IUD Experience Gone Wrong: ‘I Did Collapse’
Singer Ari Lennox is opening up about the challenges women go through with birth control options.
In a candid clip shared on social media, the “Shea Butter Baby” artist revealed the details of the traumatic experience she had while getting an IUD (intrauterine device) for birth control that led to her collapse.
"I almost collapsed. I did collapse. The little insert joint, collapsation,” she shared in the video. “First of all, I went by myself. I’m talking ’bout the sh— women go through, y’all."
Ari Lennox shares a traumatic story about getting an IUD birth control inserted and collapsing from the pain afterward.
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The Dreamville singer highlighted the intensity of the situation, detailing the hormonal changes like weight gain and heightened emotions that she already experiences during her menstrual cycle.
“Birth control is hard because you can do the hormonal ones,” Lennox says. “Now you’re dealing with all kinds of hormonal stuff, and you’re gaining weight, and there’s a lot of emotions — I already have a lot of emotions.”
“The idea of like birth control on top of that? Oh my God. It’s literally giving The Purge,” she continued by likening her intense experience to a dystopian action film.
Lennox recounted having to stop during her drive back from the appointment, ultimately needing assistance from a friend to get her home.
"I thought I could drive myself. I was in so much pain. I drove into a CVS parking lot of the CVS [in Atlanta],” she said. “I couldn’t move. I couldn’t drive home. I was in so much pain. I had to lay down until I felt better.”
According to the Cleveland Clinic, an IUD is a form of birth control a healthcare provider inserts into your uterus. IUDs are the most commonly used type of long-acting reversible contraception (LARC), and once inserted, you don’t have to worry about birth control until it’s time to replace it (three to 10 years, depending on the brand).
While IUDs and contraceptive implants are considered the most effective form of birth control that doesn't require surgery, the side effects can be severe for some. Copper IUDs may worsen menstrual cramps and prompt heavier period bleeding for the first few months following insertion, along with extreme pelvic cramps and pain. For hormonal IUDs, some women can experience irregular or missed periods after insertion.
Women deserve to know their birth control options. If you’re considering using an IUD as your main source of contraception, it’s advised to discuss potential side effects with your healthcare provider. Contact them for guidance and potential removal.
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