

If you’re an introvert at work, just know that’s not as unusual as you might think. In fact, 38% of people say they are either completely introverted (9%) or mostly introverted (29%), according to a recent survey. Research has also found that introverts can have unique advantages over extroverts in the office including being more introspective and thoughtful, having more focus, and are often “gifted” in a specific niche or field.
Those findings alone give introverts bragging rights and should add a boost of confidence, especially if you’re in an office full of big shots who love to boast or people who are a bit more forward with the gift of gab or networking. So if you're part of the introverted gang, here are a few tips on communicating with confidence and authority as your true, authentic winning self:
1. Lean heavily into what makes being an introvert amazing.
As stated above, introverts are definitely always in their own heads, thinking things through and relying on their imagination. Use this to your advantage when speaking up about your ideas and communicating deliverables with your teams in order to fulfill your job duties and bring your amazing ideas to life.
Your attention to detail is a winning skill, so remember that when you're giving a presentation, asking for a promotion, or explaining a process you've upgraded at work. Your thoughtfulness is endearing and valuable, so use it to your advantage.
2. Prioritize intention and impact.
Extroverts might love attention and don't mind being the life of the party (or meeting), but for introverts, make your words count, whether you're speaking them out boldly or with quiet assertion. What do you want people to leave the room thinking? What's your main objective for speaking at the time? Who is your audience, and how can you drive a point without all the bells and whistles of humor or other forced efforts?
Stick to the most important points, back up your points with facts, and let those simple elements speak for themselves. People respect logic, poise, and facts.
3. Allow visuals to be the attention-grabber.
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I'd describe myself as an introverted extrovert in that I don't mind speaking in front of people, but I really don't like forcing engagement if I don't have to. I also love playing the background and I'm super-selective when it comes to my social energy, even in workplace or business situations.
A great way to stand out, though, for me, is to allow something else to serve as an icebreaker or something that introduces me in a positive way before I even speak. For example, I love wearing a brightly colored button-down blouse, dress, or shoe, a chic haircut, an interesting broach, or a tailored suit in a stylish hue or print.
Not only do those things give me confidence to slay a room, but they also signal that I'm someone to notice and respect. I have a signature look that has done wonders when it's time for me to network, lead a demonstration, or speak in front of crowds, and I don't have to put on some act just to seem confident.
If fashion or hair isn't your thing (or you work in an industry where you can't get too creative with those things), allow elements of your presentation or speech to be interesting, striking, well-organized, and visually appealing. Try presenting your ideas in a way that's interactive or animated.
And "interactive" doesn't mean you have to get supertechnical. It can be as simple as asking your team or audience open-ended questions that allow them to share opinions or experiences and create dialogue or using call-and-response methods when appropriate.
4. Add breathing and meditation techniques to your workplace routine.
I oftentimes find that when I have anxiety about speaking, getting all the attention, or interacting with others as an introvert, it's because I'm rushing my thoughts and I'm not as mentally centered as I should be. Breathing a five-minute prayer daily, adding meditation to my lunch breaks, or doing both right before an important meeting or event always helps. I can remind myself of how great I am, my unique talents and skills, and how I don't have to work hard to try to impress someone because I have the skills, knowledge, and abilities as a leader.
I also always remind myself that I am, indeed, worthy of taking up space and being acknowledged in a room and that other people are just as human as I am, no matter their title or status in life.
Try a few different breathing techniques and meditation practices until you find what works for you. And whether it's a deep practice or a bit of quick breath work, it's something to try out in order to quiet your mind and gather your nerves so that you can be at your best.
5. Partner with an extroverted wing woman.
Whether it's your lit cubical mate, project co-lead, or your industry bestie who works for a different company, find opportunities to have someone support you in your efforts to communicate better. This is especially good when it's time to network.
This doesn't mean let them over-talk or outshine you. They're simply someone you can bounce insights off of, talk with in between awkward hellos, or give you that boost of gall you need to go talk to someone solo.
You can feed off of their strengths, and they can feed off of yours in an even exchange. And sometimes, just having them in (or across) the room can be just the small push you need to be yourself while getting the job done.
Being an introvert at work is a superpower, so use that to your advantage. Reflect confidence in your research, fact-gathering, preparation, presentation, professional look, and the type of people you endear yourself to in your professional network. You'll see results and notice that communication in your own authentic way is easier than you think.
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Devale Ellis On Being A Provider, Marriage Growth & Redefining Fatherhood
In this candid episode of the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker talked with Devale Ellis, actor, social media personality, and star of Zatima, about modern masculinity, learning to be a better husband, emotional presence in marriage, fatherhood for Black men, and leading by example.
“I Wasn’t Present Emotionally”: Devale Ellis on Marriage Growth
Devale Ellis On Learning He Was a ‘Bad Husband’
Ellis grew up believing that a man should prioritize providing for his family. “I know this may come off as misogynistic, but I feel like it’s my responsibility as a man to pay for everything,” he said, emphasizing the wise guidance passed down by his father. However, five years into his marriage to long-time partner Khadeen Ellis, he realized provision wasn’t just financial.
“I was a bad husband because I wasn’t present emotionally… I wasn’t concerned about what she needed outside of the resources.”
Once he shifted his mindset, his marriage improved. “In me trying to be of service to her, I learned that me being of service created a woman who is now willing to be of service to me.”
On Redefining Masculinity and Fatherhood
For Ellis, “being a man is about being consistent.” As a father of four, he sees parenthood as a chance to reshape the future.
“Children give you another chance at life. I have four different opportunities right now to do my life all over again.”
He also works to uplift young Black men, reinforcing their worth in a world that often undermines them. His values extend to his career—Ellis refuses to play roles that involve domestic violence or sexual assault.
On Marriage, Family Planning, and Writing His Story
After his wife’s postpartum preeclampsia, Ellis chose a vasectomy over her taking hormonal birth control, further proving his commitment to their partnership. He and Khadeen share their journey in We Over Me, and his next book, Raising Kings: How Fatherhood Saved Me From Myself, is on the way.
Through honesty and growth, Devale Ellis challenges traditional ideas of masculinity, making his story one that resonates deeply with millennial women.
For the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker peels back the layers of masculinity with candid conversations that challenge stereotypes and celebrate vulnerability. Real men. Real stories. Real talk.
Want more real talk from xoMAN? Catch the full audio episodes every Tuesday on Spotify and Apple Podcasts, and don’t miss the full video drops every Wednesday on YouTube. Hit follow, subscribe, and stay tapped in.
Featured image by YouTube/xoNecole
Devale Ellis On Being A Provider, Marriage Growth & Redefining Fatherhood
In this candid episode of the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker talked with Devale Ellis, actor, social media personality, and star of Zatima, about modern masculinity, learning to be a better husband, emotional presence in marriage, fatherhood for Black men, and leading by example.
“I Wasn’t Present Emotionally”: Devale Ellis on Marriage Growth
Devale Ellis On Learning He Was a ‘Bad Husband’
Ellis grew up believing that a man should prioritize providing for his family. “I know this may come off as misogynistic, but I feel like it’s my responsibility as a man to pay for everything,” he said, emphasizing the wise guidance passed down by his father. However, five years into his marriage to long-time partner Khadeen Ellis, he realized provision wasn’t just financial.
“I was a bad husband because I wasn’t present emotionally… I wasn’t concerned about what she needed outside of the resources.”
Once he shifted his mindset, his marriage improved. “In me trying to be of service to her, I learned that me being of service created a woman who is now willing to be of service to me.”
On Redefining Masculinity and Fatherhood
For Ellis, “being a man is about being consistent.” As a father of four, he sees parenthood as a chance to reshape the future.
“Children give you another chance at life. I have four different opportunities right now to do my life all over again.”
He also works to uplift young Black men, reinforcing their worth in a world that often undermines them. His values extend to his career—Ellis refuses to play roles that involve domestic violence or sexual assault.
On Marriage, Family Planning, and Writing His Story
After his wife’s postpartum preeclampsia, Ellis chose a vasectomy over her taking hormonal birth control, further proving his commitment to their partnership. He and Khadeen share their journey in We Over Me, and his next book, Raising Kings: How Fatherhood Saved Me From Myself, is on the way.
Through honesty and growth, Devale Ellis challenges traditional ideas of masculinity, making his story one that resonates deeply with millennial women.
For the xoMAN podcast, host Kiara Walker peels back the layers of masculinity with candid conversations that challenge stereotypes and celebrate vulnerability. Real men. Real stories. Real talk.
Want more real talk from xoMAN? Catch the full audio episodes every Tuesday on Spotify and Apple Podcasts, and don’t miss the full video drops every Wednesday on YouTube. Hit follow, subscribe, and stay tapped in.
Featured image by YouTube/xoNecole