Now that you've canceled your meetings for the day, called out of work, and sat in your stylist's chair for more than six hours, your box braids are complete and you can give your Instagram-feed the Poetic Justice vibes it's been needing; but we all know that after a week or two, we're ready to free our tresses from their shackles and move on to a new style. To remedy this problem, we've searched the internet far and wide and compiled a list of ways to upgrade your traditional box braids into a whole masterpiece.
Nothing is more sacred to a Black woman than a fresh set of individuals and xoNecole is here to provide you with the perfect guide to how you can hook yours up just in time for the holiday season.
Here's a list of some of our favorite celebrity-inspired box braid styles that gives this old school hairstyle a modern makeover.
1.Ashley Blaine Featherson
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Ashley Blaine Featherson gave her box braid style a throwback feel by opting to put it into a half ponytail styled to the side.
2.Yvonne Orji
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Yvonne Orji achieved full queen status at ESSENCE's Black Women in Hollywood Awards this year and adorned her braided crown with a gold headband.
3.Teyonah Parris
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Teyonah Parris rocked this embellished box braid look in 2016 and it still hasn't gone out of style. Level up your look from simple to sophisticated by adding a floral element to your braided ponytail.
4.Skai Jackson
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This braided bow makes 17-year-old actress Skai Jackson look wise beyond her years, so it's sure to help you get your grown and sexy energy all the way together and you can learn exactly how to accomplish this style here.
5.Amandla Stenberg
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Amandla Stenberg gave her braids the ultimate upgrade by implementing different hues of blue braiding hair.
6.Jessica Williams
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Jessica Williams is a pro at box braids and proves that this look is perfect for days when you're prepared to let your jewelry and makeup be the stars of the show.
7.Danai Gurira
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Danai Gurira is always giving us the natural hair inspo we didn't know we needed, and this threaded box braid up-do is no exception.
8.Tessa Thompson
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Tessa Thompson can do no wrong, and her braids are everything that's right in this world.
9.Amandla Stenberg
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Queen of rocking braids on the red carpet, Amandla Stenberg stuns again, this time with an asymmetrical box braid bob. We couldn't help but add sis to the line-up.
10.Bantu Braids
Jessica Williams came through with the come through yet again with this Bantu braided style that we can't wait to try this winter.
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The origin of the word "discipline" can be traced back to the Latin word "disciplina," which means "instruction" or "teaching." Over time, however, discipline has come to be synonymous with punishment, with parents relying on shame, fear, and/or physical pain to curb undesirable behavior.
Teaching takes time, so nipping it in the bud in whatever fashion parents deem necessary (within reason) has become the norm. But is this what’s best for children? And when does it become less about curbing undesirable behavior and more about getting our licks back for offenses we feel our children should know better to do?
In my work as a parenting coach, I’ve often heard parents say, “I asked him nicely three times before spanking him. He didn’t stop doing it until I did, so clearly talking doesn’t work.”
And the parent isn’t wrong. Talking often doesn’t work the first, the third, or the even the 10th time. And the reason is directly tied to brain development.
Children cannot and do not process information the way an adult can. Auditory processing is not fully developed until a child is 14 or 15 years old. And even then, if a child has auditory processing delays or Auditory Processing Disorder (APD), they may always struggle with processing auditory commands. According to Susie S. Loraine, MA, CCC-SLP, the term auditory processing refers to how the brain perceives and interprets sound information. Several skills determine auditory processing ability—or listening success. They develop in a general four-step hierarchy, but all work together and are essential for daily listening.
Without this understanding, discipline can easily become revenge because parents will then view their child’s misdeeds as a personal slight. Instead of teaching them to do better, parents now want to show them the consequences of not doing better. This is why it's imperative for parents to discern between discipline and revenge to maintain healthy relationships with their children.
5 WAYS TO DISTINGUISH BETWEEN PARENTAL GUIDANCE AND RETALIATION:
Understanding The Intent
Discipline is rooted in love and concern for the child's well-being. It focuses on teaching lessons and helping children understand the consequences of their actions. Conversely, revenge-driven actions stem from a desire to inflict pain or punishment as payback for perceived slights or disobedience. Parents should reflect on their motives before taking disciplinary actions. Ask yourself whether your intention is to help your child learn or to make them suffer for upsetting you.
Example: If a child accidentally breaks a valuable item, a disciplinary response would involve discussing the importance of being careful and working with the child to come up with a way to replace or fix what they’ve broken. On the other hand, a vengeful reaction might involve yelling, harsh punishment, or bringing up past mistakes to intensify guilt.
Maintaining Emotional Regulation
Effective discipline requires parents to remain calm and composed, even in challenging situations. It's natural to feel upset or frustrated when children misbehave, but responding with anger or resentment can escalate the situation and blur the line between discipline and revenge. Before addressing the issue, take a moment to breathe and collect your thoughts.
Example: If a child cannot follow instructions, a disciplined response would involve calmly explaining why their cooperation is necessary in working with the child to accomplish the goal. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve shouting, name-calling, or resorting to physical punishment out of anger.
Promoting Growth and Learning
Discipline should always aim to promote growth and learning. It involves guiding children toward making better choices and understanding the impact of their actions on themselves and others. Effective discipline strategies include positive reinforcement, setting clear expectations, and providing opportunities for reflection and growth.
Example: If a child repeatedly forgets to complete their chores, a disciplinary approach would involve discussing the importance of responsibility and finding solutions together, such as creating a chore chart or setting reminders with Siri or Alexa. In contrast, a revenge-driven response might involve imposing overly harsh punishments or belittling the child, which can undermine their self-esteem and hinder their ability to learn from their mistakes.
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Building Trust and Communication
Trust and open communication are essential components of a healthy parent-child relationship. Discipline should strengthen this bond by fostering trust and encouraging children to confide in their parents without fear of judgment or retaliation. When children feel safe and supported, they're more likely to accept discipline as a form of guidance rather than punishment.
Example: If a child admits to breaking a rule or making a mistake, a disciplined response would involve listening to their perspective, discussing the consequences of their actions, and working together to find a solution. Conversely, a retaliatory response might involve accusations, blame, or shutting down communication, which can erode trust and damage the parent-child relationship.
Seeking Professional Guidance
Parenting is a learning journey, and, disciplining children is a delicate balance between guiding them toward responsible behavior and nurturing their growth. By understanding the intent behind our actions, maintaining emotional regulation, promoting growth and learning, building trust and communication, and seeking professional guidance when needed, as parents we can help our children built on love, respect, and understanding.
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