

Although telehealth has been around for many years at this point, I don’t think anyone would be surprised to hear that it saw a serious uptick during the pandemic. Since everyone was on lockdown for several months, going the online route was a very practical, effective, and convenient way to get certain healthcare needs met.
Fast forward to now, when we’re back in these streets (althoughCOVID is still a real health concern; we need not forget that), even if telehealth is not quite as popular as it was in, say,2020, there isplenty of data out here to support that it’s not going anywhere any time soon. Some research suggests that telehealth is easier (for those who have online service), less expensive, and, quite frankly, the preferred route to take for those who aren’t exactly thrilled at the thought of going to a doctor’s office (even if it’s just due to all of the waiting that is typically involved).
That said, while it would be irresponsible as hell to make a blanket statement that telehealth should replace traditional physician visits, there are certain things that health-related online services can be used for — one of them is getting birth control.
If that’s something you’ve never really considered before yet, now that I’ve mentioned it you’re interested, before hitting an online company up and making a purchase, please make sure to read this article in its entirety first. Just so you’ll know what you’re (potentially) getting yourself into.
Thoroughly Research the Company
Probably now, more than ever, there are all kinds of online companies that can get you the kind of birth control that you want or need. The ones that I can personally vouch for areWisp andNurx. To be perfectly honest, I’ve never gotten a birth control prescription from Wisp; I use them because I have a fungal sensitivity, and so when a yeast infection arises, it’s easier (quicker and cheaper) to get a Diflucan prescription that way. As far as Nurx goes, chile, this damn latter stage of perimenopause is a true mutha; and so, I have gotten on mini-pills to lighten my periods and lessen them as I head towards menopause (even though, who knows how long that will officially take. SMDH).
The thing that I like about both of these companies is they have doctors on staff who you can have direct conversations with; ones who won’t just give you medication because you asked for it but will have thorough conversations with you and discuss your options before proceeding forward. Wisp, I have had a membership with for years now. Nurx is a relatively new thing; however, I have not one regret (at least thus far).
Anyway, those are the two that I know something personal about. If you want to research other similar companies, check out Healthline’s “8 Best Services to Order Birth Control Online in 2024” and Verywell Health’s “Our 7 Picks for Where to Get Online Birth Control” to see what may be the best fit for you personally.
Then Read Up on Various Birth Control Options
Like pretty much everything else in life, birth control has made quite a bit of progress as far as options are concerned. For instance, say that you want to get on birth control, and yet you’re concerned about some of the risks that come with taking an estrogen-based pill oreven a combination of estrogen and progesterone (because taking estrogen does come with some potential side effects and health risks). These days, there are also pills that are made up of a synthetic form of progesteroneknown as progestin.
Some people are fans of this option because it can reduce PMS symptoms and decrease the amount of bleeding that you may have during your cycle (some folks don’t have a period at all after several months of using this pill), and it also prevents pregnancy. Another reason why progestin-only pills are gaining fans is some other benefits include less perimenopause and menopause-related symptoms, a lower cancer risk and it can slow down bone loss (which is sometimes associated with aging) too.
That’s not to say that it doesn’t come with its own risks (like you could end up with irregular bleeding or spotting for months on end; everyone’s body is different); that’s why it’s always important to do as much research as you can on different birth control options that are available — not just when it comes to birth control pills either. These days,there are all kinds of other routes that you can take, including injections, vaginal rings, and emergency contraception…and that’s just for starters!
Get Your Blood Pressure Checked
Without a doubt, one of the best things about seeing your own doctor (in person) before getting on birth control is they can give you a thorough physical, which may include checking your hormone levels before recommending a particular type of birth control method; this won’t happen with telehealth. To be thorough on this, if you don’t currently have your own healthcare provider, you are not insured, or there is some other reason why you can’t see a doctor personally, there are clinics that can give you a physical for a flat fee; some that will even do hormone-related tests (especially women-based clinics).
Whatever you decide to do, it is important for you to know that pretty much any online company is going to ask you to give a recent reading of your blood pressure. Why? Say that you decide to go with a birth control option that does have estrogen in it. Did you know that one of its side effects is it could increase your blood pressure? If that happens, does that increase your chances of having a heart attack or stroke? So, if you do decide to use a telehealth option, be prepared for the fact that, as they go through your medical history, I can almost guarantee that they are going to ask you for a very recent blood pressure reading. And please don’t lie to them; it literally could put your life at risk.
Read the Fine Print
Something that’s cool about companies like Nurx is the fact that birth control is not the only thing that they have available.They also feature medical experts who can prescribe medications for acne, mental health issues, genital herpes, and HIV prep. That’s dope, for sure — it’s still a business, though, so you need to make sure that you read as much fine print about it as possible. You definitely need to check up on what services they provide, what the potential side effects and health risks may be, and, 1000 percent,what their billing practices are. And, just to be real, it can never hurt to run the company you’re considering through the Better Business Bureau’s website.
For instance,Nurx actually has some (let’s go with "colorful") reviews on there, even though many health-based sites do sing its praises. Like I said, although I’m only a few months into using them, I’ve had a great experience. Again, everyone’s different, and so are our expectations — so find out what you’re getting into, as much as possible, before (pardon the pun) getting into bed with any online birth control company.
See What Your Insurance Is On
Health insurance companies are “in our uterus” more than they’ve ever been before. Take me, for example. I haven’t been on a form of birth control since I was in my 20s and even though I am (hopefully) close to winding down on the period tip, 1) my prescription isn’t cheap (AT ALL) and 2) I’m getting a bit creative with the birth control packs to make my cycles more bearable. For both of these reasons, when the medical professional at Nurx initially tried to get my insurance company to approve the prescription, my insurance provider had all types of questions and actually considered denying me.
Then, when it came time for a refill, we weren’t sure how it was going to go because my company was trying to get just what I was attempting to do (chile). All that to say, having insurance can be a beautiful thing; still, when it comes to telehealth, you’ve got to make sure that they and your insurance company are able to work together. Also, you’ve got to be prepared that your insurance may come at you with some “hold up…now what are you trying to do?” questions — and if you can’t give them answers that they are cool with, you could end up with some out-of-pocket expenses…yes, even if you are insured (some telehealth companies offer coupons, so be sure to ask about those too).
Make Your Health Care Provider Aware of Your Decision
For me, getting birth control online has been pretty smooth sailing. I do still have a healthcare practitioner, though and no one can take her place. So, why did I decide to go with online assistance? My healthcare provider is oftentimes booked months in advance, and the co-pay doesn’t always make sense in comparison to what I pay to get basic services met online. Plus, I don’t have any major health issues. That doesn’t mean I’m not aware that she needs to be kept abreast of what I’m doing — and the same thing applies to you and your provider as well.
Because, although telehealth can make life easier, your health is nothing to play with. And that’s why the individual who is personally invested in your health and well-being needs to know about the decisions that you’re making. Since they know your family medical history, and your own health history, and they’ve been trained to consider potential risks and red flags that you may not even think to consider, leaving them in the dark doesn’t do you a bit of good. Please always keep that in mind.
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In dozens of different ways, the Internet is designed to make things more convenient. Just make sure that, when it comes to things like online birth control, you know as much as possible about what you’re getting into. Your health is precious. Knowledge is power. When it comes to something like getting birth control, you’ve got to keep both of those points in mind. On so many levels, your well-being depends on it, sis.
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It's kinda wild that, in 2025, my byline will have appeared on this platform for (what?!) seven years. And yeah, when I'm not waxing poetic on here about sex, relationships and then...more sex and relationships, I am working as a certified marriage life coach, helping to birth babies (as a doula) or penning for other places (oftentimes under pen names).
As some of you know, something that I've been "threatening" to do for a few years now is write another book. Welp, October 2024 was the month that I "gave birth" to my third one: 'Inside of Me 2.0: My Story. With a 20-Year Lens'. It's fitting considering I hit a milestone during the same year.
Beyond that, Pumas and lip gloss are still my faves along with sweatshirts and tees that have a pro-Black message on them. I've also started really getting into big ass unique handbags and I'm always gonna have a signature scent that ain't nobody's business but my own.
As far as where to find me, I continue to be MIA on the social media front and I honestly don't know if that will ever change. Still, if you need to hit me up about something *that has nothing to do with pitching on the site (I'm gonna start ignoring those emails because...boundaries)*, hit me up at missnosipho@gmail.com. I'll do what I can. ;)
Claudia Jordan, Demetria McKinney & Jill Marie Jones On 'Games Women Play' & Dating Over 40
What do you get when you mix unfiltered truths, high-stakes romance, and a few well-timed one-liners? You get Games Women Play—the sizzling new stage play by Je’Caryous Johnson that’s part relationship rollercoaster, part grown-woman group chat.
With a powerhouse cast that includes Claudia Jordan, Demetria McKinney, Jill Marie Jones, Carl Payne, Chico Bean, and Brian J. White, the play dives headfirst into the messy, hilarious, and heart-wrenching games people play for love, power, and peace of mind. And the women leading this story? They’re bringing their whole selves to the stage—and leaving nothing behind.
From Script to Spotlight
The road to Games Women Play started over 20 years ago—literally.
“This script was written 20 years ago,” Jill Marie Jones said with a smile. “It was originally called Men, Money & Gold Diggers, and I was in the film version. So when Je’Caryous called me to bring it to the stage, I was like, ‘Let’s go.’” Now reimagined for 2025, the play is updated with sharp dialogue and modern relationship dynamics that feel all too real.
Demetria McKinney, no stranger to Je’Caryous Johnson’s productions, jumped at the opportunity to join the cast once again. “This is my third time working with him,” she shared. “It was an opportunity to stretch. I’d never been directed by Carl Payne before, and the chance to work with talent I admire—Jill, Claudia, Chico—it was a no-brainer.”
Claudia Jordan joked that she originally saw the role as just another check. “I didn’t take it that seriously at first,” she admitted. “But this is my first full-on tour—and now I’ve got a whole new respect for how hard people work in theater. This ain’t easy.”
Modern Love, Stage Left
The play doesn’t hold back when it comes to the messier parts of love. One jaw-dropping moment comes when a live podcast proposal flips into a prenup bombshell—leaving the audience (and the characters) gasping.
Demetria broke it down with honesty. “People don’t ask the real questions when they date. Like, ‘Do you want kids? How do you feel about money?’ These convos aren’t happening, and then everyone’s confused. That moment in the play—it’s real. That happens all the time.”
Jill chimed in, noting how the play speaks to emotional disconnect. “We’re giving each other different tokens of love. Men might offer security and money. Women, we’re giving our hearts. But there’s a disconnect—and that’s where things fall apart.”
And then Claudia, of course, took it all the way there. “These men don’t even want to sign our prenups now!” she laughed. “They want to live the soft life, too. Wearing units, gloss, getting their brows done. We can’t have nothing! Y’all want to be like us? Then get a damn period and go through menopause.”
Dating Over 40: “You Better Come Correct”
When the conversation turned to real-life relationships, all three women lit up. Their experiences dating in their 40s and 50s have given them both clarity—and zero tolerance for games.
“I feel sexier than I’ve ever felt,” said Jill, who proudly turned 50 in January. “I say what I want. I mean what I say. I’m inside my woman, and I’m not apologizing for it.”
Demetria added that dating now comes with deeper self-awareness. “Anybody in my life is there because I want them there. I’ve worked hard to need nobody. But I’m open to love—as long as you keep doing what got me there in the first place.”
For Claudia, the bar is high—and the peace is priceless. “I’ve worked hard for my peace,” she said. “I’m not dating for food. I’m dating because I want to spend time with you. And honestly, if being with you isn’t better than being alone with my candles and fountains and cats? Then no thanks.”
Channeling Strength & Icon Status
Each actress brings something different to the play—but all of them deliver.
“I actually wish I could be messier on stage,” Claudia joked. “But I think about my grandmother—she was born in 1929, couldn’t even vote or buy a house without a man, and didn’t give a damn. She was fearless. That’s where my strength comes from.”
For Jill, the comparisons to her iconic Girlfriends character Toni Childs aren’t far off—but this role gave her a chance to dig deeper. “If you really understood Toni, you’d see how layered she was. And Paisley is the same—misunderstood, but strong. There’s more to her than people see at first glance.”
Demetria, who juggles singing and acting seamlessly, shared that live theater pushes her in a new way. “Every moment on stage counts. You can’t redo anything. It’s a different kind of love and discipline. You have to give the performance away—live, in the moment—and trust that it lands.”
Laughter, Lessons & Black Girl Gems
The show has plenty of laugh-out-loud moments—and the cast isn’t shy about who steals scenes.
“Chico Bean gets a lot of gasps and laughs,” Claudia said. “And Naomi Booker? Every scene she’s in—she’s hilarious.”
But the play isn’t just about humor. It leaves space for reflection—especially for Black women.
“I hope we get back to the foundation of love and communication,” said Demetria. “A lot of us are in protector mode. But that’s turned into survival mode. We’ve lost softness. We’ve lost connection.”
Claudia agreed. “We’re doing it all—but it’s not because we want to be strong all the time. It’s because we have to be. And I just want women to know: You can have peace, you can be soft. But stop bringing your old pain into new love. Don’t let past heartbreak build walls so high that the right person can’t climb over.”
Final Act: Pack the House
If there’s one thing this cast agrees on, it’s that this play isn’t just entertainment—it’s necessary.
“Atlanta is the Black entertainment hub,” Claudia said. “We need y’all to show up for this play. Support the arts. Support each other. Because when we pack the house, we make space for more stories like this.”
Games Women Play is more than a play—it’s a mirror. You’ll see yourself, your friends, your exes, and maybe even your next chapter. So get ready to laugh, reflect, and maybe even heal—because the games are on.
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It’s officially Miss Keri, Baby season again—and if you ask us, it’s been a long time coming. After 15 years away from the music scene, Keri Hilson has returned not only with a brand-new album, but also a captivating new role in Lifetime’s Fame—the latest installment in The Temptations film franchise.
Between the album We Need to Talk: Love and her leading role in Fame, this isn’t just a comeback—it’s a rebirth. The Grammy-nominated singer-songwriter turned actress is letting us into her world like never before, unpacking themes of vulnerability, healing, and inner strength with grace, grit, and raw artistry.
Now streaming on Lifetime, Fame follows two superstar sisters—played by Keri and singer/actress Keshia Chanté—as they navigate the cost of stardom, sibling rivalry, and the dark side of desire. The film also stars Romeo Miller, Ecstasia Sanders, Nathan Witte, and Sophie Carriere, and is executive produced by Derrick Williams and Adriane Hopper Williams of the Seven Deadly Sins franchise.
As for the music? We Need to Talk: Love is a three-part album (Love, Drama, Redemption) that tells the story of a woman who’s been through it—and has risen from the ashes. “It was time to speak for myself,” Keri says.
We sat down with Keri to talk about her return to music, her passion for acting, the emotional depth of Fame, and how she’s learning to care for herself amidst the chaos.
From R&B Queen to Drama Star: Keri Gets Into Character
“Even though she’s famous—as am I—it was really her humanity that I wanted to portray.”
Keri plays Cherish, one half of a superstar sibling duo who must confront their fractured relationship in the wake of a traumatic robbery. For Keri, the role was more than a character—it was a psychological study.
“I enjoy departures from reality. That’s why I love acting,” she shares. “Psychology is one of my favorite things in life. I became a writer because I’m an observer of human nature, emotion, and behavior. I think I did a good job showing her humanity.”
The Fame Isn’t Always Worth the Price
“Keep the main thing the main thing.”
Keri doesn’t sugarcoat the industry. When asked about what Fame reveals about the dark side of celebrity culture, her answer is clear:
“It’s a cautionary tale. It reminds you to keep your family close and not allow anything to come between them—especially in pursuit of success. Keep the main thing the main thing. For me, that’s family, love, spirituality, and values.”
Three Chapters, One Story: Love. Drama. Redemption.
“I’ve shed the fear. It was time to tell my own story.”
Released April 18th, We Need to Talk: Love is Keri’s first album in 15 years—and a deeply personal one at that. The three-part project (Love, Drama, Redemption) represents a timeline of healing and growth.
“I’m finally in a place where I’m able and willing to open up more,” she says. “For a while, I became really guarded—shell-shocked, even—after making mistakes in the public eye. Whether it’s all your fault or not, the scrutiny takes its toll. But now, I’ve shed that fear. It’s time to tell my story.”
Cooking, Walks, and Recalibrating in the Chaos
“I’m not doing the best job—but I’m doing what I can.”
Between eight-hour rehearsals, press runs, and music releases, Hilson admits she hasn’t quite figured out the balance yet—but she’s trying. For her, the key is carving out small rituals of normalcy.
“I enjoy cooking. That’s my sanctity,” she says. “I’ll go home, take my makeup off, put on my rehearsal clothes, and cook a meal. I take walks. I run. These little things help me feel like myself again.”
Art Imitates Life (and Album Tracklists)
“Cherish goes from Love… to Drama… to Redemption.”
Asked which album chapter her Fame character would fall into, Keri doesn’t hesitate. “She fits into all three,” she says. “You see her go from love, to drama, to redemption. That arc mirrors the journey of so many women who’ve had to navigate pain and find their way back to themselves.”
No Pressure, Just Art: Keri Wants You to Feel Something
“Just enjoy the art. That’s it.”
After all the time, patience, and healing, Keri isn’t asking for much. She just wants fans to press play—and feel something.
“I just want people to enjoy what they’re seeing and hearing. Enjoy me on screen. Enjoy me through their ears. People have waited, and I feel blessed by that. That helps me keep it all pure and simple.”
As Keri Hilson steps boldly back into the spotlight, it’s clear this era is all about alignment, artistry, and authenticity. With Fame airing on Lifetime and the first chapter of We Need to Talk: Love setting the tone, we’re more than excited to see what’s next.
As she continues to unfold the album’s next two chapters—Drama and Redemption—one thing’s for sure: this isn’t just a comeback. It’s a reintroduction. And we’ll be watching, listening, and cheering her on every step of the way.
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