Although telehealth has been around for many years at this point, I don’t think anyone would be surprised to hear that it saw a serious uptick during the pandemic. Since everyone was on lockdown for several months, going the online route was a very practical, effective, and convenient way to get certain healthcare needs met.
Fast forward to now, when we’re back in these streets (althoughCOVID is still a real health concern; we need not forget that), even if telehealth is not quite as popular as it was in, say,2020, there isplenty of data out here to support that it’s not going anywhere any time soon. Some research suggests that telehealth is easier (for those who have online service), less expensive, and, quite frankly, the preferred route to take for those who aren’t exactly thrilled at the thought of going to a doctor’s office (even if it’s just due to all of the waiting that is typically involved).
That said, while it would be irresponsible as hell to make a blanket statement that telehealth should replace traditional physician visits, there are certain things that health-related online services can be used for — one of them is getting birth control.
If that’s something you’ve never really considered before yet, now that I’ve mentioned it you’re interested, before hitting an online company up and making a purchase, please make sure to read this article in its entirety first. Just so you’ll know what you’re (potentially) getting yourself into.
Thoroughly Research the Company
GiphyProbably now, more than ever, there are all kinds of online companies that can get you the kind of birth control that you want or need. The ones that I can personally vouch for areWisp andNurx. To be perfectly honest, I’ve never gotten a birth control prescription from Wisp; I use them because I have a fungal sensitivity, and so when a yeast infection arises, it’s easier (quicker and cheaper) to get a Diflucan prescription that way. As far as Nurx goes, chile, this damn latter stage of perimenopause is a true mutha; and so, I have gotten on mini-pills to lighten my periods and lessen them as I head towards menopause (even though, who knows how long that will officially take. SMDH).
The thing that I like about both of these companies is they have doctors on staff who you can have direct conversations with; ones who won’t just give you medication because you asked for it but will have thorough conversations with you and discuss your options before proceeding forward. Wisp, I have had a membership with for years now. Nurx is a relatively new thing; however, I have not one regret (at least thus far).
Anyway, those are the two that I know something personal about. If you want to research other similar companies, check out Healthline’s “8 Best Services to Order Birth Control Online in 2024” and Verywell Health’s “Our 7 Picks for Where to Get Online Birth Control” to see what may be the best fit for you personally.
Then Read Up on Various Birth Control Options
GiphyLike pretty much everything else in life, birth control has made quite a bit of progress as far as options are concerned. For instance, say that you want to get on birth control, and yet you’re concerned about some of the risks that come with taking an estrogen-based pill oreven a combination of estrogen and progesterone (because taking estrogen does come with some potential side effects and health risks). These days, there are also pills that are made up of a synthetic form of progesteroneknown as progestin.
Some people are fans of this option because it can reduce PMS symptoms and decrease the amount of bleeding that you may have during your cycle (some folks don’t have a period at all after several months of using this pill), and it also prevents pregnancy. Another reason why progestin-only pills are gaining fans is some other benefits include less perimenopause and menopause-related symptoms, a lower cancer risk and it can slow down bone loss (which is sometimes associated with aging) too.
That’s not to say that it doesn’t come with its own risks (like you could end up with irregular bleeding or spotting for months on end; everyone’s body is different); that’s why it’s always important to do as much research as you can on different birth control options that are available — not just when it comes to birth control pills either. These days,there are all kinds of other routes that you can take, including injections, vaginal rings, and emergency contraception…and that’s just for starters!
Get Your Blood Pressure Checked
GiphyWithout a doubt, one of the best things about seeing your own doctor (in person) before getting on birth control is they can give you a thorough physical, which may include checking your hormone levels before recommending a particular type of birth control method; this won’t happen with telehealth. To be thorough on this, if you don’t currently have your own healthcare provider, you are not insured, or there is some other reason why you can’t see a doctor personally, there are clinics that can give you a physical for a flat fee; some that will even do hormone-related tests (especially women-based clinics).
Whatever you decide to do, it is important for you to know that pretty much any online company is going to ask you to give a recent reading of your blood pressure. Why? Say that you decide to go with a birth control option that does have estrogen in it. Did you know that one of its side effects is it could increase your blood pressure? If that happens, does that increase your chances of having a heart attack or stroke? So, if you do decide to use a telehealth option, be prepared for the fact that, as they go through your medical history, I can almost guarantee that they are going to ask you for a very recent blood pressure reading. And please don’t lie to them; it literally could put your life at risk.
Read the Fine Print
GiphySomething that’s cool about companies like Nurx is the fact that birth control is not the only thing that they have available.They also feature medical experts who can prescribe medications for acne, mental health issues, genital herpes, and HIV prep. That’s dope, for sure — it’s still a business, though, so you need to make sure that you read as much fine print about it as possible. You definitely need to check up on what services they provide, what the potential side effects and health risks may be, and, 1000 percent,what their billing practices are. And, just to be real, it can never hurt to run the company you’re considering through the Better Business Bureau’s website.
For instance,Nurx actually has some (let’s go with "colorful") reviews on there, even though many health-based sites do sing its praises. Like I said, although I’m only a few months into using them, I’ve had a great experience. Again, everyone’s different, and so are our expectations — so find out what you’re getting into, as much as possible, before (pardon the pun) getting into bed with any online birth control company.
See What Your Insurance Is On
GiphyHealth insurance companies are “in our uterus” more than they’ve ever been before. Take me, for example. I haven’t been on a form of birth control since I was in my 20s and even though I am (hopefully) close to winding down on the period tip, 1) my prescription isn’t cheap (AT ALL) and 2) I’m getting a bit creative with the birth control packs to make my cycles more bearable. For both of these reasons, when the medical professional at Nurx initially tried to get my insurance company to approve the prescription, my insurance provider had all types of questions and actually considered denying me.
Then, when it came time for a refill, we weren’t sure how it was going to go because my company was trying to get just what I was attempting to do (chile). All that to say, having insurance can be a beautiful thing; still, when it comes to telehealth, you’ve got to make sure that they and your insurance company are able to work together. Also, you’ve got to be prepared that your insurance may come at you with some “hold up…now what are you trying to do?” questions — and if you can’t give them answers that they are cool with, you could end up with some out-of-pocket expenses…yes, even if you are insured (some telehealth companies offer coupons, so be sure to ask about those too).
Make Your Health Care Provider Aware of Your Decision
GiphyFor me, getting birth control online has been pretty smooth sailing. I do still have a healthcare practitioner, though and no one can take her place. So, why did I decide to go with online assistance? My healthcare provider is oftentimes booked months in advance, and the co-pay doesn’t always make sense in comparison to what I pay to get basic services met online. Plus, I don’t have any major health issues. That doesn’t mean I’m not aware that she needs to be kept abreast of what I’m doing — and the same thing applies to you and your provider as well.
Because, although telehealth can make life easier, your health is nothing to play with. And that’s why the individual who is personally invested in your health and well-being needs to know about the decisions that you’re making. Since they know your family medical history, and your own health history, and they’ve been trained to consider potential risks and red flags that you may not even think to consider, leaving them in the dark doesn’t do you a bit of good. Please always keep that in mind.
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In dozens of different ways, the Internet is designed to make things more convenient. Just make sure that, when it comes to things like online birth control, you know as much as possible about what you’re getting into. Your health is precious. Knowledge is power. When it comes to something like getting birth control, you’ve got to keep both of those points in mind. On so many levels, your well-being depends on it, sis.
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Different puzzle pieces are creating bigger pictures these days. 2024 will mark a milestone on a few different levels, including the release of my third book next October (yay!).
I am also a Professional Certified Coach. My main mission for attaining that particular goal is to use my formal credentials to help people navigate through the sometimes tumultuous waters, both on and offline, when it comes to information about marriage, sex and relationships that is oftentimes misinformation (because "coach" is a word that gets thrown around a lot, oftentimes quite poorly).
I am also still super devoted to helping to bring life into this world as a doula, marriage life coaching will always be my first love (next to writing, of course), a platform that advocates for good Black men is currently in the works and my keystrokes continue to be devoted to HEALTHY over HAPPY in the areas of holistic intimacy, spiritual evolution, purpose manifestation and self-love...because maturity teaches that it's impossible to be happy all of the time when it comes to reaching goals yet healthy is a choice that can be made on a daily basis (amen?).
If you have any PERSONAL QUESTIONS (please do not contact me with any story pitches; that is an *editorial* need), feel free to reach out at missnosipho@gmail.com. A sistah will certainly do what she can. ;)
Exclusive: Dreka Gates Talks Farm Life, Self-Mastery, And Her Wellness Brand
Dreka Gates is making a name in wellness through authenticity and innovativeness. Although we were introduced to her as a music manager for her husband, Kevin Gates, she has now carved out her own lane outside of music as a wellness entrepreneur. But according to Dreka, this is nothing new.
In an xoNecole exclusive, the mom of two opened up about many things, including starting her wellness journey at 13 years old. However, a near-death experience during a procedure at 20 made her start taking her health more seriously.
“There's so many different levels, and now, I'm in a space of just integrating all of this good stuff that I've learned just about just being human, you know?” Dreka tells us. “So it's also fun because it's like a journey of self-discovery and self-mastery. That's what I call it. So it's never-ending.”
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If you follow Dreka, then you’re familiar with her holistic lifestyle, as she’s no stranger to promoting wellness, self-care, and holistic living. She even lives part-time on a Mississippi farm, not far from her grandmother and great-grandmother’s farm, where she spent some summers as a child.
While her grandmother and great-grandmother have passed on, Dreka reflects on that time in her life and how having a farm as an adult is her getting back to her roots. “So the farm was purchased back in 2017, and it was like, ah, that'll just be a place where we go when we're not touring or whatever,” she said.
“But COVID hit, and I was there, and I was on the land, and I just started remembering back to going to my grandmother's during the summertime and freaking picking peas and going and eating mulberries off the freaking tree in the bushes.
“And she literally had cotton plants. I know some people feel weird about picking cotton and stuff. She had cotton plants and I would go and pick cotton out of her garden. And she had chickens, and I literally just broke down in tears one day when I was on the farm just doing all the things, and I'm like, ‘Oh my gosh. I'm literally getting back to my roots.”
"I literally just broke down in tears one day when I was on the farm just doing all the things, and I'm like, ‘Oh my gosh. I'm literally getting back to my roots."
You can catch glimpses of Dreka’s farm life on Instagram, which shows her picking fruit and vegetables and loving on her animals like her camel Eessa. Her passion for growing and cultivating led her to try and grow all of her ingredients for her wellness brand, Dreka Wellness. However, she quickly realized that she might be biting off more than she could chew. But that didn’t stop her from fulfilling her vision.
Watch below as Dreka talks more about her business, her wellness tips, breaking toxic cycles, becoming a doula, and more.
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The Fall Staples It Girls From Coast To Coast Are Already Wearing
When it comes to trends, It girls lead, they don’t follow. Keeping one finger on the pulse of fashion and the other on their instincts, it’s their innate ability to dress to the beat of their own heart that makes them stand out amongst everyone else around them.
These women are ahead of their time, forecasting what will eventually be adopted by the masses often years in advance. In most cases, buying into trending items is just a by-product of their love of fashion, however, it's never the key ingredient of a memorable outfit.
As we transition from summer to fall, there’s no need to spend too many coins curating a brand new seasonal wardrobe, especially in this economy. Instead of shopping targeted ads, we interviewed fashion-forward influencers to spark our imagination and gather insight on what they’re already wearing leading into the upcoming season. Keep scrolling to get the scoop on essential items these fashion-forward women are looking forward to wearing this fall.
Helecia Williams, Houston
Comfort
Helecia’s style in three words: “Structured, bold, and explorative.”
Helecia’s outfit inspiration: “I am most interested in comfort as a trend. I am truly enjoying the mix of flats with elevated outfits and the incorporation of street-style elements into the looks. I have seen so much juxtaposition that makes the outfits interesting and intriguing. I love the pairing of fitted caps with [suits] and ballet flats. That mashup is impeccable, and we saw some of that peeking through last fall, and now it's taken on a life of its own.
"As a sneaker lover and comfort sneakers, bringing back flats is just a reimagination of past trends with a fresh twist.”
What color(s) is on Helecia’s fall mood board: “Hands down, red! It's such a bold and bossy color. Now, we see it becoming much more accessible in fashion and realize how easy it is to style and incorporate into a look for that extra pop. It also pairs well with so many other shades and tones. Some of my favorite combos are red and burgundy, red and yellow, and red and brown. Even if you aren't fully convinced that it's the color of the season and still have reservations about it, you can go classic and incorporate it in an accessory or makeup like a red lip.”
Are you bringing anything back from your 2023 fall wardrobe? “I will be returning and recycling all of my 2023 fall wardrobe and just styling it differently or giving it new life. Despite my love for trends, I've curated a wardrobe that I love so I will mix the old in with the new. And not to toot my own horn but a lot of my fashion moments are ahead of the times and still very relevant for this upcoming fall. Expect to see tons of texture, juxtaposition, unexpected color combos, and street style.”
How Helecia is accessorizing this season: “I hate to admit it, but the one trend that has me in a chokehold this fall is bold jewelry, particularly in gold. I've realized that accessories can do wonders, and the Schiaparelli era has me shook. I am a ‘Stan’ of Shop Khoi, a Black-owned jewelry brand that creates some of the most amazing, high-quality fashion jewelry. It just sets off any outfit no matter how simple it may be and easily becomes a conversation piece.”
Courtney Blackwell, New York City
Courtney’s style in three words: “Vintage, oversize, and sexy.”
Courtney’s most anticipated fall fashion items: “The fashion item I am anticipating wearing is vintage leather in all colors!”
Courtney's color picks for fall: “Cherry reds, forest greens, and different shades of gray.”
The trend that has Courtney in a chokehold this season: “Skirts! I’ve never been a skirt girly, well mini skirts girly, but I think I’m going to step it up with the minis this fall.”
Shaniqua Jordan, New York City
Timeless
Shaniqua’s personal styling tip for fall: “I hate to admit it, but the one trend that has me in a chokehold this fall is any oversized outerwear piece, especially oversized blazers. And as basic as it may sound, I can't get enough of them. They instantly elevate any look, and they're so versatile, whether I'm going for a polished vibe or something more casual. Plus, they are perfect for layering as the weather cools down.
"I know most people wouldn't typically opt for suede, but if you've been following my style, you know I'm all about my outerwear. I love adding texture to my looks, even if it's subtle, and a good suede jacket does that for me. The soft texture and rich hues of suede add that cherry on top for any fall look. Whether I'm rocking a bomber style in a jewel tone or a tailored trench in a neutral shade, a suede jacket is one piece I'm looking forward to wearing to elevate my fall wardrobe.”
These colors are all over Shaniqua’s fall mood board: “The colors on my fall mood board are rich earth tones like deep browns and olive greens paired with classic neutrals like camel and cream. I'd like to throw in a pop of butter yellow. I know it might seem more spring-like, but I love how it pairs with deep browns, oxblood, and even grays. It's the perfect way to brighten up those cozy, moody fall vibes. I'm also loving pops of bold jewel tones like emerald and burgundy to add a bit of luxe to the season. These shades give that cozy yet elevated feel I'm always aiming for in my fall wardrobe.”
Shaniqua describes her fall wardrobe in three words: “If I describe my fall wardrobe in three words, they would be chic, layered, and timeless. I love combining unique pieces with a classic touch, creating looks that stand out without trying too hard. It's all about finding that perfect balance between staying true to timeless fashion and adding my own signature flair.”
Are you bringing anything back from your 2023 fall wardrobe? "I am definitely an outfit repeater, so not only will I bring back pieces from my 2023 fall wardrobe, but I also have so many oldies but goodies that I’ll be incorporating into my fall 2024 looks. I think that's what really helps convey my personal style; buying pieces I genuinely love and being able to work them into my style season after season. It's all about longevity and staying true to what I love."
Alasia Allen, Los Angeles
Provocative
Alasia describes her style in three words: “Opulent, sleek, provocative.”
The fashion item Alasia anticipates wearing the most this fall: “I’m really into gloves this season. Whether it’s biker style or long, sleek, leather gloves, they add an interesting take to a fall look.”
The fall colors catching Alasia’s eye: “I’m loving navy or a super deep purple this season so I’ll be adding those into my wardrobe. They’re both so sophisticated and a good alternative to black.”
The fall staple Alaisa plans to bring back from her 2023 wardrobe: “Every year, I wear a shearling coat. It’s timeless, it’s warm, it’s my thing. There’s something very elevating about shearlings that have drawn to me year after year, and that’s what makes them my favorite style of outwear.”
The accessory that has Alasia in a chokehold this season: “Boots. I love a good boot as my go-to accessory for the fall/winter season. My favorites are boots that have a little flair to them and an interesting shape.”
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