Makeup Mavens Reveal How They Manage To Stay Beat All Day Long
We know that just because the calendar says it's fall doesn't mean the the weather will actually reflect that energy.
With that being said, depending on where you live, the temperatures are still hot and/or the weather gods are highly confused. It's the confusing time of year where you throw on a jacket because it's cool in the morning and then have to take it off by noon because you're hot. What we don't want is for you to have to do the same for your makeup. There are ways to stay beat with the baffling weather. From priming your face to using less makeup, we want to make sure you are equipped for whatever the degrees may be.
We got to chat with a few beauty gurus about how they maintain a good beat and this is what they had to share:
Kat @kxtbonifacio
@kxtbonifacio
Kat's Tips
1. Hydrate and radiate. "Living in Toronto, keeping a beat all day can be...a challenge. Two things that really help, especially if you're combination skin like myself, hydration and using less setting powder. I use a liquid primer as a base and water as a setting spray and it keeps my skin looking dewy and hydrated."
2. Less is more. "As for setting powders, I try to decrease how much I bake because oftentimes I'll sweat under the heat and crease! I'll use a VERY small amount on a fluffy brush and pat it under the eyes for that bright, fresh look but without the potential for cracking."
Taya @tayamarinbeauty
@tayamarinbeauty
Taya's Tips
1. Opt for a cream or stick foundation, instead of liquid. "My favorite go-to for lightweight, yet full coverage, is the Fenty Beauty Match Stix. It has great coverage but doesn't feel like you are wearing heavy makeup."
2. Set and prime. "Priming your face to prepare for makeup is always key to getting long wear. Always set your foundation and highlight with a translucent powder. When you're finished, always use setting spray. My faves are: Benefit Porefessional Primer, Too Faced Born This Way Translucent Powder, NYX Stay Matte Setting Spray, or Urban Decay All Nighter Setting Spray."
3. Try a bomb "no makeup" makeup look. "If you've gotten your summer tan poppin, embrace your natural glow with a 'no makeup' look. Just lightly fill in your brows, add some bronzer/highlight, a light lash, and some gloss. Throw on a hoop for a little razzle dazzle. My favorite highlighter right now is the Too Faced, "How Many F***s Do I GIve" paired with the iPanema Sunset Glow Body Oil that I use on my face and body."
Rhema @rhema.mona
@rhema.mona
Rhema's Tips
1. Use primer or moisturizer that has SPF in it. "There is this misconception the world of melanin girls has and it's sunscreen isn't something that should be in our skincare arsenal, which couldn't be further from the truth. Currently I'm using the UrbanSkinRX Dermshield Ultra matte primer and pairing it with OLEHENRIKSEN Banana Bright primer/moisturizer."
2. Use a powder foundation instead of liquid foundation to get the effects of a full beat but lightweight and less likely to melt. "Tinted moisturizers, may also work but I prefer the coverage that powder foundations provide. Currently I'm using MAC Studio Fix Powder Foundation in NW43. Too Faced also just dropped a powder foundation line I recommend as well. If you want a tinted moisturizer I recommend NARS as the my go-to brand."
3. Blot before you start sweating. "Blotting papers are your friend. Going back in with powder or more product to cover up the sweat or accumulating oil, starts to just add more makeup to your skin to melt more. Blotting papers remove the oil/sweat and keep your face as is. Not removing or adding more product. Overall, the theory is less is more but you can make less look like a full beat without the work or the melt, by just switching up a few things in your routine."
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Joce Blake is a womanist who loves fashion, Beyonce and Hot Cheetos. The sophistiratchet enthusiast is based in Brooklyn, NY but has southern belle roots as she was born and raised in Memphis, TN. Keep up with her on Instagram @joce_blake and on Twitter @SaraJessicaBee.
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
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THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
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IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
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A Therapist Breaks Down The Internet's Fixation On The Black Cat-Golden Retriever Dynamic
In the realm of love and relationships, there's a growing interest in the idea of opposites attracting. This concept is gaining traction on platforms like TikTok, where users explore how different personality types interact in romantic partnerships. One popular comparison is between the "golden retriever" and "black cat" archetypes.
According to Urban Dictionary, the golden retriever, typically portrayed by men, embodies a relaxed and friendly demeanor, making relationship maintenance seem effortless. These individuals are described as easygoing, patient, loyal, socially adept, and optimistic. On TikTok, many women are intrigued by the prospect of finding partners with these qualities.
In contrast, the black cat, often represented by women, leans towards introversion and independence. They're mysterious, quiet, and introspective, preferring to be pursued rather than doing "the chasing" in relationships.
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This dichotomy reflects the anxious-avoidant attachment dynamics in psychology (pursuer-distancer cycle), where one partner seeks closeness (golden retriever) while the other values autonomy (black cat).
The Black Cat Golden Retriever Archetypes & Attachment Styles
Attachment theory suggests that early caregiving experiences shape our attachment styles, influencing how we relate to others. Anxious individuals seek reassurance, while avoidant individuals prioritize independence. However, not every instance of the black cat/golden retriever dynamic indicates underlying insecurities. Individuals can embody these personas without necessarily being insecure or exhibiting unhealthy attachment patterns.
For instance, a golden retriever's desire for closeness may come from a secure attachment style, rooted in self-worth and trust in others. Conversely, a black cat's preference for autonomy doesn't always indicate avoidance; they may simply value their independence, and it's relatively easy for them to connect and disconnect when needed. Understanding these dynamics requires personalized individual/couples assessment, ideally with a licensed therapist.
The Black Cat Golden Retriever Roles in Relationship Success
A prevailing notion in this discussion that's sparked a lot of conversation is the idea that when a woman takes on the role of the golden retriever in a relationship with a black cat partner, the dynamic is more likely to fail. (I've experienced this firsthand, even in my own past relationships, and I've seen it play out in my own life.) Conversely, when the roles are reversed, the relationship tends to thrive. But why does this happen?
Historically, men have been socialized to take on the role of the pursuer, while women are expected to be more passive recipients of romantic advances. From a biological standpoint, some researchers argue that evolutionary instincts may play a role in shaping mating behaviors. Evolutionary psychology suggests that men may be inclined to pursue potential mates to maximize their reproductive success. This perspective suggests that men may have evolved to seek out partners and compete for their attention and affection.
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Additionally, societal expectations and cultural norms can heavily influence gender roles and relationship dynamics. From a young age, boys may be socialized to take initiative, assert themselves, and pursue their romantic interests actively. On the other hand, girls may be encouraged to adopt more passive roles, waiting for suitors to express interest or make romantic gestures.
As much as there's a lot of conversation about gendered expectations and societal norms, it's crucial to recognize that these expectations aren't universally applicable. Not all individuals adhere to traditional gender norms, and people express a wide array of behaviors and preferences in romantic relationships. Research indicates that attitudes towards pursuit and courtship have evolved over time and differ across cultures.
In today's society, there's a growing recognition of the significance of mutual consent, communication, and reciprocity in romantic relationships. Many individuals, irrespective of gender, prioritize egalitarian principles and seek partnerships founded on mutual respect, understanding, and collaborative decision-making.
The Black Cat & The Problem With 'Acting' Secure in Dating
Delving deeper, there's a growing conversation surrounding the distinction between acting secure and authentically embodying security in relationships. True security stems from a deep-rooted sense of self-assurance and a healthy understanding of one's needs and boundaries. Secure individuals don't feel compelled to mask their vulnerabilities or play games to attract a partner; they attract healthy relationships by being genuine and self-assured.
Contrastingly, attempting to mimic secure behavior without addressing underlying insecurities can lead to relational pitfalls. Pretending to be nonchalant or aloof may initially attract a partner, but it ultimately creates a façade that crumbles under the weight of emotional triggers and unresolved attachment wounds.
Authenticity and vulnerability form the bedrock of secure relationships, fostering trust and mutual understanding.
Most importantly, whether you identify as a black cat or a golden retriever in relationships, it's best to find someone who genuinely loves you for who you are. Connect with people who appreciate you instead of engaging in games or "acting secure," because even secure individuals have vulnerabilities and weaknesses. People need to see the real you to truly connect with you.
Transitioning from acting secure to being secure requires introspection and self-awareness. Here are some tangible tips to cultivate genuine security in relationships:
1. Reframe Your Beliefs About Love and Relationships:
Challenge any negative beliefs or misconceptions you may hold about love and relationships. Recognize that healthy relationships are built on mutual respect, trust, and compatibility, rather than scarcity or desperation.
Cultivate a mindset of abundance, believing that there are plenty of opportunities for meaningful connections and fulfilling partnerships; you just have to be the person you want to attract and refrain from entertaining anything less.
2. Develop Self-Confidence:
Invest in building your self-confidence and self-worth independent of external validation or romantic relationships. Foster a sense of independence and autonomy in your life. Develop interests, goals, and aspirations that are separate from your romantic relationships, and invest in your personal growth and development. Engage in activities and hobbies that bring you joy and fulfillment, and don’t abandon those hobbies just because you met someone new or you’re in a new relationship.
3. Set Realistic Expectations:
Avoid placing unrealistic expectations on yourself or your partner in relationships. Recognize that no relationship is perfect, and both partners will inevitably experience challenges and setbacks. Instead of striving for perfection, focus on building a strong foundation of mutual respect, understanding, and communication. Embrace the ups and downs of relationships as opportunities for growth and learning.
4. Emotional Regulation:
Develop healthy coping mechanisms for managing emotions and navigating conflict constructively. Prioritize self-care and cultivate resilience in the face of challenges.
5. Practice Patience and Acceptance:
Understand that finding a compatible partner and building a fulfilling relationship takes time and patience. Avoid rushing into relationships out of desperation or fear of being alone. Trust in the process and have faith that the right person will come into your life at the right time. Practice acceptance of yourself and others, recognizing that everyone has their own journey and timeline when it comes to love and relationships.
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