xoGift Guide 2019: Gifts For The Beauty Lover In Your Life
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and this season you should cop some be-you-ti-ful gifts for your favorite beauty lover.
We all have at least one beauty lover in our life, so it's important that we know which items will place the biggest smile on their face. Finding the right present for an avid beauty junkie who is up on all of the releases can be frustrating because it may appear that they have it all. That's why our list is unique. We gathered some astounding products made by black-owned companies and most of them by black women. When it's for us and by us, the beauty just hits different.
For everything from lipsticks to brushes to eyeshadows, this list will supply with all you need for a fire beauty box from heaven.
Brushes: Taya Marin Beauty
Taya Marin Beauty
Face and Body Multi-Purpose Brush
According to beauty maven Taya Marin, these brushes are a must-have in your makeup kit. This large multi-purpose brush in particular is perfect for applying powder foundation, bronzer, blush, and highlighter.
Skincare: Zandra Beauty
Zandra Beauty
Almond Alfresco Vegan Bath & Body Wash
First of all, give it up for this Teen CEO who started her business at age 9. Zandra Cunningham started her plant-based bath and beauty company for pre-teens and teenagers to naturally nourish, heal and improve sensitive skin. This is ideal for the rising beauty extraordinaire because they can experience dope products with a splash of inspiration.
Toner: Aba Love Apothecary
Aba Love Apothecary
Petal Facial Mist
Toners are essential to any beauty enthusiast's routine. Aba Love Apothecary's Petal Facial Mist is great for all skin types. The mist is ideal for keeping you moisturized in dry environments, as well as soothing sunburn and sensitive skin. It also contains skin-loving ingredients like Bulgarian Rose water and organic aloe vera.
Lipstick: The Lip Bar
The Lip Bar
Liquid Matte Lipstick in "Bawse Lady"
A good lippie goes a long way. You can even wear a bare face and a bold lip on the days you don't want to beat your face. The Lip Bar has an armory of shades and tints that will blow your mind.
Gloss & Highlighter: FENTY BEAUTY
FENTY BEAUTY
Bomb Baby 2 Mini Lip and Face Set
Everything in Robyn Rihanna Fenty's beauty collection is worth throwing in the bag but since we don't want you to break the bank, start with the basics. The Gloss Bomb and Killawatt Highlighter are two staples in the collection. They get the job done and this gift set is perfect, especially in travel size. Your lips and cheeks will be perfectly luminized.
Foundation: Laws of Nature Cosmetics
Laws of Nature Cosmetics
The founder of Laws of Nature Cosmetics birthed the beauty brand in her kitchen while experimenting with cosmetic recipes to help women of color like herself. Jasmine Rose combined botanical ingredients and non-toxic minerals, creating a nourishing foundation and setting powder. Many customers rave about the seamless application.
Eyeshadow: Juvia's Place
Juvia's Place
The Warrior Palette
Juvia's Place is the G.O.A.T. so there ain't a beauty lover on this planet that won't gush over any of their palettes. The plethora of effervescent hues look like magic dripping on melanin skin. If you're not sure which product to snag, you can add a handy gift card to your cart and let your beauty lover choose for themselves.
Blush: Mented Cosmetics
Mented Cosmetics
Make You Blush Collection
Mented Cosmetics is known for its exuberant shades of lipsticks but it's time to try their blushes. "Blendable, buildable, and most importantly pigmented, the Make You Blush Collection allows you to sculpt and create perfectly flushed cheeks. With a touch of Vitamin E, this long-lasting powder formula means the product nourishes the skin and stays put all day." Longevity is everything when it comes to any product.
Beauty Organizer: See Me Beauty Organizer "Starter Pack"
We Are JOI
See Me Beauty Organizer "Starter Pack"
Every beauty lover needs an effective way to organize their products, brushes and more. I have a few of these bad boys and they really get the job done because you can easily find what you need when you need it. I am stickler for organization and these make me so happy! I love that they can be stacked on my vanity or even on the floor using the optional platform. This way you can give your collection room to grow while helping you maintain long-term organization.
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Honestly, I don’t know if it will surprise y’all or not to know that a few years back, Vice published an article entitled, “Women Get Bored in Bed Faster Than Men.” When it comes to the clients I work with, what I will say is men tend to underestimate how creative women can be while women seem to overlook that men fake orgasms just about as much as they do. My grand takeaway from all of this? Folks need to be intentional when it comes to keeping the spice alive in their sex life; especially if they’re in a long-term relationship.
That’s why, when one couple came to me and asked what was something that they could do to light the fire (pun intended) in their own bedroom, the first thing that I asked was if they had ever tried wax play before. You should’ve seen the expression on their faces. LOL.
When it comes to things like that, I think that it’s still taboo for some, simply because they’ve only seen it on a movie screen or heard about it in true extreme sexual contexts — and so, they don’t think that it’s something that is “for them” when, the reality is, with the right tips in tow, wax play can be for pretty much anyone…and everyone.
So today, let’s add something new to some of y’all’s boudoir list of activities. Here are 10 things that will, hopefully, help you to see the flames of wax play (I’ve got puns all over the place today) in a whole new light.
1. Anticipation Does Wonders for Sexual Arousal
GiphyI once read an article by a mental health expert who said that anticipation is probably the greatest aphrodisiac of all. It builds excitement. It fuels curiosity. At the end of the day, it’s like a mental form of edging because you’re getting close to something that you look forward to — although you’re not quite there yet. Listen, he’s not off base because even science says that anticipation can give you a dopamine hit that can ultimately improve your sexual experiences.
Keeping this point in mind, how can watching hot wax drip from a candle and head toward your body not fuel some level of anticipation? Especially if it’s your first few times trying it? A woman by the name of Ana Monnar once said, “Anticipation is sometimes more exciting than actual events.” Just something to consider, when it comes to entertaining bringing wax play into your world, my dear.
2. Wax Play Is Peak-Level Foreplay
GiphyWe all know what foreplay is, right? Just to be sure that we’re all on the same page, a very basic definition is it’s something that typically happens right before sex in order to arouse the people who are about to have it. And since foreplay is pretty much the prelude to copulation, it’s important that “the appetizer” is damn near as good as the “main course.” Wax play can help to ensure that because, aside from what I just said about anticipation, it can also help you and your partner tap into your more sensual and seductive sides. It’s hot. It requires being mindful. And since so much give and take is involved, it requires both people to be very into the moment. Lawd. Wax play is sexy to even just think about!
3. Temperature Pleasure Is Lots of Fun
GiphyOkay, say that you’ve never played with wax (in this way) before. Have you ever incorporated ice cubes? I ain’t gonna let y’all get ALL up in my business, so…let me just say (for now) that some ice during oral sex ain’t neva hurt nobody…quite the contrary! There’s something about the unexpected cool that mixes around with the warmth of a mouth that is truly unmatched. Along these same lines, wax play brings in the heat and, what makes temperature pleasure/play so awesome is, that it uses the sensations of different temperatures to bring out different forms of stimulation.
Another thing that’s worth noting about temperature pleasure is if you’re someone who considers yourself to be on the sexually conservative side yet you do like this type of activity, whether you realize it or not, you’re low-key participating in a form of kink (yep!). This brings me to my next point.
4. Wax Play Is an Introduction to Kink
GiphyIt’s kind of interesting how some people clam up at the thought of a (sexual) kink when the reality is, at the end of the day, it’s about having a certain type of sexual experience (as opposed to a fetish that focuses on objects or body parts; like a foot fetish, for example). So, if it’s that simple, why does it intimidate a lot of folks? Well, kinks tend to delve into people’s fantasies or unconventional ways of thinking (like BDSM or voyeurism).
At the same time, the cool thing about kinks is you control how deep you want to go. Just know that if you do participate in wax play, there’s no point in turning up your nose to the whole kink thing; wax play technically qualifies.
5. Soy Does One Thing. Paraffin Does Another.
GiphyOkay, so let’s spend a couple of moments talking about the things that you need to get the most out of your wax play experience. First, please don’t be out here imitating movies. While they will have you believing that you should pull a taper candle from your dining room table and go ham with it, it’s best to go with massage candles; they are specifically designed for wax play and body massages (The Knot has a recommendation list here and Women’s Health has a list of their own here).
When it comes to candles, in general, I’m always a fan of soy because they burn cleaner and last longer. However, when it comes to wax play, two other reasons why soy is best is it’s natural and “burns lower;” this simply means that once the wax hits your body, it won’t be as hot as, say, paraffin wax will (because it has a higher burning point).
What all of this means is if you want a more comfortable experience, go with a soy (or even a shea butter or beeswax) candle. If you want to play with the big (wax play) kids, try paraffin.
Oh, and if you’re wondering if you can never use “regular” candles — I mean, it’s your body. All I’m saying is some candles are designed for wax play; birthday candles? They are not. Feel me?
6. Massage Candles Feel Incredible on Your Muscles and Joints
GiphySo, here’s the thing about massage candles: If you’ve ever had a professional massage before, your massage therapist may have used them. And if you’ve gotten a high-end mani/pedi, some paraffin wax may have come into play (no pun intended). That’s because the wax from both types of candles has health benefits that include relaxing muscles, improving joint mobility, and increasing blood flow throughout the body. And when you factor in the fact that the better you physically feel before sex, the better sex will be during it — isn’t that just one more plus for and perk of wax play? I definitely think so.
7. The Aromatherapy Is Incomparable
GiphySomething else that’s awesome about most massage candles is they have a wonderfully alluring scent to them, by design. Yes, that matters too because there is plenty of data out here to support the fact that aromatherapy does everything from reduce stress and relieve bodily discomfort to treat headaches and fight off infections (word on the street is that it may even help with menstrual cramps and menopause).
As far as your sex life goes, aromatherapy is supreme because certain essential oils double up as aphrodisiacs. Lavender, neroli, and rose are proven to improve your sexual function. Geranium reduces anxiety. And listen, if climaxing is your ultimate goal, check out “Ultimate Climax Hack? 10 Scents That Make It So Much Easier To Orgasm” and then look for massage oils that smell like, say, vanilla, saffron or jasmine. Bottom line, a good massage candle that smells amazing is going to be worth every cent that you spent to purchase it.
8. You Will Learn Communication (and Dirty Talk) on a Whole ‘Nother Level
GiphyOne of the reasons why I once penned, “Are You Ready To Apply Your Love Language To Your Sex Life?” for the platform is because, if there’s one thing that I think is so awesome about sex, is it finds a way to incorporate all five of your senses (sight, touch, taste, sound and hearing) as well as your top love languages (words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, physical touch and gifts — if you’re open to it).
And when it comes to hearing (and words of affirmation), this is another area where wax play can be a winner because, as you’re learning what works for your partner and they learn what works for you, words have to be exchanged… perhaps even dirty ones.
And why is dirty talk so damn effective? According to scientific research, it has the ability to activate your entire brain (the biggest sex organ that you have) and when this is going on while you’re being physically stimulated — chile, the sky truly is the limit!
9. Wax Play Is Completely Customizable
GiphyYou know back when I was talking about soy candles vs. paraffin ones? Something that I didn’t mention, by design at the time, is that, although I will forever be Team Massage Candles when it comes to this particular topic, there are some known as wax play candles too. What’s the difference? Wax play candles tend to remain pretty hard (after being lit up) while massage candles are designed to melt into a liquid that you can massage on your partner’s body.
Why am I bringing this all up now? Well, it’s to serve as a reminder that wax play can be “dialed up” or “turned down” based on what you want to do. If you just want to put a twist on a massage, you can do that. If you’d like to test your partner’s tolerance level by applying more heat for longer, do that.
Just make sure that you use the kind of wax that doesn’t fully melt on shaved areas of the body (pretty sure why is self-explanatory), that you moisturize your skin beforehand (it’s easier to remove the wax…or whatever is leftover) that way and that you pour around 15-20 inches away from your partner’s body; that gives it time to cool somewhat on the way down. Oh, and if you don’t want to jack up your sheets, you might want to lay down a protective drop cloth (like this one here).
10. It Sure As Hell Ain’t Boring
Season 1 Friends GIF - Find & Share on GIPHYGiphyLast point — and it brings all of this full circle. Now that you’ve read all of the ways that wax play can benefit your sex life, how in the world could you associate it with “boring” on any level? Anything that can get you hype, cultivate eagerness, and enhance what you’ve already got going on…that is worth putting on your sex bucket list and trying at least one time, wouldn’t you say? And why can’t that time be…TONIGHT? Shoot your man a pick of a massage candle with a heart and watch him beat you home.
Then report back (with edits…LOL).
Something tells me that you’ll become a wax play fan — SOON.
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