This Is What Your Astrology Says About Your Relationship Wants And Needs
If you're an Astrology buff like me, by now you may know the basics of sign compatibility. If you're a Scorpio, you should date a Cancer and avoid an Aquarius or if you're an Aries, you should get with a Leo and not even think about a Capricorn (or so they say). However, what if as a Scorpio you discover that you have an Aquarius Moon and find out you actually dig that rebellious Aquarius and Cancers may be a little bit too sensitive for you? Or how about being the Aries that's actually turned off by Leo, because your Venus is in Pisces and you're attracted to someone who makes you the center of attention?
Well, that's how Moon and Venus signs can work.
In astrology, just like we have a Sun sign (the zodiac sign indicated by the month and day of your birth), we also have a number of other signs (like a Moon Sign, Rising sign, etc.) that work simultaneously within our birth charts influencing what we like and what we don't like. When it comes to our love lives, our Moon and Venus signs are just two pieces of our birth charts that indicate what we need and desire in a happy, healthy relationship. By honoring or making room for these pieces of ourselves, we make less room for any one size fits all approaches to love. For me, finding out that my Moon and Venus were in two different signs allowed me to see that while what I need and what I want are seemingly dissimilar, it doesn't mean either choice is bad.
If you don't know your Moon and Venus signs, you can visit astro-charts.com, and enter your birth details.
Your Moon sign represents your emotional style, showing what you need to feel nurtured, loved, and supported while your Venus sign represents what you love, highlighting what you deem pleasurable, attractive, and valuable about someone else.
Read below to see what your Moon and Venus say about your relationship needs:
Aries (March 21 - April 19)
Moon in Aries, you need:Authentic (translation: explosive) expressions of emotion between you and your lover. P.s. Your neighbors probably can't stand it.
Venus in Aries, you want: The person that can match your thirst for passion and balls to the wall adventure will keep your engine running.
Taurus (April 20 - May 21)
Moon in Taurus, you need:Someone you can build a home with is what moves you deep down at your core. That and cookies. Cookies are good.
Venus in Taurus, you want:That special person with whom you can wine, dine, and make it last forever like Keith Sweat.
Gemini (May 21 - June 21)
Moon in Gemini, you need: A partner (or several) who gets your innate need to experience, taste, and do just about anything (or anyone) that crosses your path.
Venus in Gemini, you want:The lover (or several) who won't bore you to tears.
Cancer (June 22 - July 22)
Moon in Cancer, you need:Someone you can share all the feels with—anywhere, anytime.
Venus in Cancer, you want:Someone who will share all the feels with you—anywhere, anytime. Warm couch and warm tea are a bonus.
Leo (July 23 - August 22)
Moon in Leo, you need:Someone who will put some respeck on your name and keep it there.
Venus in Leo, you want:An over-the-top romantic, a concierge, a dance partner, and a die-hard fan all wrapped up into one well-dressed package.
Virgo (August 23 - September 22)
Moon in Virgo, you need: Someone who's willing to put some work into this relationship too (dammit).
Venus in Virgo, you want:An expert, caring, and capable Dom/Domme looking for the perfect submissive for long-term love.
Libra (September 23 - October 22)
Moon in Libra, you need:Your other half.
Venus in Libra, you want:The charming, witty, level-headed person who won't embarrass you in public. Ever.
Scorpio (October 23 - November 21)
Moon in Scorpio, you need: Let's just say that if you wrote a book about your ideal relationship, no one would be surprised at the title “F*ck, Marry, Kill".
Venus in Scorpio, you want:When it all comes down to it, only a lover you can possess will do. Collar optional.
Sagittarius (November 22 - December 21)
Moon in Sagittarius, you need: A bae who feeds your sense of joie de vivre, s'il vous plait.
Venus in Sagittarius, you want:A lover who can continuously take you somewhere/teach you something new. Frequent flyer miles a must.
Capricorn (December 22 - January 19)
Moon in Capricorn, you need: A committed, lifelong partner that's willing to give 110% percent to the partnership as per your agreement.
Venus in Capricorn, you want: A committed, lifelong partner that's willing to give 110% percent to the partnership as per your agreement. See also: quality, class, and style.
Aquarius (January 20 - February 18)
Moon in Aquarius, you need:Someone that respects your need to do as you f*cking well please.
Venus in Aquarius, you want:An on-off romance with the weirdo of your dreams with whom you can rage against the machine.
Pisces (February 19 - March 20)
Moon in Pisces, you need: Someone you can be vulnerable with, without fear or guilt. Okay, maybe just a little guilt.
Venus in Pisces, you want: A soulmate.
What does your Moon and Venus say about your relationship wants and needs? Let us know below!
Mecca Woods is a New York City-based Astrologer and Transformation Coach working to help others to claim and create a life they truly want. You can find her at www.mylifecreated.com
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We all see it on social: "Romanticize your life" and having "main character energy." The trend is trending, for sure, and it doesn't seem to look like it'll lose momentum any time soon. And I'm not mad at it. As Black women, we deserve to romanticize any and everything about ourselves and our lives that we want to. You can embrace ways to romanticize your work life that allow you the freedom to enjoy, even when it's part of the job you absolutely hate.
Romanticizing even the most simple parts of our lives is nothing new to Black women. Our favorites, like Maya Angelou, Tracee Ellis Ross, Eartha Kitt, and Beyoncé have all either embodied, talked about, or written about creating big moments out of the minor, and they're always the main character. We know all too well how to normalize being "extra," and we unapologetically do it without even blinking an eye. (The other day, my sister came to the house to braid my hair and I served custom mocktails in my newest eclectic cocktail glasses I found at HomeSense, because, romanticize a kitchen-tician moment, shall we?)
Here are three small but impactful and self-affirming ways to add a little more delight, allure, and joy into your work day:
1. Invest in decorating your space in a way that reflects your true personality and work style.
I find romance in my surroundings, whether it's choosing to go to a chic coffee shop to work or having lunch on an outdoor patio filled with my favorite lush greenery or bright colors. And when it comes to my office space, I have to have inspiration on my walls, in the background sounds, and even in the temperature. I've recently invested in buying vinyl albums with music that keeps my motivation going and the writing juices flowing. (Janelle Monáe'sThe Age of Pleasure is my latest, and it allows me to escape into an alluring playland of spunky confidence and joy.)
Even if it's a cubicle, add an aromatherapy element (within reason and consideration of your office mates). Treat your space to a weekly or monthly bouquet of flowers (or invest in some great faux ones). Include an easy-to-maintain snake plant or a glorious spider plant that you create a routine of watering and nurturing.
Get that new cordless mouse in a neutral or metallic color. Keep dainty notepads and journals around to write Thank-you cards or send birthday greetings to clients, coworkers, or industry friends. Add mood bulbs in your lamps or overhead lighting for creative brainstorming, or a meditative sound machine for in-office breaks.
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2. Make getting dressed for work a time for self-expression and self-care.
I feel much more ready to conquer my work day when taking meetings or even just doing the regular workday things when I'm wearing something not only comfy but chic. I'm not big on fussy fashion so that means, for me, sticking to a uniform of a well-fitting blazer, some casual slacks (or even sweatpants in a luxe or dressier fabric), and either a graphic tee or a tank. When it's cold (which is rare for me because of where I live), I'll throw on a scarf or swap the blazer for a cardigan, coat, or shacket in a bright hue or a print. For shoes, I either wear a pump, sneakers, or strappy sandals.
Put the sweatpants, pajama sets, or ill-fitting throw-ons away and start dressing. It doesn't have to be stressful, too dramatic, or expensive. If your job requires casual wear, take time to invest in quality pieces, a daily routine where your clothing is set the day or week before, and a deliberate step-by-step daily grooming habit that screams luxury in the way you do it (whatever that looks like for your lifestyle and obligations.)
I love creating different combos with the same work outfit formula, and when I can take these items out with ease and take my time putting them on, I don't have to rush through my skincare and haircare routines before starting work.
If you're not into dressing up, that's fine, but still, take the deliberate time to put that athleisure wear together in a way that affirms that you love yourself and you are super-aware that your look is the first impression people get before you even utter a word. Embrace your body type, so-called "flaws" and all, and wear things that make you feel refreshed, empowered, and confident.
Find ways to take the stress out of dressing, like getting a stylist, sticking to a capsule wardrobe, or allowing your favorite fashion influencer to do all the work for you. If you find that working from home has you a bit lazier and indifferent when it comes to grooming and getting dressed, start dressing to go to a co-working space, coffee shop, or park at least once per week.
3. Date yourself...as a job candidate who is somewhat taken but is open to other options.
I remember those fun days of the "roster," where I'd date multiple men and keep my options open simply because I just wasn't going to let anybody's son Reesa Teesa me into commitment. What was fun about this was the pressure was off, I could enjoy different personalities and experiences, and I could have fun in the process of finding the "one." (When I met my current man of seven years, I was dating three guys who I had to cut off once I fell in love. And to add context, just because you're dating someone, doesn't mean you're sleeping with them. Sad I have to note that, but just looking at the Black love and dating conversations being had in these Internet streets, I feel I must.)
The same way you'd have an adventure, keeping your options open while dating, is the same thing you can do being a 9-to-5 professional. It's an adventure that might boost your motivation and joy in working.
Just because you like your current job doesn't mean you shouldn't be shooting your shot at other places, especially if you're not 100 percent satisfied or are looking to advance. Within reason, this is a great way to explore what's fresh and new in the job market, what employers are looking for today, and what other wonderful career adventures are out there that you might be missing while you're comfortable at your current job. Be sure to know your company policies, use discretion, and only agree to interviews with companies that allow you to level up via travel opportunities, a higher salary, or more fulfillment.
If interviewing at other companies isn't your thing, try taking on a fun side hustle, where you can place your passions that don't fit your job per se, into something else. Enjoy the ride of building something from scratch, seeing it flourish, trying new skills, and meeting new people.
As with all things, we should find joy in our careers and the paths we're taking to fulfill our highest dreams.
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