5 Go-To Positions For When Your Partner Is Well-Endowed
I've come to the conclusion that big dick (and I mean actual big-girthy-dick) is not for everyone. If the dick is too big, I'm running and not in the "home run" hit it sense. But there are living legends out there who speak of riding big dick like the stallion that it is and I have to believe that position, patience, and did I mention "positions" have everything to do with it. Big dick is nawt for the faint of heart but sometimes you meet one that you just can't resist. Because this is so, I reached out to my network of big dick whisperers to find out what positions are best and most comfortable for you to truly take it all in. These were the positions that polled the highest and most pleasurable.
Keep in mind, comfort and pleasure are two subjective measurements so what's for some isn't for all and with that in mind I'll try to add modifications when possible because I'm already scuffing at some of the poor decisions of these people. But I digress and give you the keys to channel the ebbs and flows of big dick energy.
Missionary
We all know what missionary is, but it must be said that this position catches a bad rap. Mostly because it's the alleged marker of a vanilla sex life and it is pretty vanilla -- nonetheless even vanilla can be spiced up with a topping or two. So I'd much rather view missionary as the base, where one might start but you can stack on to it and, best of all, you can slow stroke in it -- making it ideal for the slow stroke and grind.
Doggie Style
Finding this out took me back a bit because I've always been under the impression that this is the one move you want to avoid and I'm still under that impression. But I suppose I wasn't specific in my research -- nowhere did I ask for positions that might minimize pain with a highly hung man. And, it's also very possible that you can control penetration through doggy style by decreasing the amount of ass you're throwing back. Nonetheless, I'm going to alter this as my research shows that it's standing doggy style that will change ya life for the better while getting the good-good.
Cowgirl
This position is popular and always pushed as the best way for women to take control of sex and the dick depth they're taking in. It works because you've got the reins up top and can adjust your angles, how far down you're coming, and much more.
Alternatively, try reverse cowgirl for even more resistance on how far you're coming down.
Plank
This position is classic for a number of reasons. It can be super intimate or super impersonal, depending on people behind the pose. But it's also a great position for inching your way into deeper penetration and also allows you to resist deeper penetration by clenching your cheeks. Should you take the more intimate approach, which could entail some back kisses and whatnot, it has been shown through research that kisses can decrease pain.
Spoon
In my experience, the spoon position is perfect because it forces your partner to dole out dick given that the bed puts a bit of friction in your motion. You can start spooning and turn things out to something more exciting once you've adjusted and feel comfortable.
In addition to being mindful of your positioning when dealing with a hung-hung man, you should gloss it up with lube. Please, don't yell at me about you needing nothing because we can all use an assist and lube is that -- lube is your friend. After all, the wetter, the better! So lube it up in order to reduce the friction. And, those are just basic pleasure principles.
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Motor City native, Atlanta living. Sagittarius. Writer. Sexpert. Into all things magical, mystical, and unknown. I'll try anything at least once but you knew that the moment I revealed that I was a Sag.
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
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THE ITGIRL MEMO
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IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
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8 'It Girl' Podcasts To Help You Level Up And Elevate Your Thinking
Black folk love a good podcast, and the numbers don't lie: A report found that a whopping 43% of the U.S. Black population are monthly podcast listeners. Among those listeners, 55 percent are women, and 75% overall, Black listeners are drawn to shows that focus on our unique stories and perspectives.
Listening to a good podcast can leave you feeling energized, seen, and understood, especially when Black women hosts are at the lead. And if you're a lover of multitasking motivation, they're perfect to enjoy while doing your household chores or driving to your next appointment.
Since xoNecole, in partnership with Hyundai, has launched its inaugural ItGirl 100 List—a celebration of fierce, ultra-creative, Black women, across industries—here are a few podcasts to add to your list for leveling up in all aspects of your life and career:
1.Therapy For Black Girls With Dr. Joy Harden Bradford
Addressing mental health issues and redefining wellness in that area is a great first start for leveling up, whether personally or professionally. Dr. Joy Harden Bradford is keeping the momentum going this year, offering insights on subjects including finding "purpose in profit," healing from grief, and more.
2.Healed Girl Era With Gia Peppers
Known for making her own amazing boss moves in media, Gia Peppers is expanding on the impact she had with her previous podcast, "More Than That," with "Healed Girl Era," a show that focuses on topics including self-love cultivation and candid conversations with other successful women we love like author and speaker Luvvie Ajayi, Oscar-nominated actress Danielle Brooks (The Color Purple), and entrepreneur Jovian Zayne.
3.The Mama's Den
For all the moms holding down the house while loving on their pride and joys, this is a great podcast that talks about issues ranging from pop culture snafus to friendship maintenance. The conversations also affirm Black women's identities that go beyond being "mommy," and how women can truly embrace self-care as parents.
4.The Light Podcast with Michelle Obama
The former U.S. First Lady taps into her network of friends and family to drop jewels on friendship, marriage, relationship building, and some of her own personal experiences of life post-White House. What's great about this is if you loved any of her books, you can get even more elevated inspiration.
5.The Scottie & Sylvia Show
Media personalities and best friends Scottie Beam and Sylvia Obell got rave reviews and built a robust community of supporters with Okay, Now Listen during the pandemic but ended recording episodes of the super-successful show in 2022. They came back strong, launching their latest podcast, The Scottie & Sylvia Show, via Issa Rae's Raedio, addressing topics on romance, colorism, and vulnerability in the engaging way that’s made them a crowd favorite.
6.Money Talk With Tiff
Can't level up with talking about personal finance, and Tiffany Grant, an accredited financial counselor, shares realistic tips on subjects like how to tackle debt and the best approach to having the money talk with your bae. The show also features interviews with entrepreneurs and experts on real estate investing and entrepreneurship.
7.The Thought Card
Danielle Desir Corbette meshes her passion for travel with personal finance advocacy with this podcast. She offers insights on "travel hacking" and content about unique travel experiences that put Black culture and enlightenment at the center of the adventure.
8.Just Us Podcast
This podcast is hosted by besties who are lawyers by training, and co-host Tashira Halyard (who left a career in law to go full-time as a content creator) boldly holds space, offering her very relatable take on social, economic, and personal topics that affect Black women in the workplace and society at large. This podcast particularly showcases the power of connection, understanding, and common ground that is magnified when two powerful millennials from diverse backgrounds actually talk, listen, and respectfully relate with one another in ways that are affirming and truth-seeking.
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