There is something so regal, yet authentic, about our forever First Lady Michelle Obama. Even in a room filled with more than 20,000 people, her energy is electric and contagious, and her words are positively piercing and powerful. As a black woman, I am blessed to say this was more than true for me during my recent experience at the "I Am Becoming" tour in Atlanta, Georgia.
If I've learned anything from Michelle Obama, her book, and now her tour, I am embracing the fact that I am becoming the best version of myself.
My past and present is molding me into the future woman I'm becoming…through faith in God and the woman that God created me to be.
There is no way I can possibly duplicate the Michelle Obama experience, and honestly, I'm still trying to take it all in. However, if you love positive affirmations like I do, then hopefully you will be empowered and encouraged by some of the insights that were shared from none other than Michelle Obama.
"Believe in the validity of who you are and have the courage to share your story."
Part of why we love Michelle Obama so much is because she's so honest about who she is and where she's been. We see ourselves when we see Michelle. That's why it's so important to be authentically you and embrace who you are. Your story matters – to you and to others like you. Trust and believe there is someone out there waiting to hear your story.
"We (minorities) have been told 'these things aren't for you,’ but we have to push through the negative images they have of us…Don’t listen to them.”
Ignore the dream killers and let your Black Girl Magic shine. "Trust your dopeness" and believe that you are more than capable and equipped to do what you were created to do. Like they say, "You're gonna get this Black Girl Magic today!"
"It's up to me to establish and define my voice."
Don't allow anyone else to define your voice. During the Obama presidency, there were so many people and entities – including the media – who tried to tell us who Michelle Obama was, but ultimately she defined her own narrative. She told her story and didn't let those voices silence hers. Now, more than ever, she is one of the most powerful voices in the world. How will you define your voice?
"If you're always running and doing things, you miss the times to celebrate yourself and show gratitude."Giphy
When was the last time you took a moment and celebrated your accomplishments? Sometimes we become so obsessed with planning for tomorrow that we miss the blessing of today. Sis, I know you have a lot more that you want to do, but don't forget to take the time to celebrate how much you've already achieved.
“If they want the power, then they want us to not want it. The White House was just another table that others thought I didn’t belong at.”
They've been telling us for decades that we don't belong and we can't have a seat at the table, but we do belong and our voices will be heard. Michelle Obama, along with so many others, have made that clear. Let Michelle Obama serve as inspiration considering the fact that she's been in a lot of powerful rooms and she's gone to a lot of powerful places. If they still don't give you a seat at the table, then make your own.
“A lot of times, people make decisions based on the limited information they have. They decide for you what you should reach for. I had to listen to the truth of who I was.”
Michelle shared so many stories about some of her past counselors and advisors who discouraged her because of their limited view of who she was as a black woman. She easily recalled all of those "no's" and everyone who tried to tell her what she could and couldn't do, and her response was simply, "I'll show you." Hence, let that be your response to your naysayers – "I'll show you." Don't allow other people's stereotypes, and their limited knowledge of you, keep you in a box.
“Going low is a sign of weakness.”
It's not always easy to take the high road when they go low. However, for Michelle and Barack, they realized that their reactions and their legacy were more important and bigger than other people's desire for immediate gratification. Remember, what you say today can impact what others say about you later on.
"Don't sit in isolation with your problems."Giphy
Sis, you are not alone. Seek wisdom from those around you because many of us, as women, go through similar situations especially when it comes to life and love. Nobody's life is perfect and nobody's relationship is perfect. May we be inspired to be more transparent not only about the success, but about our stories and struggles as well.
“Our words can lift a child up or cut them down.”
Words matter, and as Michelle reminded us "we owe it to our young people to be better." May our words ignite young people's dreams and passions, and encourage them to embrace and become who they desire to be.
“The simple things and pleasures – love, stability, consistency, honesty, kindness, values…sometimes we forget that’s the truth.”
At the end of the day, it's the simple things that bring about happiness. A happy life is less about financial gain, fame, or fortune; rather, it's about what we do with the gift of life that we've been given.
May every woman reading this be inspired to continue on the journey to becoming the best version of yourself. There will be people will try to tell you who you should be, what you should do, or even what you can't do, but like Michelle told us, "don't listen to them!" Even though people may underestimate you, God can upgrade you.
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