10 Motivational Mantras From Michelle Obama
There is something so regal, yet authentic, about our forever First Lady Michelle Obama. Even in a room filled with more than 20,000 people, her energy is electric and contagious, and her words are positively piercing and powerful. As a black woman, I am blessed to say this was more than true for me during my recent experience at the "I Am Becoming" tour in Atlanta, Georgia.
If I've learned anything from Michelle Obama, her book, and now her tour, I am embracing the fact that I am becoming the best version of myself.
My past and present is molding me into the future woman I'm becoming…through faith in God and the woman that God created me to be.
There is no way I can possibly duplicate the Michelle Obama experience, and honestly, I'm still trying to take it all in. However, if you love positive affirmations like I do, then hopefully you will be empowered and encouraged by some of the insights that were shared from none other than Michelle Obama.
"Believe in the validity of who you are and have the courage to share your story."
Part of why we love Michelle Obama so much is because she's so honest about who she is and where she's been. We see ourselves when we see Michelle. That's why it's so important to be authentically you and embrace who you are. Your story matters – to you and to others like you. Trust and believe there is someone out there waiting to hear your story.
"We (minorities) have been told 'these things aren't for you,’ but we have to push through the negative images they have of us…Don’t listen to them.”
Ignore the dream killers and let your Black Girl Magic shine. "Trust your dopeness" and believe that you are more than capable and equipped to do what you were created to do. Like they say, "You're gonna get this Black Girl Magic today!"
"It's up to me to establish and define my voice."
Don't allow anyone else to define your voice. During the Obama presidency, there were so many people and entities – including the media – who tried to tell us who Michelle Obama was, but ultimately she defined her own narrative. She told her story and didn't let those voices silence hers. Now, more than ever, she is one of the most powerful voices in the world. How will you define your voice?
"If you're always running and doing things, you miss the times to celebrate yourself and show gratitude."
GiphyWhen was the last time you took a moment and celebrated your accomplishments? Sometimes we become so obsessed with planning for tomorrow that we miss the blessing of today. Sis, I know you have a lot more that you want to do, but don't forget to take the time to celebrate how much you've already achieved.
“If they want the power, then they want us to not want it. The White House was just another table that others thought I didn’t belong at.”
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They've been telling us for decades that we don't belong and we can't have a seat at the table, but we do belong and our voices will be heard. Michelle Obama, along with so many others, have made that clear. Let Michelle Obama serve as inspiration considering the fact that she's been in a lot of powerful rooms and she's gone to a lot of powerful places. If they still don't give you a seat at the table, then make your own.
“A lot of times, people make decisions based on the limited information they have. They decide for you what you should reach for. I had to listen to the truth of who I was.”
Michelle shared so many stories about some of her past counselors and advisors who discouraged her because of their limited view of who she was as a black woman. She easily recalled all of those "no's" and everyone who tried to tell her what she could and couldn't do, and her response was simply, "I'll show you." Hence, let that be your response to your naysayers – "I'll show you." Don't allow other people's stereotypes, and their limited knowledge of you, keep you in a box.
“Going low is a sign of weakness.”
It's not always easy to take the high road when they go low. However, for Michelle and Barack, they realized that their reactions and their legacy were more important and bigger than other people's desire for immediate gratification. Remember, what you say today can impact what others say about you later on.
"Don't sit in isolation with your problems."
GiphySis, you are not alone. Seek wisdom from those around you because many of us, as women, go through similar situations especially when it comes to life and love. Nobody's life is perfect and nobody's relationship is perfect. May we be inspired to be more transparent not only about the success, but about our stories and struggles as well.
“Our words can lift a child up or cut them down.”
Words matter, and as Michelle reminded us "we owe it to our young people to be better." May our words ignite young people's dreams and passions, and encourage them to embrace and become who they desire to be.
“The simple things and pleasures – love, stability, consistency, honesty, kindness, values…sometimes we forget that’s the truth.”
At the end of the day, it's the simple things that bring about happiness. A happy life is less about financial gain, fame, or fortune; rather, it's about what we do with the gift of life that we've been given.
May every woman reading this be inspired to continue on the journey to becoming the best version of yourself. There will be people will try to tell you who you should be, what you should do, or even what you can't do, but like Michelle told us, "don't listen to them!" Even though people may underestimate you, God can upgrade you.
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Shonda Brown White is a bestselling author, blogger, life coach, and brand strategist. When she's not jumping out of a plane or zip lining, she's living the married life with her husband in Atlanta, GA. Connect with her on social @ShondaBWhite and her empowering real talk on her blog.
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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Is It Ever Okay To Share Your Friends' Business With Your Partner? Maybe.
The older we get, the more we communicate our boundaries. With age, we also more clearly understand those boundaries and how to effectively, and immediately speak on them confidently. For many years, I remained connected with a friend whose boyfriend would always come to me and call me "lonely" or mention a discussion I had only had in private with her.
Back then, not only was it that anything I said to her in confidence was being reiterated without my permission. But there was also the sass of that man to repeat tidbits of our conversations back to me coupled with her audacity not to check him then and there whenever he did. But, as a much older adult, I realize people can’t do what they don’t know, and based on her choice of partner – it now seems to be a given that boundaries and respect weren’t two things that were high on her list of priorities…respectfully.
We stayed friends for many years, and honestly, I wouldn’t have had a problem with it had her man kept his mouth shut. I’m about to tell on myself when I say, “I thought we were all doing that? I thought we were all telling our man the tea at the end of our days?” I mean, I don’t have a man 90 percent of the time – so more often than not the secrets have been safe, but like?!
But, I’ve since seen several online posts in passing that suggest this is actually against the girl code – leaving me to feel validated but also guilty for my acts of treason. I thought it would be safe to get some more insight from an expert as listening to internet rhetoric can, at times, be overrated.
According to Dr. Ayanna Abrams, a licensed clinical psychologist, it depends. "It depends on four relationships – not just the one with your friend. This answer depends on your friendship, your partnership, your friend's relationship with your partner, and your relationship to the shared information.”
Dr. Abrams went on to provide a list of questions that can help us better understand if what you want to share with your partner is information your man is even qualified to know. Here is the list of questions that Dr. Abrams suggests you use as a flowchart of sorts:
1. What is my relationship with this friend?
How close are we? What stage of friendship are we in? Is this vulnerable information that feels particularly intimate or difficult for them to share? Did my friend ask me not to share?
2. What's my relationship with my partner?
What do I know about them and how do they hold information about me or the people in my life? Have they shown respect for people's privacy or do I know that they sometimes have trouble with privacy/secrets?
3. How does the shared information affect me?
Does it overjoy me, upset me, might it impact me and I'm anxious about it? (This could help determine what information you're sharing–are you sharing context for how it impacts you or are you sharing it as gossip?)
4. Is this information something that I believe my friend wouldn't mind my partner knowing?
Do they have any connection to each other (or is it strained or fairly distant?)
5. What's motivating me to share?
Do I need support, am I trying to connect with my partner through sharing things that happen to me within other relationships? Do we have a practice of sharing what's going on with our friends? How do I feel about sharing this information with anyone?
What can seem harmless to us may be a cause for immediate termination for others. This is a great opportunity to point out the importance of communicating and setting boundaries in all relationships, early and often. This is often recommended in romantic relationships but it can solve a lot of the issues stemming from miscommunication in platonic relationships as well.
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