7 Reasons Not To Settle In A Relationship
Settling for a partner who does not reciprocate emotionally, physically, spiritually, and vibrationally is one of the greatest mistakes you could ever make in a relationship.
The reasons for this might seem blatantly obvious, but still, so many people fall victim to a treacherous heart. So many of us have such a strong desire to love and be loved, that we sometimes accept less-than in a partner.
I am no stranger to falling into this downward spiralling pattern, due to heart pangs of wanting to be deeply in love with the wrong person. As a result, it's been one of the most excruciatingly painful heartaches of my life.
This read will list the ways in which you can end up hurting yourself if you settle for a partner who is more interested in a one-sided situationship. There are some really harmful consequences to settling in love, and after reading this list, you'll never want to go halfway with anyone ever again!
No Return On Your Self-Investment
When you make the decision to be with a person who is a lackluster partner, you are automatically setting your self-worth bar too low. If you value what you have to bring to the table emotionally, physically, financially, and energetically, your soul will repel anything that is less than your own worth.
If you value your heart, and respect your body and mind, you will not willingly align with somebody who doesn't deserve everything that you have to offer. Would you invest in a stock that contains less net worth than what you already possess? Of course not! The amount of love and time that you have to invest in someone should be equivalent, if not more, in the heart of your partner.
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Fontaine Felisha Foxworth is a writer and creative entrepreneur from Brooklyn New York. She is currently on the West Coast working on creating a TV Pilot called "Finding Fontaine", that details the nomadic journey of her life so far. Keep up with her shenanigans @famoustaine on IG.
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
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Tyler James Williams Explains Why His And Quinta Brunson 'Abbott Elementary' Characters Should Remain Friends
While Abbott Elementary fans are hoping that Janine and Gregory end up together, the show’s star has another take. Tyler James Williams plays Gregory on the Emmy award-winning sitcom, and he recently stopped by The Jennifer Hudson Show to share his point of view on his storyline with Janine, which Quinta Brunson plays.
“I hate to say it. I know that everybody’s always mad at me for this. I don’t necessarily want to see them together,” he revealed. “It’s partially an actor’s choice, but also somebody who, like, I read a lot of scripts all the time. I watch a lot of TV, a lot of film. I don’t think that we see displays of platonic love between two people often. I think it’s really easy to go right to they have feelings for each other, therefore they should be together. I like this dynamic of exploring withholding that and just actively loving each other where they are. That I like to see more.”
If you recall, they were co-workers who became friends but were secretly crushing on each other. They’ve had many awkward run-ins during and after school, like the unforgettable club scene where they were dancing nervously with each other in season one, and in season two, they finally kiss. However, it only made things even more awkward, and they decided to just be friends. Tyler further explained why he thinks it’s important to showcase that type of relationship on screen.
“I think it’s time for that. I think TV allows people to see things that could be their lives for the first time, and I think seeing a healthy friendship that is deeply caring about one another in a work atmosphere needs to be shown more than the relationship,” he concluded.
Abbott Elementary comes on every Wednesday at 9 p.m. EST on ABC.
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