Tiffany Haddish Is A Reminder That We Are Allowed To Have Bad Moments
The year 2018 treated Tiffany Haddish splendidly by the looks of her accomplishments, and as she pushes full steam ahead, 2019 will likely be no different.
However, the actress and comedian did not get off to the best start, offering a lackluster performance to patrons ready to hit the floor laughing at her stand up routine. On New Year's Eve, she performed at the James L. Knight Center in Miami, where she struggled to remember her own jokes as many fans headed to the nearest exits.
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Tiffany reacted to many news outlets, reporting the fumble with full responsibility:
"Yes, this happened. I wish it was better Miami...I prayed on it and I have a strong feeling this will never happen (sic) again."
As you can imagine, Twitter is on fire with critics and fans the same expressing their thoughts on her less than favorable performance that she eventually cut short to enjoy drinks with fans. Many stars like Chrissy Teigen and Damon Wayans Jr. rushed to her defense with words of empathy and encouragement. Chrissy tweeted:
"I bombed last night too and all I had to do was read a prompter and also I lost an eyeball. f*ck it we good and you are a queen."
Most of us have an understanding that when you are a person that works at their craft, especially those that perform, you are going to have your bad days. Most of us have the pleasure of our bad days not being broadcast for the world to see, and then you have people like Beyoncé, who you can watch fumble down a flight of stairs on your smartphone at any given moment. However, it is important not to use these moments of less than stellar delivery to define a person, or even to define yourself.
The comeback is always stronger than the setback, periodt.
Fans of Tiffany Haddish's are most likely not phased by this mishap as we know that she often uses unpleasant life events to propel herself forward, and will likely laugh at this later. But there is a greater lesson in her minute of defeat, which is if you want to win big, you have to be willing to fail big.
As we head into the new year with our bucket lists and goals in hand, we have to be realistic with the fact that we will not succeed without a few bumps in the road. Many of us will fall off of our horses, and there is no shame in that. However, those of us who are prepared to get back on for the ride are the ones who will succeed in our pursuit. When we share our accomplishments, many of us forget to share how many times we felt defeated.
Tiffany is just like the rest of us creatives, learning a lot about herself along the way. I am sure some of her best performances are yet to come!
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
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THE ITGIRL MEMO
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II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
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Another season of Love Is Blind has come to a close, and almost two months later we’re still unpacking the drama that is Clay and AD. The finale, reunion, and post-interviews with Clay and AD after season six of Love Is Blind left millions of people wondering - why couldn’t AD see the signs? Clay told her he had a fear of marriage, his parents experienced infidelity, and he seemed to have many doubts about saying, "I do."
After changing his mind at the altar and hearing AD question why she feels like she’s never enough, I was finished watching. I didn’t need to hear anything else because, at that moment, I realized this wasn’t about Clay; this was about AD feeling inadequate before she ever met Clay.
If I’m honest, I don’t watch much dating television. TikTok keeps me updated with the clips that I need to see in order to be kept in the loop, but it’s difficult for me to watch an entire season of dating TV because seeing Black women settle for less and questioning their beauty is a trigger for me. In many ways, there were points in my life where I was AD, settling and ignoring red flags because I wanted to be loved.
Now, on the other side, it doesn’t feel good to see Black women lower their standards on national television. There have been many hot takes on this couple and who was in the wrong. Did Clay play in AD’s face or did she not listen to the truth of what he told her from day one? Was his reason for joining the show to promote his business and not to find the one?
We’ll never know the truth, but what we can do is learn tactics to better our self-worth. Founder and CEO of The Self Love Organization Denise Francis shared her expertise with xoNecole on what tangible steps to take to improve feelings of worthiness. “Self-love blooms in a garden where self-worth is planted, nourished, and whole. However, when your self-worth is challenged, displaced, or broken, it could be difficult to rebuild," Denise explains.
How To Rebuild Self-Worth
During her self-love coaching sessions, Denise likes to walk her clients through the cornerstones of rebuilding self-worth: grace and self-compassion. To her, self-worth is never lost, it's only displaced, so practicing self-compassion and giving yourself grace is a must. "We tend to place our self-worth in entities and people of ourselves such as relationship status, physical appearance, material possessions, social media followings, what others think of us, and more. Self-worth is not something to be measured by anyone or anything outside of ourselves because we all innately hold value and worth.
"Self-worth is not something to be measured by anyone or anything outside of ourselves because we all innately hold value and worth."
"When we place our value into people or things, we tend to feel that we are not enough, worth it, special, or important when relationship status, job titles, friendships, and physical appearances are lost or changed. We then tend to feel lost within ourselves because we’ve placed our value outside of ourselves. Using grace and compassion, you can rebuild your self-worth by returning home to who you are at your core," she concludes.
How To Return Home To Yourself
Denise advises taking a step back and using self-reflection through journaling by answering the following journaling prompts:
First, ask yourself, "What do you tend to attach your self-worth to and why?"
Is it your relationships, your job title, your finances, your appearance, etc.? Why do you think you place so much emphasis on external status? How does it make you feel when you are defining yourself through these entities and/or people outside of yourself?
Then, ask yourself, "Without these things, who am I?"
Once you have your answers, show yourself kindness, remove the shame, and, as Denise says, "Redefine yourself by detaching your value from the things and people you have no control over and no longer serve you. Challenge yourself to define yourself outside of titles and societal values."
"By returning home to your core, you find value in who you are as a person. You begin to find value in the way you love instead of your relationship status, your compassion instead of your popularity, your drive instead of your income/job title, and your heart instead of your physical appearance," she adds.
"By returning home to your core, you find value in who you are as a person."
"Be intentional with healing your self-worth by leaning into the people and things that nourish your core values. Surround yourself with the people who love and cherish you, they will always remind you just how valuable you truly are."
It all goes back to self-compassion and grace. As Denise explains, leading with those two things as you heal and rebuild your self-worth allows you to reduce negative self-talk that might come up for you. "This weakens thoughts like, 'I am not enough... why am I never enough?'" she shares, "And 'I don't deserve this while strengthening thoughts like 'I deserve better,' 'I am enough,' and 'I am worth it.'"
Denise continues, "Once you return home and remember the irreplaceable person you are, you can rebuild your self-worth by placing it back where it belongs. It belongs to you."
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