6 Reasons To Fall In Love With Your Flaws

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Growing up, I had a really bad relationship with my teeth. Although things were cool when I was a little girl, once my adult ones came in, it seemed like my teeth were so big that they overtook my entire face (I've got the pics to prove it). As if that wasn't bad enough, I also had an overbite, a little overcrowding on my front bottom teeth and my left front tooth protrudes slightly more than my right one. Ugh. Out of all the things that are "wrong" with my teeth, that annoys me the most.


I begged my mother to take me to the dentist. Beyond semi-routine cleanings, she didn't. It wasn't until I was well into my 30s when she explained that even though she knows she should have, she didn't because she had an illogical fear of the dentist herself.

As pissed as I was about having these teeth of mine, there are two distinct things that happened that helped me to make peace.

For one thing, back in the day, I used to do a little bit of modeling. During a shoot, I mentioned to the husband/wife photography team that I wanted to get braces. Both of them paused and shook their head "no". The husband then said, "Braces aren't always a good thing. They can totally alter your facial structure and, believe it or not, mess up your smile."

The second thing that happened was the death of my father. My smile — lips, overbite 'n all — I get from him. Now that he's gone, it's weird but it's like I get a glimpse of him every day whenever I look in the mirror. Ironically, that makes me smile. Big.

Both of these life moments have taught me the same overall point — flaws are not something to be ashamed of or even something that we should be consumed with changing. As you'll see in just a sec, if your perspective is healthy, your so-called flaws can actually be the best thing about you (physically).

5. The Right Man Won’t Care About Your Flaws. (He Probably Won’t Notice Either!)

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Time flies, boy. I say that because it's hard to believe that 10 years ago this year, I did a blog called So, How Did You Know? It featured stories from husbands and wives about how they met their spouse and how they knew they were the right one for them.

One of the things that I asked everyone is what they liked about their spouse's mind, body and spirit. I can't remember exactly which husband said it, but what he said about his beloved has always stayed with me — "I love that when God made her, He had me in mind." Niiiiice.

Something that I tell single women is, the very thing you're trying to change about yourself is oftentimes the very thing your future husband will adore (maybe even prefer) about you. I know husbands who had a fit when their wives lost weight. I know husbands who think that stretch marks are sexy. I also know husbands who find overbites to be nothing short of a blessing (some of y'all will catch that later).

None of us should want to switch up for a man, but trust me, if that's what your main motivation is, let it be something else. The right man — your man — will love everything about you. So-called flaws 'n all.

Feature image by Getty Images.

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