"Ugh, I didn't like France. French people are racist."

"Go to Italy! They're so friendly and I hear they love black women."

"Do Germans even have black people outside of the military?"


It's something almost every black traveler fathoms before venturing abroad. How will my blackness be perceived in this predominantly non-black space? It's a valid concern. At best, our otherness might put us on a flattering pedestal. At worst, we might get mistreated. Even traveling to remote areas of the U.S., you will find people that stare at you and ask aggravating questions like, "Can I touch your hair?" I certainly wondered about how I'd fare as a black woman before moving to France.

But this post is really not just about me.

Yes, I am black. Yes, I am in Europe. But that really doesn't make me special.

Because even though only a small percentage of African Americans travel to Europe yearly, there are tens of millions of black people that are already there: Afro-Europeans.

Black people don't just live in Africa and the United States. Thanks (but like, no thanks) to colonialism, the African diaspora truly reaches some of the most unlikely corners of the earth. Most African Americans make the mistake of assuming that we are the only group of African descendants living as the underrepresented, mistreated, systematically oppressed minorities in predominantly white spaces. Tell that to the 55 million Afro-Brazilians. Or the millions of black descendants in the UK, Italy, and France.

But our egocentricism isn't entirely our fault. I, too, had no idea exactly how many black and brown people lived in Europe until I came here. I assumed based on films, television, and images I had seen growing up that Europe is one homogenous white continent. Full of sameness with very little variation of color or culture (or at least not culture from an ethnic standpoint). It's the invisible diversity of Europe.

In the same way African-Americans lack representation in almost all facets of our society, Afro-Europeans lack it even more.

I had met a lot of people my first couple of months in France, but I still felt something was missing. I yearned to connect with people that were like-minded. People in which I had an inevitable bond with. In short, I needed to make black friends. It sounds silly to some, but anyone a part of a minority group in some way (race, sexuality, etc) understands this desire.

The problem was never the lack of black people, but how to organically make friends with them. Making friends as an adult is not an easy feat. How do you tell a random person you think they're kinda cool and we should hang out in the most platonic way possible without being creepy? Several months later and I've met friends of friends, connected with random people through social media, and have even joined a Black Expats in Paris meet-up. By speaking with people, I've gathered quite a few perspectives.

African Americans are both admired and envied in France.

Believe it or not, we have the type of global visibility not afforded to others of the African Diaspora. African Americans are the examples of cool, the creators of pop culture. Our celebrities are their celebrities, our favorite TV shows are their favorites too. African Americans are vocal in periods of inequality and reactionary during times of social injustice. Mike Brown and Trayvon Martin are not only names uttered on American soil. "I Have a Dream" is familiar to all European ears, the "Black Lives Matter" cry has been heard around world and the Civil Rights Movement is a part of their curriculum just as much as ours. In short, the Black American experience has left a definite mark in world history.

For Black Europeans, however, their history tends to get shoved under the rug.

I've noticed a slight lack in community for Afro-French people. For African-Americans, there's this idea of fictive kinship. I may not know you from Adam, but if we are the only two black people within a predominantly white space, then we will acknowledge one another. But that's only on a micro-level. On a macro-scale, we have become masters of creating spaces for ourselves. Hair salons and barbershops, Historically Black Colleges and Universities, BET Network, NAACP… we have a black national anthem! All with the intent of uplifting and strengthening one another, for validating our place in a society not made for us.

But our sense of community derives from our shared experiences.

Many of our ancestors were slaves. Many of our living relatives grew up in segregation. For France, and many other European countries, the experiences of black Europeans, while similar, are not identical nor are they shared. At any rate, its hard to have a sense of community when you don't even know how many people of African descent live in your country. Apparently, taking an ethnic census is constitutionally banned in France.

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For Afro-French people, they're not bound together by race as much as their family origins.

If you're a black woman from Guadeloupe, you might feel a bigger bond to people from the West Indies than to those from West Africa. Honestly, I envy greatly that Afro-Europeans know exactly where they come from and even have family that still live in those countries. I have never felt so shameful about not knowing my roots until moving here. Every time I meet an Afro-French person for the first time, the conversation goes as follows.

Them: So where are you from?
Me: I'm from the U.S!
Them: Yeah, I know. But like where are you really from?
Me: Washington, DC.
Them: What's your family origin I mean to say.
Me: Um…I don't know? My ancestors were slaves so…
Them: …..
Me: …..Nice meeting you!

In general, there's this idea that black people are never really from whatever predominantly white country they reside in.

Afro-French people can be born and raised in Paris and never feel or be seen as "French." Even when I meet White Europeans, they are generally skeptical about my origin story but for a different reason. Because I have a lighter skin tone than most Afro-French, many assume that I am "métisse" or mixed. During my trip to Italy, an italian man told me, "You're beautiful. I love mulatto women." The assumption really bothers me because "black" and "beautiful" are not mutually exclusive concepts, homeboy! But I do love their faces of disappointment when I tell them I am proudly, undeniably, 100% BLACK.

But let's discuss some positives, for there are many.

While Black French don't organize against injustices in the same way we do, that doesn't mean they aren't having these important conversations. The Afro-fem movement seems to be really big here. I've seen countless articles, YouTube videos, tweets, and have even been invited to conferences by Afro-feminists to discuss the interesting balance of race and gender.

I've met so many black French women who are smart and woke. Clever and funny. Women who want to be a voice for their community. Women who are artists, poets, and singers. Women who are beautiful inside and out. Women who are writers. Women who are fly. Women who are college-educated. Women who want to uplift and strengthen their fellow sisters. Women who want to be a vessel for serious change in their society.

So don't sleep on Afro-Europeans. They have a very real place in our world.

I would be remiss not to mention the Strolling Series by Cecile Emeke, which was in truth my personal introduction to Afro-European voices.

Cecile Emeke is a British woman who brilliantly decided to film black individuals across the African diaspora. The result? Unraveling the generalized blanket of our black experiences into singular, personal threads of testimony. Emeke has filmed in the Netherlands, Italy, Jamaica, and many other countries and its widespread appeal has garnered a huge YouTube following. Of course, you'll hear the familiar stories of micro-agressions, respectability politics, and self-love affirmation. But you'll also hear views on mental health, sexual orientation and expression, capitalism, veganism, colonial reparations, and a plethora of other subjects not often heard from black standpoints.

If you're interested, I would start with one of my three favorites: Two Black Friends in France , One Black Male Feminist from the UK, or A Black Actress in London.

So what does it mean to be Black in Europe? I have the same answer for someone who would ask what its like to be black in the U.S. There is no simple answer. The culture, the attitudes, the ideas, the joys, the struggles of black people are not monolithic.

They are varied. They are nuanced. They may intersect, but they don't coalesce.

I write this to say there is more to the black experience than what you have experienced personally. I think its important not only to have conversations on blackness within the US, but in a global context as well. And let's remind ourselves that as Black Americans, our global visibility gives us a certain level of privilege. The next time you say #BlackLivesMatter, mentally expand that demand outside of North America. When you think of the black community, challenge yourself to think beyond your own borders.

And if you're able, travel abroad. Talk to people. Have these discussions. Your eyes and minds will open wider than you know.

*Originally published on La Noire Afar

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