In today's day and age, social media has increased the number of millennials who are becoming widely recognized.
Instagram has 800 million active users that include poets, activists, entrepreneurs, entertainers, spiritual leaders, and social media personalities, providing content ranging from beautiful lifestyle photos that are aesthetically pleasing to the eye to parody videos and makeup tutorials. The accounts that I personally find myself most drawn to are people who have the qualities of tenacity, humanitarianism, reclamation of self, inner light, and authenticity that I aspire to.
The four rising gems included below are reflections of the vulnerability and inner light, and reminders of the success that can follow when you live your purpose.
Latasha
@callmelatasha
Her Instagram:
@callmelatasha, 9K followers
Her Purpose:
Entertainer
How She Found Her Calling:
"I actually became a hip hop artist by accident! As a young spoken word artist and poet, I found myself at a New York City Cypher that went viral! A few unexpected viral mixtapes later, and I was given opportunities to open up for artists like Kanye West, Ghostface Killah, Q-tip, and Nipsey Hussle.
The beginning of my personal journey begun with getting through body image and bullying issues surrounding what society says a WOC rapper should look like.
After dealing with depression and thoughts of suicide in 2012, I embraced self-acceptance, and committed myself to fulfilling my dreams. Coming from a family of immigrants that had to grind 9 to 5, I had to transform my mindset to surviving by doing what I Iove. Through expressing gratitude to the universe, positive affirmations, and hard work, I'm still working toward living my dream."
What Matters To Her:
"Resonance. It is what keeps my heart feeling full and proud everyday."
Her Advice To Finding Your Purpose:
"Journal. Write out all that is in your head. Clear your energy at the start of your day with affirmations of gratitude. Be present even through the tough days. Trust the process... It's so hard, but it's worth it!"
Nnenna Stella
@nnennastella
Her Instagram:
@nnennastella, 16.3K followers
Her Purpose:
Entrepreneur
How She Found Her Calling:
"I am the founder of, The Wrap Life, a head wrap wear company that features authentic African print wraps that inspire women to be creative through self-expression and self-love. Coming from a place of struggle, where my family had no heat or hot water at times, I never had any intentions of becoming an entrepreneur until I realized my desire to express myself through creativity. I had never worked for myself before and becoming a business owner was a totally new concept. I had to push myself to deliver my absolute best.
As an entrepreneur, I recognized the need to not place mental barriers on my strengths and capabilities.
Through the process of becoming a entrepreneur, I learned the importance of asking for help."
What Matters To Her:
"As far as my personal journey, walking in my truth by aligning my personal values with my brand has become a part of my business structure; realizing that feeling good about what I put out has to match my company's value has awarded me the opportunity to evolve as a human being in service to others. It has also kept me grateful, humble, and sound in mind."
Her Advice To Finding Your Purpose:
"Start with what you have. Be honest with yourself. Silence is golden! Don't get into the habit of talking yourself out of things, and work your ass off!"
Kamil Oshundara
@k6mil
Her Instagram:
@k6mil, 34.9K followers
Her Purpose:
Spiritual Leader
How She Found Her Calling:
"Today, I'm a IYA 'Priestess' of Shango, initiated in the Youruba IFA tradition, but from a young age, I became interested in world religion. I was raised as a Baptist in Georgia and made a conscious decision to get baptized at the age of 8. By the age of 10, I renounced Christ as my savior and wanted to find other modalities of spirituality. I struggled with Christian beliefs, and I felt it denied the power in questioning. As I developed my own understanding of the world around me, I embraced an indigenous spirit, which felt closer to my truth.
I had to work through the stigma of being an African-American queer woman who sought reclamation of African religion, surrounded by people who felt the practice of indigenous traditions were negative, evil, or not belonging to me.
Through my own personal spiritual transformation, I teach ritual and sacred study to people looking to gain a deeper connection to their indigenous roots."
What Matters To Her:
"Abundance and success career-wise should be seen as reciprocity... It's saying I believe you are worthy, and you do that in exchanging energy."
Her Advice To Finding Your Purpose:
"Don't just rest on your DNA test, follow your spirit. Look for tribes or spaces of groups that reflect who you look like. Start with the mirror, start with yourself... Get grounded in yourself and dedicate yourself to transformation."
Aja Monet
@ajamonet
Her Instagram:
@ajamonet, 18.8K followers
Her Purpose:
Spoken Word Poet/Activist
How She Found Her Calling:
"As a child, I knew that I had a purpose. Early on, I recognized my desire to become someone great in this world. I found motivation in wanting my family to be happy and live better lives. I really found an outlet through school, where I gravitated toward writing and English. I was fascinated by how stories were told and found solace in learning to question and challenge the world around me.
I found power in using my voice.
In high school, I found mentorship and political education in a program called Urban World NYC. Through this program, I was given an opportunity to travel and broaden my scope of the world in the midst of 9/11. With the energy of young voices all around me, I learned that I could change the world through the power of poetry, in the same way that Langston Hughes affected people. I found my purpose."
What Matters To Her:
"The most important form of abundance that I receive is in the Arabic term, 'Shukran,' which translates to 'thank you,' and the idea that giving things when you feel most grateful takes humility to be grateful for the smaller things."
Her Advice To Finding Your Purpose:
"Spend time in nature. Nature is powerful. If we can learn the humility in that, that could help us love each other more and stay true to yourself."
Have you found your purpose? Name it, claim it, and share it with us in the comments down below!
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Since it’s Stress Awareness Month, we caught up with Keanne Owens, LCSW, founder of Journey To Harmony Therapy Center, to talk about these triggers and what Black women can do to manage and cope.
Owens is an experienced South Florida-based counselor and social worker who offers her services via Grow Therapy, a therapy and medication management platform. She has worked with Black women professionals to unpack issues related to workplace stressors. “One is the pressure to perform–having to meet deadlines and deliverables. And a lot of times, these subtle stressors from performance are put upon ourselves as Black women. We want to make sure we’re doing our best. We don’t want to be critiqued in certain ways.”
Excessive micromanagement leading to fear of overly critical bosses is another subtle trigger that can negatively impact Black women in the workplace.
“Whenever something is done wrong, or we experience some type of injustice and have to report it, it’s the fear of retaliation–[fear that] we won’t be taken seriously or [our words] will be taken out of context because of being deemed as the ‘angry Black woman,’” she said.
Black Women And Workplace Stress Triggers
Her sentiments are backed by research. A recent report by Coqual found that 28% of Black women (compared to 17% of White men) say their supervisor uses “excessive control or attention to detail” when managing them. There’s more: A survey by the National Employment Law Project found that Black workers were “more likely to have concerns (80 percent) and twice as likely as white workers (18 percent) to have unresolved concerns at work, with 39 percent reporting they were “not satisfied with the employer’s response or did not raise concerns for fear of retaliation.”
The survey also found that 14 percent of Black respondents said they “avoided raising concerns to their employer for fear of retaliation—more than twice the average rate of 6 percent for all survey respondents.”
Owens pointed to the fact that these subtle stress triggers can negatively impact our physical health and our career advancement. “A lot of time it’ll affect our productivity,” Owens added. “We start to have negative thoughts of ourselves. The stressors can also cause fatigue. We’re no longer meeting or working up to our desired potential.” Other challenges as a result include insomnia and increased insolation, withdrawal, and lack of motivation to apply for jobs or promotions even when qualified.
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How To Manage Subtle Stress Triggers
While there are systemic issues at play for Black women at work that has less to do with us and more to do with major overhauls that must be addressed by the powers that be, there are steps we can take for the betterment of ourselves and our mental health. Owens offered the following tips:
Tap into a support system, whether it’s a coworker you trust, a family member, an organization, or an outlet like a hobby.
Create a good work-life balance before burnout even starts. “Having certain boundaries [is the goal] such as, for example, if you get off at 5, you get off at 5. If your job description is this, you don’t go above and beyond because that brings you to a lot of burnout,” Owens said.
Prioritize self-care, whatever that means for you. “If you don’t have a routine, create one. Practice mindfulness and even some meditation,” she added.
Create structure in your life outside of work. “Even if you have a family, applying some structure in your routine helps relieve stress,” she said.
Get into grounding techniques. “Do a real quick square breathing exercise, that’s literally 30 seconds, or you can do a grounding technique that’s less than two minutes, right there where you are. You don’t need any other materials. That’s something you can do with just yourself and your body.”
Ask for help. “As Black women, we don’t ask for help enough,” she said. “Find where you need to ask for help. A lot of times, people think that’s indicative of weakness, but we need to rewrite that narrative. It’s okay to ask for help where you see fit. [If] you’re a mom, [it could be] every Wednesday from 5 to 6, your children are with the dad. You have to carve out that time.”
For more information on Grow Therapy, visit their website. You can also find out more about Keanne Owens, LCSW, via BeginYourJourneyToHarmony.com.
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