If you are in the search of your soulmate, or twin flame, affirmations of the heart can help in drawing that person closer.
Often times, we write down our dreams and intentions as a way to manifest our best lives. In a recent xoNecole article, singer and performer Ciara revealed that writing down her goals and aspirations helped her manifest her best life. In the end, she married her best friend, and had a beautiful baby girl.
After reading the aforementioned article, I realized that I had heavily focused on affirmations for manifesting abundance in finances, success, and self-care, but I never spent enough time affirming my highest partner. That desire has always been there in my heart, but I never fully let the walls of my present love drought down enough to embrace an entirely unknown future potential. As someone who is deeply connected to my soul, I do feel the presence of a twin flame, however, I also know that he is just one potential for future love.
Since everything we do is energetic, why not write a letter to the higher self of your future partner? Drop the expectations of what this person looks like, and just feel the essence of their spirit.
Relax
The best way to begin to write your letter is to close your eyes, still your mind, and enter a vibration of having already met your future partner. If you could cause these feelings to exist within your spirit, you are preparing your soul to experience them in real life.
Affirm
Start by expressing your unconditional love of self. You can say things like, "I love me. I love myself unconditionally. I am prepared to receive unconditional and reciprocal love from another."
Envision
Imagine this future person bringing you into their arms and embracing you for the first time. Do they smell good? How does their body feel pressed against yours? How do their eyes mirror your soul?
Meditate
Once you are in this vibration, let a feeling of gratitude emanate through your heart chakra. In this moment, think about every single thing you would like to say to the future love of your life. What could you express to their higher self that would melt your own heart if repeated back to you?
Reflect
With this in mind, call on your twin flame or future soulmate and express whatever comes to mind. It could turn out as poetry, or perhaps creative, and heartfelt prose. You might feel like you want to envision a future experience with the two of you. An efficient and powerful letter will come from the core of your heart and desire for fulfillment in love.
Write
Write down whatever comes through for you from this vibration. For an example of what came through for me when I did this meditation, read my open letter to my future husband below. I hope to inspire you to write one of your own and manifest your highest partner.
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To help you better understand why this was such a mental awakening for me, I first need to give a bit of my backstory. I’m in my late thirties. I’m an attorneyand a journalist. I own a home and have traveled the world extensively. Essentially, I’ve done everything in life I set out to do. However, when it comes to dating, I struggle. Not because there is anything wrong with me per se, but because my career and “lifestyle” often create problems in my romantic relationships.
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I’ve been told everything from, ‘I can’t continue to date you because you seem to choose your career over wanting to settle down and have kids’ by a man after only the second date to ‘Maybe if you just sat down somewhere for a while, I’d actually wife you’ by someone who has honestly never proven themselves to be the settle down type. And these are only a handful of the things I’ve been told over the years.
It’s been frustrating, to say the least, and there have even been seasons where I purposely dimmed my light in hopes that my career wouldn’t push away potential suitors. I know what you’re thinking, “Girl, why would you even consider that? If they’re for you, it won’t matter what you do.” Hey, don’t judge me, but also, I one hundred percent agree.
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That’s why this recent moment in Switzerland was right on time. When I first walked into the hotel to check in, I was blown away by the surrounding beauty. It was a five-star property with one of the world’s most famous thermal bathhouses. Yet, it was something about seeing that 90% of the hotel’s guests were couples, that forced me to sit back for a bit of introspection—while soaking in the thermal spa, of course.
As I went through the mental conversation, there was a battle of sorts. On one hand, I knew that being able to partake in experiences like the one I was having at that moment was important to me. I knew that, at times I actually love being able to dabble in the finer things—after all, I’ve worked hard to be able to afford them. On the other hand, and sadly, I knew that sometimes being a single Black woman that publicly showcases her “luxurious” habits can intimidate men and even scare them off from pursuing you under the guise of them feeling like they “can’t do anything for you, because you have everything.”
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So, what is a girl to do?
Do I minimize/hide the life and experiences that I have? Do I play down the hard work I’ve put in to get where I am professionally? Or, do I risk being single in exchange for being able to have said life, without backlash?
Luckily, the joy that I felt while being at this property won. There was something about taking a full day to simply pamper myself at the bathhouse and in my in-room steam shower and soaker tub, indulging in cuisine from a 2-star Michelin restaurant and doing all of this while surrounded by an amazing group of Black women that reminded me—this is certainly the life I was meant to live and that I deserve. Even if it means that right now, I’ll just have to provide it for myself until the right partner comes along. And honestly, I’m okay with that.
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