We can discuss all of the awkward parts about riding d*ck, but it has to be acknowledged that so much of that awkwardness seems to come from your damn thighs being tired.


I commend guys for their stamina and the work that they put in to get and give that nut when they're stroking because hooooney, my thighs turn into Jello after what feels like 30 minutes and is truly only about a quarter of that. Right about then is where I just fall flat on dude's chest and silently beg for him to flip my ass like a burger on a flat top grill.

I'll throw this ass back for you all day long if it means you'll get me a cookie, some water, and a pat on the back for that thorough ass five minutes that I put my life on the line trying to saddle up.

If cats have nine lives, then I've used three of mine trying to master cowgirl while being out of shape. Yet, this is something I so badly desire to master. Every time sex is on the books, I find myself purging the internet looking for ways to improve while not sounding like I need an oxygen tank after a short while. Like Allen Iverson when he graced the courts back in the day, Sexpert Tyomi Morgan-Najieb was the answer with her online riding workout.

But it was working out, so of course, I talked my roommate into doing it with me. Months passed and my roommate completed the series of workouts and I was still stuck. Fast forward nearly a year later, I got myself together and hit play on the first workout.

Days deep into the New Year, working out was still high on my list of year-end resolutions and this was me trying to make good on them but clearly, I wasn't ready-ready because in what world does someone who hasn't worked out at all in the previous year come empty-handed without a water bottle? Especially because each of the workouts is anywhere from 60 to 90 minutes. I pushed through and here's my review of the four-part workout, which, full disclosure, I did in a one week span (if you value life, maybe don't follow my example).

Burn Baby, Burn

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Experts estimate that while riding or in cowgirl, women burn anywhere from a buck twenty in calories to a buck seventy-five, depending on how hard you get your blood pumping. This can be done by incorporating more hip movements and with this workout, you will have the stamina to do so.

The main muscle being worked while in cowgirl are our quads, but as always we forget how valuable and useful our cores are. One thing I can undoubtedly say is that Tyomi makes sure she hits the core and every other muscle you will need to use to take first place at the Rodeo — every week was a full body workout and left me gasping for air. Of course, this got easier over the course of the week like any fitness routine.

Find Your Flow

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What I will say is that with this being a workout that required me to channel my sensuality and thus confidence, I felt uber uncomfortable watching my awkward but full hips roll in the mirror. Yet, thoughts of self-doubt distracted me from the slow burn I was feeling in the lower half of my body and that's definitely a benefit. As someone who hates dancing, mostly because repeatedly saying I can't dance has become a self-fulfilled prophecy that I play up to avoid uncomfortable attention — I often transfer that same energy to sex because they feel as though they're one in the same.

But with every day that I carried on, I took Tyomi's advice and truly tried to wrap my mind around doing it for myself. I mean I'm not having sex and haven't in quite some time, so in a way, it was for me but everything in me was still worrying about how embarrassed I'd be if I actually mirrored what I saw in the mirror on the D.

In overthinking, I realized I was making the experience about men and their pleasure and not myself, my pleasure, and my comfort. Although these thoughts were still present, I did these workouts in the span of a week but if I were to do them three times per week (as suggested) for the next couple of months, I could envision the inevitable change in my confidence and body that might come.

Have Fun With It

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And, while I have no doubt that the workout would improve my skill, I'm adamant that developing my abilities in the bedroom has a lot to do with the growth of confidence in ways I hadn't even realized I lacked. The confidence that comes from simply letting go and embracing where you are in order to just have fun with it.

One might say it's one part core and quads working and two parts confidence that builds the skill we're all looking for when it comes time to be on that tip.

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