The Budgetnista Tiffany Aliche Reveals How Her Credit Score Went From 547 To 800+
As women in and out of the workforce, we have made tremendous strides. We've conquered everything from becoming our bosses to leadership roles where we've learned how to manage our own teams and work within the parameters of a company's budget. Yet, there's one thing that we have quite mastered yet--managing our own money.
That's right, we live in a time where we spend way more than we make--pushing aside bills and other necessities for that limited edition designer bag, or swiping our credit card every chance that we get, thus putting ourselves in more debt and sitting on a pathetic credit score that will do more harm than we can imagine.
Learning financial literacy is very important, and practicing good financial behavior can help you live the type of life you desire. Yet women of color and millennials typically overlook their dwindling bank accounts and do not educate themselves. It is only when we experience a financial hardship that we take a closer look at our finances and try to make improvements. Sometimes when this happens, we have dug ourselves in a low ditch, and while it is not impossible to get out of it, it is definitely harder.
I recently sat down with Tiffany Aliche, who is a financial guru and well-known as The Budgetnista to discuss how she went from having a 547 credit score to a score over 800 (she also saved $40,000 when she was only making $39,000 a year!), and her tips on saving, budgeting, and on building wealth:
You Can Easily Lose 40 Credit Score Points In Just One Week
At the age of 23, I had a credit score of over 800, which is an A+. A few years later, the recession hit. I lost my job, and I couldn't afford the mortgage or pay my bills. Since I wasn't paying my bills, my credit score dropped. People don't understand that your credit score is like your GPA for how you deal with money. When you don't pay your bills, your GPA drops. My credit score quickly dropped from 800 to 547 which is like a D-.
One thing that people don't realize is that 35% of your credit score is your payment history - so in other words it is contingent upon if you pay what you are supposed to pay. To rebuild my credit score, I worked hard to pay off credit cards in full at one time. When you do, it makes your credit score jump like Jordan. If you just pay the minimum amount on your bills, your credit score will do a slow climb. But if you want to make your credit score jump like Jordan, pay off a small amount of your credit card each month. I don't know why, but credit card companies care less about the amount you pay, and more about your habit in paying.
So if you pay off something in full, they are wowed. It doesn't matter if you have $8 on the card, if you pay it in full, it will make a difference. So when I figured this out, I put Netflix on one of my credit cards that didn't have a balance, and I paid it in full every month. Netflix would charge my card $8 bucks, and then I would pay them $8 bucks each month and I would see my score go up. So then I decided to do two cards like that. I had Netflix on one, and my gym membership for $20 bucks on the other. So every month, I was paying off 2 cards in full. And within a year and a half, I went from 547 to 750, which is a solid B/B+.
You Can Inherit Good Credit From Other People
To build good credit, you can be an authorized user on someone's card that has great credit. Basically what that means is that they can add you on their card as an authorized user, and you can inherit their good behavior because whenever they pay their bill, it will reflect positively on you. The primary credit card holder doesn't have to actually give you the card either - although as an authorized user you could get one.
Even if the primary credit card holder decides to stop paying their bill, it won't mess up your credit as an authorized user. That's the beauty in it - you only inherit the good credit, not the bad.
You Can Get A Secured Card When You're Young To Build Credit
When you are young, it is unlikely that you will be able to get a regular credit card because you probably will have no credit history. No credit history in the credit world is just like having bad credit or being considered a bad driver because you have no driving history. You haven't proven yourself.
To start building up your good reputation, go to your bank and ask if you can apply for secured card. A secured card is like a credit card with training wheels. The way it works, you give a bank anywhere from $300-$600 and they place it in a savings account for you. Then they give you a credit card that has that amount on it as your credit limit - so basically you are borrowing from yourself. So if you don't pay your credit card, it will take away the money that you have in your savings account. If you treat this card right, and you pay your bills when you should, they will take the secured card away and make it a regular credit card.
You Should Have At Least 3 Bank Accounts For Your Money
I recommend having at least three accounts - one just for your bills, another for spending, and then the third for savings. The account for spending should be attached to your debit card, and then the account for your bills and the account for your savings should not be attached to your debit card.
If you have the direct deposit option through your job, have your money automatically transferred to each account. Your employer may not tell you, but you can have more than one account connected with direct deposit.
Having An Online Bank Is A Must
I recommend having an online bank for your savings account because it makes your money inconvenient, and inconvenient money gets saved because it is not easily accessible. If you want to rate an online bank, go to magnifymoney.com and you can check out reviews and information on the bank.
I always tell people to have a regular bank for ease of use, an online bank for savings, and then a credit union. Credit unions are great because they will give you the best interest rates. Most credit unions are nonprofit, which means the interest that they ask you to pay is just to keep their lights on so the interest rates are lower than other banks.
Ask About Your 401K Day One Of The Job
On your first day at work, before you get into the swing of things, ask about 401K matching. Better yet, ask about this during the interview and see if the company offers it. For your retirement, many companies will match up to a certain percentage of your income that you deduct from your paycheck for retirement. So if you put 3% of our paycheck down for retirement, your company may match it. With some companies they tell you that you have to wait to be vested (usually 30 days or more) to reap this benefit, but you may can start it early if you ask.
In College, Stay Away From Private Loans Because They Are The Devil
If you get a private loan and miss one payment, you immediately fall into default. Default is on the same level as foreclosure or bankruptcy and we all know bankruptcy is like having a big, black F on your credit report. If you fall into default, it will prevent you from getting a car, an apartment - you name it. Also with a private loan, you will likely have to have a co-signer, so if you miss a payment and fall into default then your cosigner is also affected.
If you get a federal loan, you have to miss nine payments to get you to the default stage. One other thing about federal versus private loans is if you fall into a financial hardship, the federal loans will help you out and will be more understanding. But with a private loan, somebody could die and the money would still be due - they would just reach out to the consigner for the money.
You Can Get Paid To Shop
When you are in school, began saving early and get in the UPromise program. It is free to use! What I love most about it is that you can go online and sign up and then your register all of your debit and credit cards, and every time you use your registered debit or credit card at a partner store you will get cash back for your student loans. With UPromise, if you don't use it for your student loans, you can ask them to just cut you a check.
Also, whether or not you are in school, sign up for Ebates. Whenever you want to buy something online, type the store name in Ebates (it could be Target, Groupon, or whatever), and then Ebates will take you to their site and will record how much you buy and give you cash back.
Learn How To Live Off Less Than You Make
After you graduate from college, live a simple life. That can be getting a roommate or getting a used car, just learn how to live simply. If you don't, you will be forced to work a job you probably hate just to make enough money to afford your lifestyle.
Now that you know some of the secrets on budgeting, saving, and building wealth, implement these steps today and hold yourself accountable. An easy way to learn more financial tips and hold yourself accountable is through Tiffany's Live Richer Challenge and through her book The One Week Budget. In her book, she teaches us how to make responsible, financial decisions, while living a life that we desire. The Live Richer Challenge is a FREE, online financial challenge that can help you achieve your financial goals in just 22 days.
Tiffany created this program last year, and her goal was to have 10,000 women signed up and to help them master their money effectively and efficiently. In the end 20,000 people signed up and collectively all of the women saved 4 million dollars and were able to pay off over half a million dollars of debt together.
Women of color make up 70% of buying decisions, so it is time to change our mindset and change our financial situations. Let's start today and build a culture of wealth!
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Brittani Hunter is a proud PVAMU alumni and the founder of The Mogul Millennial, a business and career platform for Black Millennials. Meet Brittani on Twitter and on the Gram at @BrittaniLHunter and @mogulmillennial.
ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
VIEW THE FULL ITGIRL 100 LIST HERE.
Don’t forget to also check out the ItGirl Directory, featuring 50 Black-woman-owned marketing and branding agencies, photographers and videographers, publicists, and more.
THE ITGIRL MEMO
I. An ItGirl puts on for her city and masters her self-worth through purpose.
II. An ItGirl celebrates all the things that make her unique.
III. An ItGirl empowers others to become the best versions of themselves.
IV. An ItGirl leads by example, inspiring others through her actions and integrity.
V. An ItGirl paves the way for authenticity and diversity in all aspects of life.
VI. An ItGirl uses the power of her voice to advocate for positive change in the world.
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These 11 Married Couples Share Their Keys To Long-Term Marital Success
The late actor Audrey Hepburn once said something that I think a lot of married couples who have at least 10 years under their belt will agree with: “If I get married, I want to be very married.” In my mind, this means very committed, very complementary, and very willing to go the distance — otherwise, what’s the point?
Really, what’s the point?
Thing is, with the divorce rate still being higher than it ever should be (for the record, a husband is not a boyfriend, and a wife is not a girlfriend; a marriage is serious business, y’all) and acting married being praised (or at least acknowledged) more than actually being married seems to be — folks who 1) are married and are looking for some hacks that will help with relational longevity or 2) want to be married someday and want insight on how to make their future marriage last are constantly seeking truly beneficial material.
Can you Google articles with random bullet points? Sure. And I’m not discouraging it. Every little bit of wisdom that you can pull, I fully support. However, the reason why I like to do articles like this one from time to time is there is something to be said from hearing real talk from multiple sources on the same topic who have some solid wisdom and knowledge on a particular topic.
Today? 11 married couples who were willing to talk about how they’ve been able to make it to several wedding anniversaries with a smile on their face and no regrets for choosing who they chose. Let’s all sit at their feet for just a moment.
*Middle names are always used in my content that’s like this so that people can speak freely*
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1. Kyle and Adrienne. Married 12 Years.
Kyle: “Some of your readers aren’t going to want to hear this but it’s worked for my marriage: people need to lower their expectations sometimes; I mean, men and women. We go into marriage with stuff that movies told us, social media told us, friends who are always single told us about what we should expect from someone, and then want to fault the person when they’re not what we made up in our head. Everyone should have standards but if you’re expecting your spouse to be some living version of a fairy tale character, you’re going to be disappointed almost every day of your life. Drop those expectations some and watch your relationship be a lot less stressful.”
Adrienne: “Talk to people who respect your man about your marriage. I’ve never believed that you shouldn’t ever go to anyone when you need some support. Even the Bible says that there is safety in wise counsel [Proverbs 11:4]. Too many women talk to women who don’t respect men, in general, let alone their husbands, and so that’s where things go left. Sometimes, you need an ‘outside in’ perspective. But if that woman is always taking shots at men, doesn’t respect marriage, or isn’t someone who holds your man in high regard, don’t ask her for advice. Really, you should ask yourself why you’re friends with her at all.”
Shellie here: I’m big on engaged and married couples having a “village” of sorts for their relationship, too. Check out “Why Every Engaged Couple Needs A 'Marriage Registry'” to get a good idea of what I mean.
2. Levi and Paulette. Married for 15 Years.
Levi: “Some of you have probably heard of the 7-7-7 rule. It’s where couples go on a date every seven days, have a weekend getaway every seven weeks, and go on a romantic trip of some sort every seven months. My wife and I do the 2-2-2 rule instead because sometimes our schedule and budget make ‘7’ difficult. It has gotten easier since Shellie told us about the sex jar. Bottom line, if you’re waiting for time to just open up to be with your spouse, that ain’t gonna happen. Schedule intimacy, including sex. Prioritizing it is better than saying you’re gonna be spontaneous and…never are.”
Paulette: “Initiate sex, dammit. When Shellie told us that men initiate sex most of the time, and then I thought about how often I used to push my husband away whenever he did it — I never really thought about how that made him feel until I put myself in his shoes. We’ve got to stop having all of this understanding for why women cheat when it comes to them not feeling desired or not getting attention when we’re the same way to our husbands. Your marriage isn’t ‘Young and the Restless’, where you’re just supposed to wait for your man to make the move. If you want to feel wanted, do the same thing for him.”
Shellie here: What’s a sex jar, you ask? You can read more about it via “5 Reasons Why Every Married Couple Needs A Sex Jar.”
3. Matthew and Gaia. Married for 17 Years.
Matthew: “Reenact some of your favorite times together. My wife and I do that semi-often. We’ll go back to where we had our first date, or we’ll go back to the hotel where we had some of the best sex before. Bringing back memories of when you felt the best together can give you the motivation to stay together to create some new memories to ‘play out’ later on.”
Gaia: “If you want to ‘mom your husband,’ you need to have kids — or at least get a dog! I didn’t realize how bossy I was until I got married. It’s because I saw my mom be that way with my dad. In my eyes, I thought that’s what love looked like until I watched how my in-laws were. They don’t try to change each other, and they definitely don’t make any demands. They’re very polite. I think a lot of married people are rude to their partner. Don’t be that.”
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4. Joseph and Carletta. Married for 10 Years.
Joseph: “Go to therapy for your childhood. I’m dead serious. No one is going to show you yourself like your wife will, and I realized that a lot of my hang-ups came from unhealed childhood stuff. It’s hard to be an adult in your marriage when you’re still emotionally a kid in a lot of ways. If you’re at the point where you think therapy is needed, go alone and deal with your childhood first. It did miracles for me and mine.”
"No one is going to show you yourself like your wife will, and I realized that a lot of my hang-ups came from unhealed childhood stuff. It’s hard to be an adult in your marriage when you’re still emotionally a kid in a lot of ways."
Carletta: “Meditate together once a day. Even if it’s just for 5-10 minutes, you need to carve out a moment to be mindful, focus on each other, and slow the world down. [Joseph and I] have been doing it for a couple of years now; it’s totally changed the way we communicate. Meditation reminds us to put each other first; that if we’re focused on each other, we can take on…whatever.”
5. Zeke and Rachelle. Married for 12 Years.
Zeke: “An argument is not a fight and a debate is not an argument. Learn that and you’re home-free. That’s all I got.”
Rachelle: “That advice that you just got? That sums up what it’s like to live with my husband. He’s very cut-and-dry, direct, and not wordy. That used to bug the hell out of me until I realized how wordy I was and then accepted that I wouldn’t want ‘two of me’ in the house [LOL]. He’s right. You can have a difference of opinion, and it be a debate. You can not find a middle ground on something and it turns into an argument. Neither of those is a red flag. It just comes with being with someone who is as much of an individual as you are.”
6. Taurus and Madison. Married for 22 Years.
Taurus: “Be prepared for your partner to change — not a couple of times, quite a bit. And when they change, that alters the relationship because now it’s not the person you stood with on your wedding day; it’s someone else. People get divorced so much because they are inflexible; they expect their spouse to never switch up and that’s just not how life is. If you’re rigid, controlling, or don’t know how to adjust, you don’t need to marry anybody. You’re gonna be miserable, and so will they.”
Madison: “Pray before sex. Before my husband and I got married, we had quite a bit of sexual history that caused us to do some comparing, and that led to resentment. In marriage, we had to adjust to how it’s more than just what we’re getting from another person. Married sex comes with so much more spirituality and responsibility. Prayer before sex reminds us to see it from a spiritual lens — and that makes the experience more intense and sacred. It might sound weird at first. Just try it. I don’t think you’ll regret it at all.”
"Married sex comes with so much more spirituality and responsibility. Prayer before sex reminds us to see it from a spiritual lens — and that makes the experience more intense and sacred."
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7. Karl and LaTasha. Married for 9 Years.
Karl: “Check in with your partner twice a day. In the morning before leaving the house and at night before going to sleep. If you work outside of the home, a lot can happen during the course of one day, so you shouldn’t assume that the person you left in the morning is who you are coming home to. I don’t mean sharing each other’s schedules or to-do lists. I mean, asking your spouse, ‘How are you doing? How are you really doing?’. It’s a smart way to take note of their mood and needs so that you are never blindsided.”
LaTasha: “Give each other some privacy. I have never been the kind of woman to go through a man’s phone, and I won’t start. If you think that you have to be a detective in your relationship, why are you in it in the first place? I know that Karl would give me codes and passwords if I wanted them because we’ve talked about it all before. Knowing that he would is enough for me. Marriage is an institution, but damn, it shouldn’t feel like jail.”
8. Thomas and Wynter. Married for 15 Years.
Thomas: “Ask your partner what their sexual needs are. Never assume that they haven’t changed because if we all agree that we are constantly growing and evolving as people, why would sex be exempt? Don’t personalize what they say about it either. All of us have sexual fantasies and interests that we keep to ourselves because we don’t know what our partner will think or ‘cause we think that they will create stories in their head about what made us think that way. I’ve learned that intimacy is feeling okay with sharing the deep stuff. The more comfortable a man, especially, is with doing that, the better the sex will be for everyone because talking about stuff like that is like taking down some walls.”
Wynter: “It’s okay to take one vacation a year with your girls and one by yourself. Just don’t go with people who don’t have the same standards as you, and as far as your solo venture, it doesn’t need to be longer than a long weekend. One thing that they don’t tell you about marriage is how there are times when you will feel like it is monotonous because of the routine of everything. A girls’ trip reminds you to get back to you outside of being someone’s wife or mom, and the trip alone is when you can sit around and do whatever you have to negotiate most of them. And yes, your man should be given the same courtesy.”
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9. Allen and Yvette. Married for 11 Years.
Allen: “STOP. BRINGING. UP. OLD. SH-T. SH-T. Nothing creates walls in a marriage more than you telling someone that you forgave them, and then the minute something else happens, here you go with the rap sheet of wrongs. Forgiving someone means that you are pardoning them, and that’s not what you’re doing if you’re constantly holding stuff over their head. One thing that marriage will show you is how bad of a forgiver you are. Most people suck at it, if we’re gonna be real about it.”
Yvette: “I already know that some women are going to assume that my man must’ve done something to say all of that (LOL). He’s a much better forgiver than I am, believe it or not. The real plot twist is, what gets on his nerves more than anything, is when I bring up stuff that he’s forgiven me for. Allen is the kind of man [who] hates to live in the past. I’ve grown a lot because of that. I think my advice would be to stay focused on solutions and tomorrow instead of problems and yesterday.”
Allen: “Sh- t, that’s bars, babe!”
Shellie here: INDEED.
10. Brennton and Danyelle. Married for 16 Years.
Brennton: “Why anyone who is trash at forgiving would get married is beyond me. It’s delusional to the nth degree to think that you are worthy of forgiveness and others aren’t — or that what you do isn’t ‘as bad,’ and that’s why you deserve forgiveness and others don’t. My wife and I have a lot of time under our belts. I’m here to tell you that there will be something, daily, that you will need to forgive your partner for on some level. If you can’t see yourself being open to that, marriage simply isn’t for you.”
Danyelle: “I don’t know who taught so many of us that being passive-aggressive will get us what we want, but it’s a damn lie. If something is wrong, stop saying ‘nothing’ when your man asks you what’s up because, if you’ve got a man like mine, he’s gonna say ‘Okay’ and go on about his day. Brennton often says that my refusing to speak isn’t his responsibility, it’s mine. That used to piss me off because, deep down, I knew that he was right. Oh, and chill on the grudge-holding too. With guys, that’s not going to get you anywhere either.”
11. Christopher and Yvonne. Married for 26 Years.
Christopher: “Have more loyalty for your spouse than you do your closest friend. Too many people don’t think like that. If you’ve got a friend since college, you’ve been through some things and you’ve learned to forgive and move past it. If you can’t see your wife or husband in this way, why did you get married? You should never have more grace for someone who you didn’t take vows with; that’s ludicrous. Before anyone else, I’m going to prioritize reconciling with my wife. It’s because I value her more than anyone. That’s what marriage is.”
"Before anyone else, I'm going to prioritize reconciling with my wife. It's because I value her more than anyone. That's what marriage is."
Yvonne: “Even if you’re not about ‘traditional gender roles,’ discuss what the expectations are for the home. People don’t divorce over cheating as much as getting sick of beard clippings in the bathroom sink or cars that look like pocketbooks. When you sign up for marriage, you are doing daily life with another person. Articulate your expectations. Listen to theirs. Be flexible until you both can make it work. Do that, and you’ll look up, and it’s been 20 years already.”
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Gems. Pure gems, y’all.
You know, popular consultant Barbara De Angelis once said, “Marriage is not a noun; it’s a verb. It isn’t something you get. It’s something you do. It’s the way you love your partner every day.” And love? Love is a choice.
And so, whether you’re married, engaged, or simply desire marriage in the future, hopefully, these tips will help you to choose how you love your spouse (or future spouse)…better.
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