This week in pop culture, so much sh*t went down, but amongst those things was the long awaited debut of Cardi B's "Money" music video.


I think I speak for myself and the rest of the world when I say I wasn't ready for the life I got from Cardi's video. I'm pretty sure sis impregnated me with the supply of life she delivered throughout the three minute video — so now you know what's up when I begin referring to Belcalis as Madonna from here on out (well, you get where I'm going with this).

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If you were watching the video, you know she did her thing, showing off all ten of her looks that kill and then some. But if you were watching close, you peeped that this video was a visual representation of something more. It was a visual representation of how women's bodies, sexuality, ambitions, and outward persona are allowed to be evolved and multifaceted. People raised hell when Cardi was twerking whilst still pregnant with baby Kulture, but that incident and this video are a reminder that the women we are prepartum doesn't have to change due to the expectations placed upon us once we officially enter motherhood.

Cardi B/YouTube

The video was a f*ck off to the patriarchy as it bluntly showed that women's bodies are not to be overtly sexualized by men, while being unforgiving when the woman herself chooses to play an active part in her sexuality. Especially to the extent that inconveniences women and their children who wish to eat without subtly suffocating as they try to chug their lunch under a musty burping clothes. No, Cardi is not with the sh*ts, as she breastfeeds baby Kulture in designer — a visual that again goes to the fact that we are multifaceted and don't have time to be bogged down by these ridiculous expectations.

If a boss b*tch is on the move, busy living her best boss life she doesn't have time to stuff herself in a bathroom stall to feed her child and she should not have to.

The hilarious part is that the bare female nipple and ass being toted around the video will be embraced by our patriarchal society at large before the breastfeeding scenes, and if that's not telling of the insanity we live amongst then I'm not sure what is. I feel confident that change is coming as Cardi's video comes on the heels of actress Rachel McAdams doing a Versace photoshoot with a breast pump attached to her teat and other celebrities being more visible about what a modern day mom looks like. Not only is it time to normalize breastfeeding but it's time to get real about who women should and can be after they have children — kill this "mom jean" rhetoric because we don't have to be that if that is not who we wish to be.

At the end of the day, we are bad bitches and freaks (who like to "shake a lil ass"), career women and posh fashionistas who also happen to be mothers. We are not limited to one title.

We've been doing this sh*t since the beginning of time — multitasking, multitalented, and multifaceted we have always been.

But threatened by the forces that we are, society continuously tries to banish us to a dark corner of shame, but that's not our cross to bear, ladies. It's our time to sparkle and be our beautiful, great selves. If it's one thing I took away from money, it's that! Right along with the fact that both Cardi and I like morning sex but we like money even more. But, I digress.

Cardi B/YouTube

If Cardi and other women, celebrities and otherwise, keep doing it for the culture, we'll keep making strides to change culture as we know it.

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