Bresha Webb Thinks Men Are Gold Diggers Too
For the first time in my life, I'm on salary and have disposable income at my fingertips.
Needless to say, since I've experienced this pay increase, I've been more selective of the men I date. I am no longer satisfied with a 2 for $20 meal from Applebee's on a first date. I will no longer accept men who don't care to show me I'm worth an over-the-top dinner from some restaurant that I can't pronounce, and there's no shame in my game. Regardless of what J-Lo and her bodacious cakes have to say about it, my love costs many things.
So often black women who seek men of a certain stature are labeled golddiggers, but the truth is, millennial men ain't messing with no broke women either. I know my worth and add tax, but unfortunately, my slim selection of modern-day suitors always try to swindle me for a cheap deal. According to Bresha Webb's latest interview on The Breakfast Club, I'm not the only one that feels this way.
On Marlon, Bresha plays a God-loving gold digger, but she told Charlamagne that her real life presented a very different narrative. When Charlamagne asked if she had ever dated a man for money, she had this to say:
"You know what, I'm trying to get there. I've done my time with negroes with potential, and I really think I need to do better. So yeah, I would love to dig up the gold, because right now, I'm just getting coal."
"I have sewed many a seed with these negroes."
Dating a man with potential is all fun and games until he harvests the fruits of your labor and keeps them for himself. She continued:
"The worst experience is really seeing the fruits of what you thought was going to become something and then it doesn't and it just fizzles out. And then you've just put all this money out there like, 'we're doing this together,' and then it's like, 'no, its not. It was me'."
Relationships are all about sacrifice and investment, two concepts that Bresha has become very familiar with in her dating life.
"I really think we're going to be Beyonce and Jay-Z. I come in the game like we are going to take over the world. Because I'm a believer. I want you to find your hope in me, we can build together."
Like many of us, the Night School actress said that she went in to relationships ready to build, but later found that there was never a solid foundation to begin with. Bresha reminded us that no matter how much you invest in a man's potential, it wont pay off unless he has the will to succeed. She said:
"There's been many a singer, a songwriter, screenwriter that you'll never know, no one will ever know."
"They didn't believe in themselves to blow up. I think a lot of people have potential to be great. But if you don't take the extra step in believing in yourself to do it. Someone else can lead you to the water, because you have the talent and the gift to get to the water but you gotta be able to drink it. And if you ain't able to drink and swallow it, you ain't gone make it."
Preach Bresha, preach.
How many of us have found ourselves in Bresha's position? Recognizing our value but offering discounted prices in the name of "potential". I'm not saying a man has to be rich to get with me, but it isn't gold-digging if he matches my hustle.
Check out the full interview below:
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ItGirl 100 Honors Black Women Who Create Culture & Put On For Their Cities
As they say, create the change you want to see in this world, besties. That’s why xoNecole linked up with Hyundai for the inaugural ItGirl 100 List, a celebration of 100 Genzennial women who aren’t afraid to pull up their own seats to the table. Across regions and industries, these women embody the essence of discovering self-value through purpose, honey! They're fierce, they’re ultra-creative, and we know they make their cities proud.
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THE ITGIRL MEMO
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It’s spring, and it’s time to blossom into our favorite pastel nail colors. We can finally part ways with dark, neutral tones, looking forward to colors that make us feel lighter in spirit. Spring is a time to lighten the mood with floral designs and other aesthetics. Soon, our social media feeds will be filled with tons of nail inspiration, giving us many options. However, we can also understand how time-consuming it can be to find the perfect nail design.
We’ve collected 10 of the trendiest nails for every aesthetic. Warning: choosing one of these designs may cause every girl to ask you where you got your nails inspo from. In those moments, it’s advised to remember us. You’ve been warned.
Subtle Pastel Girlie
So, if you want to ease into your pastel colors, we get it. This nail art is perfect for getting into the nail season without fully committing. We love the subtle flower design with nude undertones. This color palette is ideal for anyone looking to keep their “clean girl aesthetic” without being too dull. If the solid pink color is still too much for your liking, try opting for nude on all the nails and allowing the two floral design to have their moment. There are many ways to get into the season without stepping outside our comfort zone.
Chrome Flower Girl
This nail design is an absolute show-stopper! Make everyone blind every time you wave hello with this incredible chrome art. This design is unique because of the gorgeous mix of purples, pinks, and yellows. This design is for the girl ready to move on from winter and enter her “spring girl era.” As if the colors alone weren’t enough, the two floral designs are the icing on this already captivating work of art. Live spring out loud with this masterpiece!
Yellow Mellow
Yellow is a signature spring color. This design honors the season with various yellows, making it stand out. Each pigment adds contrast to the design. This color scheme makes us want to break up with the typical nude aesthetic that has been around for way too long. Move forward and be the spotlight with the incredible yellow design.
Short But Mighty
Calling all of my short-nail girls! Yes, the rumors are true - we can have fun too. Short nails get a bad rap for not being as flashy as long nails. This design put those rumors to rest with its adorable pastel nail aesthetic. We love the hint of green complimented with pink floral nail art. This design is fun, classic, and refreshing for the upcoming season. Must have short nails for your job? No problem! Don’t lose out on feeling like that girl with this not-so-subtle nail art.
Pastel Anyone?
Gorgeous, gorgeous girls wear pastels! Can’t pick one pastel color for your next nail appointment? No worries! The beauty of nail art is that there are no rules. You can wear each pastel color on your fingertips with no regrets. This nail design proves just that with its impeccable color scheme matched with chrome to make things more interesting. Don’t stress yourself trying to find a design or pick a color. Do it all! You only live once, after all.
French Tip With A Twist
We love a classic white French tip as much as the next person, but in 2024, we are stepping it up! This pastel French tip will have all the girls screaming. Become mesmerized by the swirls of pinks, blues, and yellows across your tips. With this nail design, you’ll have anyone under your spell.
Easter Treat
Easter isn’t over until we say it’s over! This adorable Easter-inspired design will have you leaping into spring. Just look at those cute bunnies complimented with Easter eggs! The colors, design, and festive aesthetic have us jumping for joy. This design also has a nice balance of nudes, which can be great for anyone who wants to have fun with their nails and stay committed to neutral tones. This design has something everyone can appreciate, from the nail art girlie to the neutral girlie.
Simple Spring Chic
We have the perfect nail inspiration for you if you want to keep things clean and classic. This simple nail color eases into the season while still maintaining a classic touch. Let your jewelry be the glam when rocking this clean nail color.
Flower Girl
This design truly captures spring without words. From the colors to the flowers, there isn’t a part of this design that isn’t refreshing. The hues of pink alone give us soft girl Barbie vibes. Let your hands do all the talking with this perfect nail art.
Seeing Things Clearly
Finally, winter is behind us, and the spring sun allows us to see things clearly - just like this nail design! Clear nails have not gotten enough respect until now. These gel x clear spring nails are all you need to set the tone for the season. Colorful flowers are the main vocal point of the design while remaining simple. This design is a breath of fresh air we’ve all been waiting for. Welcome to spring!
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