This Is What Your Astrology Says About Your Relationship Wants And Needs


If you’re an astrology buff like me, by now you may know the basics of sign compatibility. If you’re a Scorpio, you should date a Cancer and avoid an Aquarius or if you’re an Aries, you should get with a Leo and not even think about a Capricorn (or so they say). However, what if as a Scorpio you discover that you have an Aquarius Moon and find out you actually dig that rebellious Aquarius and Cancers may be a little bit too sensitive for you? Or how about being the Aries that’s actually turned off by Leo, because your Venus is in Pisces and you’re attracted to someone who makes you the center of attention?

Well that’s how Moon and Venus signs can work.

In astrology, just like we have a Sun sign (the zodiac sign indicated by the month and day of your birth), we also have a number of other signs (like a Moon Sign, Rising sign, etc.) that work simultaneously within our birth charts influencing what we like and what we don’t like. When it comes to our love lives, our Moon and Venus signs are just two pieces of our birth charts that indicate what we need and desire in a happy, healthy relationship. By honoring or making room for these pieces of ourselves, we make less room for any one size fits all approaches to love. For me, finding out that my Moon and Venus were in two different signs allowed me to see that while what I need and what I want are seemingly dissimilar, it doesn’t mean either choice is bad.

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If you don’t know your Moon and Venus signs, you can visit, and enter in your birth details.

Your Moon sign represents your emotional style, showing what you need to feel nurtured, loved, and supported while your Venus signs represent what you love, highlighting what you deem pleasurable, attractive, and valuable about someone else.

Read below to see what your Moon and Venus say about your relationship needs:

Aries (March 21 - April 19)

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Moon in Aries, you need: Authentic (translation: explosive) expressions of emotion between you and your lover. P.s. Your neighbors probably can’t stand it.

Venus in Aries, you want: The person that can match your thirst for passion and balls to the wall adventure will keep your engine running.

Taurus (April 20 - May 21)

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Moon in Taurus, you need: Someone you can build a home with is what moves you deep down at your core. That and cookies. Cookies are good.

Venus in Taurus, you want: That special person with whom you can wine, dine, and make it last forever like Keith Sweat.

Gemini (May 21 - June 21)

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Moon in Gemini, you need: A partner (or several) who gets your innate need to experience, taste, and do just about anything (or anyone) that crosses your path.

Venus in Gemini, you want: The lover (or several) who won’t bore you to tears.

Cancer (June 22 - July 22)

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Moon in Cancer, you need: Someone you can share all the feels with—anywhere, anytime.

Venus in Cancer, you want: Someone who will share all the feels with you—anywhere, anytime. Warm couch and warm tea are a bonus.

Leo (July 23 - August 22)

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Moon in Leo, you need: Someone who will put some respeck on your name and keep it there.

Venus in Leo, you want: An over-the-top romantic, a concierge, a dance partner, and a die-hard fan all wrapped up into one well-dressed package.

Virgo (August 23 - September 22)

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Moon in Virgo, you need: Someone who’s willing to put some work into this relationship too (dammit).

Venus in Virgo, you want: An expert, caring, and capable Dom/Domme looking for the perfect submissive for long term love.

Libra (September 23 - October 22)

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Moon in Libra, you need: Your other half.

Venus in Libra, you want: The charming, witty, level-headed person who won’t embarrass you in public. Ever.

Scorpio (October 23 - November 21)

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Moon in Scorpio, you need: Let’s just say that if you wrote a book about your ideal relationship, no one would be surprised at the title “F*ck, Marry, Kill”.

Venus in Scorpio, you want: When it all comes down to it, only a lover you can possess will do. Collar optional.

Sagittarius (November 22 - December 21)

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Moon in Sagittarius, you need: A bae who feeds your sense of joie de vivre, s’il vous plait.

Venus in Sagittarius, you want: A lover who can continuously take you somewhere/teach you something new. Frequent flyer miles a must.

Capricorn (December 22 - January 19)

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Moon in Capricorn, you need: A committed, lifelong partner that’s willing to give 110% percent to the partnership as per your agreement.

Venus in Capricorn, you want: A committed, lifelong partner that’s willing to give 110% percent to the partnership as per your agreement. See also: quality, class, and style.

Aquarius (January 20 - February 18)

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Moon in Aquarius, you need: Someone that respects your need to do as you f*cking well please.

Venus in Aquarius, you want: An on-off romance with the weirdo of your dreams with whom you can rage against the machine.

Pisces (February 19 - March 20)

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Moon in Pisces, you need: Someone you can be vulnerable with, without fear or guilt. Okay, maybe just a little guilt.

Venus in Pisces, you want: A soul mate.

What does your Moon and Venus say about your relationship wants and needs? Let us know below!


Mecca Woods is a New York City-based Astrologer and Transformation Coach working to help others to claim and create a life they truly want. You can find her at

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