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10 Ways To Fall In Love With Valentine’s Day If You’re Single
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10 Ways To Fall In Love With Valentine’s Day If You’re Single


It never fails. Every year, I personally know women who claim that they couldn't care less about Valentine's Day. But then, right around the day before it, they are either complaining about not having a date or they're offering up some "thou doth protest too much" speech about how it's a commercialized holiday that isn't worth the hype.

Me? I promise you I can't tell you the last time I was in a relationship or went out on Valentine's Day. As a marriage life coach, I actually dig the background story about St. Valentine being a man who was martyred for marrying couples when it was against the law (it's kind of a long story but you can read more about it here). And as far as not getting any roses or candy, honestly, I'm cool.

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I think it's because I have found ways to celebrate the love I have for myself — not just on February 14 but all year long. After all, Buddha was so on point when he said, "You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." Indeed I do. You do too.

So whether Valentine's Day has a tendency to send you into a space of mild hysteria or you try your best to not give it any energy at all, I've got a different recommended approach. See it as an opportunity to love on yourself in an extra special way by doing one or all 10 of the following suggestions. That way, should someone special come along in the future, he'll just be joining in on the love party that you've already been throwing for yourself — all along!

10 Ways To Celebrate Valentine's Day If You're Single

1.Have Your Own Spa Day

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Whether you decide to take a personal day on Valentine's Day or you'd prefer to wait until the following weekend rolls around, you can never go wrong with treating yourself to a spa day. If money is tight, hop onto sites like Groupon and RetailMeNot for promo codes that can earn you some pretty impressive discounts.

By the way, did you know there are even some spas/resorts that have earned the reputation for especially catering to singles? Some of them include The Broadmoor at Colorado Springs (Colorado Springs, CO), The Ballantyne Hotel & Lodge (Charlotte, NC) and The Mirror Lake Inn Resort Spa (Lake Placid, NY).

2.Do A “Secret Cupid” Gift Exchange With Your Girlfriends

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Who said that Secret Santa is the only one who pops up with random anonymous presents? Add your own spin to it by convincing some of your girlfriends to give out some Secret Cupid gifts instead. Put a price cap of no more than $20-25 and give the gift-giving a theme like "How to Get Over Your Ex" or "Something to Make You Feel Sexy". It's super thoughtful and can also be a lot of fun too!

3.Go On A Bestie Date With A Guy Friend

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Let's see how much of a throwback R&B fan you are. Although most people think of "Just Got Paid" when they think of Johnny Kemp, one of my favorite songs was "One Thing Led to Another". A part of the hook says, "The best of friends can be lovers after all."

I ain't tryin' to get nothin' started but if you and your male bestie are both single this year, you're probably gonna be on the phone most of the night anyway. Why not take each other out to dinner instead? At the very least, it'll be a nice distraction. At the most, the ambiance and candlelight just might cause the two of you to see things…umm…differently.

4.Buy Yourself Some New Lingerie

OK, so guess how often you should replace your bras and panties. You ready? Every six months! Be honest, you know you've got some underwear that has been with you for at least a couple of years at this point. Even if you don't exactly have a man to show off a new teddy for, that doesn't mean you shouldn't adorn yourself with some new pieces.

Victoria's Secret is cool but honestly, some of the best lines are Black-owned. Nubian Skin, Being U, Beautifully Undressed, Suzy Black Lingerie and dbleudazzled all have items that are super sexy for every skin tone.

5.Make Your Own Wine Or Champagne

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If every Valentine's Day, all you can think about is taking a few shots and going to sleep, at least make it the kind of drink that will put a smile on your face. Believe it or not, it's pretty easy to make your own wine and champagne. For wine, all you need is some water, Brewer's yeast, frozen juice, a big jug and a plastic tube (click here for a few easy recipes). But if you really want to get fancy, try this Elderflower Champagne recipe instead.

(By the way, you can get some pretty affordable empty wine bottles on Amazon.)

6.DIY Some Dark Chocolate Beauty Products

Dark chocolate and Valentine's Day go hand in hand whether you're booed up or not. It's loaded with antioxidants; it also lowers your blood pressure, protects your skin from UV rays and has a good amount of fiber, iron, copper, magnesium, and zinc in it as well.

While women in relationships may end up with a box of chocolates, I can one-up them on that.

Make some DIY dark chocolate beauty products from the comfort of your own home. Click here to make your own chocolate chip lip gloss, here for an exfoliating scrub, here for some face masks, here for a souffle body butter and (one of my personal favorites) here for a chocolate milk bath.

7.Invest In A Chef For A Night

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If you'd like nothing more than to enjoy a full course meal at a high-end restaurant but you don't want to sit in the midst of a sea of couples blowing kisses at each other or men proposing to their beloved, skip the dining traffic and eat in.

Whether it's by yourself or with a couple of single friends, hire a chef to come and cook at your home. You can dress up and light some candles or put on comfy clothing and watch your favorite rom-coms while you eat the food that's been especially prepared for you.

8.Get Yourself A Piece Of Jewelry

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It seems like there is always a new trend buzzing. Right now, it's single women who are opting to wear what they are calling the anti-engagement ring. It's basically a gemstone ring that's worn on the pinky finger that represents self-love.

If this piques your curiosity but you'd prefer to wear anything but a diamond, Etsy features jewelry in just about any kind of gemstone you can think of! Just to get you started — apatite awakens your sense of clarity, red jasper represents healing and security, calcite releases negativity and grief, labradorite elevates your sense of consciousness and celestite supports the urge to reconcile with a lost love or broken friendship.

9.Sign Up For A Single’s Box

Subscription boxes are currently all the rage. One that I particularly like is offered on Izzy & Liv's site (it's called the Brown Sugar Box). Another that's pretty popular is the Single Swag box. For around $40 a month, you can receive 6-7 different items (like treats, jewelry, and organic products) delivered directly to your front door.

10. Treat Yourself To A Bed and Breakfast

Something that I'm super fond of is a good bed and breakfast. So many of them have such a personalized touch (and great food) that I'd choose them over a lot of standard hotels any day! If you've never been to one before, there's no time like the present to book your first reservation. If you feel a little weird about going alone, don't. Many bed and breakfasts are so accommodating to us singles that they customize discounts so that we can keep a few dollars in our pockets.

Happy Valentine's Day, sis!

Happy Valentine's Day, sis!

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